Introduction:
Tu Lei Once said: The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a kind of interest relationship that each takes the necessary interests under the guise of family affection . So, don't try to make one party change and sacrifice for the other party, because no one has this obligation. clearly called "Mom", but could not be regarded as "Mom". He clearly called her nickname as affectionately as a daughter, but could not be regarded as a daughter. This is indeed a bit embarrassing.
Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been the most difficult relationship to get along with.
Nowadays, young people seem to give birth to children for the elderly. They just want to give birth to them, and leave the "raising" they give birth to the elderly. hopes that their mother-in-law can raise themselves and raise their grandson together.
Especially after the second child is released, many young people who are firstborns are girls, and they also think about the fact that "children are in pairs". When they are born, has made provisions with their mother-in-law, not only asking for money, but also being too excessive. They actually took advantage of the opportunity of taking care of the children to let their mother live with their mother-in-law.
The daughter-in-law of Aunt Zhou, 65, in the community, is such a daughter-in-law. Aunt Zhou is really angry. She feels that her daughter-in-law is a bit too old. If she doesn't have a second child, she has proposed three conditions. The first two can be discussed, but the last one is impossible. I am used to living alone and don't like to live with unfamiliar people.
Contributor: 65-year-old Aunt Zhou
devoted all her life to her son and held a perfect wedding
I am Aunt Zhou, I am 65 years old this year, and my wife has been away for 3 years. Now she lives alone in the three-bedroom old house in the living area of the unit.
I only have one son. I had other ideas for his marriage back then. It’s not that I look down on my daughter-in-law, but that my son is so outstanding that he should find an only child with a comparable family condition, so that their lives will be relatively better.
However, the son said that he would never marry his daughter-in-law in this life. There was no way. He bought the full amount of the wedding house in advance, with a bride price of 100,000 yuan, plus a meeting gift and clothes and jewelry of 50,000 yuan. Holding a banquet was another big sum of money.
My wife and I also gave our son everything we could to have a wedding that he was satisfied with and daughter-in-law was satisfied with. After they got married, we also funded the purchase of a car.
My son got married, and my wife and I were slimming our clothes and dieting to save our pension money. I also found a job for myself outside to save more pension money.
granddaughter who has been with my son for 5 years
has not had two comfortable years. My daughter-in-law is pregnant. My son cares very much and asks me not to work anymore. I cook a meal for my daughter-in-law every day. The place where he goes to work is far away and he goes out early and comes back late. The distance between my family and my son's house is convenient.
I was not so spoiled when I was pregnant and having a baby. Who knew that the young people today had poor physical condition or were too spoiled? Anyway, my son gave the order, for their little life, then do it.
Who knew that this would take 5 years. Only when my son rests on weekends can I go back to my home to rest. The rest of my life is spent working, either taking care of the children, cooking, and cleaning the house.
Since I started cooking for my pregnant daughter-in-law, and they took the initiative to tell me what ingredients to buy every day. I posted my own pension and my wife’s salary.
Tomorrow or accident, no one knows which one will arrive first. On a stormy day, my wife left in a traffic accident. Although she lost a lot of money, I also lost the companion who cared for me. I was the saddest during that period.
Fortunately, my son, daughter-in-law and granddaughter need me, so my life has gradually improved. Through working, the pain in my heart has dissipated, but I have fallen into the root of my illness and I have a very light sleep. I often can't sleep for a night.
After my granddaughter went to kindergarten, I went back to my home to live alone, and my granddaughter's mother took over the pick-up and drop-off. I know that this is my daughter-in-law who specially brought her out of her hometown to support her in order to be filial to her mother.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with this, but I feel a little sad. When I was the most difficult time, I did it alone, and the child could say he could leave, and she came to pick the fruits.
The daughter-in-law gave birth to a second grandson, and proposed three conditions
Some time ago, the daughter-in-law gave birth to a second grandson, and did it in the confinement center when she went to the confinement period. After she came back, she proposed three conditions to me. I felt speechless. Everyone is a delicate egoist, and she ignores other people's ideas for her own interests, which makes me very angry.
The daughter-in-law first opened the remarks like this: Mom, you see, I have given birth to a grandson for your family and need a year off. Do you compensate me for this loss? You said that your waist and legs are not good now and you can’t take care of your grandson, so let my mother help me take care of it, but I have three conditions to tell you.
1. You compensate me for my annual salary of 80,000 yuan in one lump sum.
2. You can help us pay half of all the expenses for your grandson. Now your son’s salary is much lower. There is a daughter at home and my mother does not have social security and medical insurance, so our life is more difficult.
3. You asked my mother to live with you. Even if you join and support , my mother will not have to go back to her hometown to live alone in the future. I feel at ease.
I wanted to have an attack at that time, and I scolded my son for being blind and looking for such a calculating wife. I don’t know how to calculate by my daughter-in-law in the future?
In order to relieve my violent temper, I walked on the balcony several times, In-law holding the child without saying anything, and my son was not at home . When my mood recovered, I calmly said to my daughter-in-law:
First of all, I can't satisfy you either of these three items. I have given you 10,000 yuan to you for giving birth to a child; secondly, my monthly pension is for my own pension, not for you; in the end, I don't need to join anyone in my old age. I am used to living alone and don't want to have a stranger in my life.
The daughter-in-law may have postpartum anxiety. She roared to me and said, "I'm not going to work just to give birth to a grandson for your family?" How can you be so selfish? I didn't want to quarrel with my daughter-in-law, so I got up and picked up my bag, said hello to my mother-in-law and left.
Later, my son returned to my house and said to me: Mom, don’t be angry. Xiaoli (the name of her daughter-in-law) is also anxious. Our unit has cut salary during this period, and we are still thinking about changing a school district house, so she is a little anxious and anxious. Don’t take the money for . As for my mother-in-law, you should not live with her. Those are the words of Brother Xiaoli. They think that if you live in such a big house, letting Xiaoli’s mother be your companion is a cover. In fact, it just wants us to support her mother.
It has to be said that my son felt sorry for his old mother. After his son's persuasion, I transferred 30,000 yuan to my son, and agreed that my granddaughter would come to live here when she didn't go to kindergarten, but my mother-in-law would never come to live here. It is easy to ask God for God and it is difficult to send him to God.
In fact, I can still understand my daughter-in-law in . I will feel a little anxious and depressed after giving birth to a child. But she proposed these three points to me. I think my mother-in-law also plays a role. So, no matter what, I can't let my mother-in-law live here, otherwise my brother in my hometown will have a place to settle down. Sometimes it is still terrible and too calculating.
is written at the end:
The honesty and sincerity between people are the basis for long-term interactions between each other.
In any relationship, we should first confirm our hearts, recognize ourselves, and then do our duty. If we want to add icing on the cake to this relationship, we need to show sincerity and sincerity, not calculating.
A Japanese lawyer once wrote: "If anyone can come up with a wonderful solution to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he should be awarded Nobel Prize ." You see, you used to think this was just a traditional Chinese problem, but in fact it was already a world-class problem.
Finally, I wish all mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be honest with each other, and can truly live in harmony and fulfill their duties, and be in a family with a sense of determination and boundaries.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
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