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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional instructor, who writes heart-wrenching emotional texts, hoping to bring you some spiritual comfort with warm words.
Nowadays, it is a common phenomenon for men and women to live together after falling in love.
In fact, this is not casual, but something that happens naturally when the relationship between the two parties reaches a certain level.
If a man and a woman who truly love each other has the determination to join the marriage, living together is just trial marriage before marriage.
However, in reality, some men and women do not have the determination to get married and easily have intimate relationships, which brings great hidden dangers to the relationship between the two parties.
Men may not care. They break up and can find a partner to fall in love and get married in the future.
However, for women, once they have experienced cohabitation, it may cause great trouble and obstacles to choosing a spouse.
Because people can accept men who have lived together, but they have deep prejudice against women. They always feel that women who have lived together do not love themselves, and even say that they are not clean.
It can be seen that secular prejudice is the greatest unfairness to women. Even if it is not the woman’s fault, it will be labeled as disrespectful and self-love.
So, will a man marry a woman he has lived with? He interviewed three men and told the truth.
1. Mr. Liu: The women who have lived together are not clean and are not worth marrying
Mr. Liu is 28 years old this year, graduated from undergraduate studies, has a decent job, and had a girlfriend before, but they broke up after two years of love.
The reason is that Mr. Liu found that his girlfriend had had cohabitation experience, and he could not accept it at all, so he had to bear the pain to leave.
Mr. Liu said that a woman who lived together before marriage means she has great disrespect for her husband in the future. Such a woman has long been unclean and is not worth marrying.
Therefore, Mr. Liu has always wanted to find a clean woman, hoping that love and marriage will be clean, so that he can feel at ease.
Moreover, he said that he is a very honest man, he does not have much emotional experience, and has relatively high requirements for women.
He can accept that women have poor conditions and cannot accept that women have mediocre appearance, but he cannot accept that women have had experience of cohabitation.
So, a man like Mr. Liu may not be able to accept that women have lived together and will feel very disgusted.
No matter how much they love a woman, as long as they find out that the woman lives together, they will definitely stop the loss in time.
Their reasons are very realistic. Women who have lived together give their best love to their ex-boy without reservation, and their body and mind are no longer pure. This is the greatest injustice and disrespect to their later husbands.
In their opinion, why should women give their exes the best emotions and deserve to "take over"?
If they are asked to pay high bride gifts, as well as economic costs such as RVs and , but they are unwilling to marry a "second-hand" woman, they feel unwilling to accept it and feel that it is not worth it.
Therefore, for most men, they will not accept women who have lived together. Even if they are beautiful, they will give up. This is the cruel reality.
2. Mr. Shen: A woman who has lived together is equivalent to a second marriage, so I am not stupid
Mr. Shen is 29 years old this year, he works in an ordinary job, and his conditions are average. He had a girlfriend before, but both parties had a disagreement in their personalities and broke up. He was single since then.
Moreover, he has participated in many blind dates, but has never found a suitable partner. He thinks that those blind date girls are too picky and cannot date.
Despite this, Mr. Shen also hopes to find a woman with pure feelings and does not accept that women have had experience of cohabitation.
Mr. Shen said bluntly that a woman who has lived together is equivalent to a second marriage. He is not that stupid. It is impossible to marry such a woman.
Therefore, the important condition for Mr. Shen to choose a spouse is to require women to have never lived together. In his opinion, it is nothing if a woman has been in love, but living together means not loving herself.
A woman like this has neither pure body nor mind, and her relationship is too complicated, and it is no different from a second marriage. She cannot "take over".
So, for men like Mr. Shen, it is difficult for them to accept women living together.
If women have experience of living together before marriage, it means that they have tried everything and given the most precious things to others, which has become cheap.
Based on this mentality of men, they will not find a partner to live in love or blind dates, and will stay away once they find out.
Furthermore, many men are worried that women will have some connection with their ex. In order to avoid being "green" in the future, they will definitely stop the loss in time before marriage.
Therefore, no matter what the men's own conditions are, no matter whether they have been in love or not, they will not choose a woman who has lived together.
They agreed that the woman who lived together was no different from the second marriage, and they were very disgusted and despised in their hearts and could not marry her home.
3. Mr. Li: Only women give their sincerity, can also accept
Mr. Li is 35 years old this year, an older left-handed man. After going on blind dates for more than a dozen times, he finally found a suitable partner.
Mr. Li has relatively good conditions, with a monthly income of about 50,000 yuan, which is a small achievement. He is very mature and has a very pertinent attitude towards marriage and love.
Mr. Li said that it doesn’t matter whether a woman has lived together. What’s important is whether a woman can give her sincerity. If she can take it sincerely in her future relationship, then she can accept it.
At the beginning, he also wanted to find a young and beautiful little girl, but found that these little girls had very high requirements, and instead disliked his age and conditions, so he never dared to pursue the little girl.
Later, during a blind date, I met many girls and thought that mature girls were more reliable, so I chose a 30-year-old leftover woman.
After Mr. Li got along with his girlfriend, he knew that she had two love experiences and had lived together for two years, but he did not think she didn't love herself because she was very sincere and loved her very honestly, and he didn't mind her past.
So, in reality, there are many men like Mr. Li who treat women fairly and can respect them.
In their opinion, whether a woman has lived together is not the most important thing. On the contrary, they value women's subsequent attitude towards marriage and love and whether they can give their sincerity.
As long as a woman has a positive outlook, can give her sincere and interact with her honesty, she can accept it.
Furthermore, a woman’s past is already a thing of the past, so there is no need to just be entangled. If you are truly in love, you should not judge the quality of a woman by living together.
In fact, when women live together, men often take the initiative. If they prejudice to think that this is all the women’s fault and say that they do not love themselves is too prejudiced.
If a man truly loves a woman, basically will not be too entangled in the past of a woman. They love the woman itself, not the layer of "film" . This is the attitude of a man like Mr. Li.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
In summary, everyone's opinions on whether a man will marry a woman who has lived together are different, and it needs to be judged based on the actual situation.
Some men cannot accept women who have lived together, thinking that they do not respect themselves and love themselves, which is not clean, which is equivalent to a second marriage. They are more disgusted and will definitely not be able to date.
However, some men are usually reasonable and respect women relatively, and think it doesn't matter whether they have lived together or not. As long as they can sincerely deliver, they are willing to fall in love and get married.
In fact, to a certain extent, when a woman has lived together, the main responsibility should be on the man. If a man can be responsible to the woman and does not break up casually after living together, there will be no subsequent entanglement.
It is precisely because men are casual in their relationships and have no promises of marriage to women that women are let down and hurt, and they are treated unfairly in their later relationships.
So, I hope some men can understand that A woman is willing to live with you must be because she loves you. If you can’t give her the marriage she wants and cannot be responsible, please don’t hurt.
At the same time, it also reminds women to cherish themselves and refuse to live together before they fully see the true feelings of men.
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