Marrying a wife and giving high bride gifts is actually a transaction of marriage, but it is just a matter of using the name of bride gifts. In some places, in traditional understanding, there is an idea that if you save enough money, you can change your wife. This is also the reason why some daughters-in-law who do not want to have a good ending, because the money in the in-laws' family was actually saved, which means that they can change their wives at any time. This is actually extremely unfavorable to the woman. However, this kind of understanding in cities has long disappeared, at least very, very few. In fact, only marriages under this condition can be an equal marriage.
Why do you need a bride gift? Because in rural areas, when a wife gets married home, she is financially subordinate to her in-laws' family, and basically has no other economic relationships such as supporting her mother's family, or there are only a few economic relationships. This is the essence of the problem. In other words, in the rural environment, marriage is actually unilaterally beneficial to the in-laws' family, and the mother's family only has losses. In the countryside, there is also a marriage wife who secretly supports her parents' family, but this is actually not in line with the "tradition" and is also a behavior that her husband hates deeply. But in the city, there is almost no difference in family relationship between the two parties before and after marriage. Even before marriage, there are very few daughters who hand over their income to their family, at least I have never heard of it.
I personally guess that it may be related to the fact that rural women generally do not have stable income. Without stable income, they can only rely on others. The so-called equality between men and women is not necessary to mention it, so they become wealth and are sold out at one time with a bride price.
Rural traditional marriage model is actually temporarily acceptable to both men and women, so pay attention to this point. Because I think traditional rural marriages are still difficult to resolve economically in the short term. At least it still has a certain rationality. Without sufficient confidence, it can only be appropriately improved and should not act rashly, otherwise it will have a great adverse impact on society. For example, the issue of transnational marriage . In fact, the attitudes of cities and rural areas are very different when it comes to transnational marriages. Cities basically will not accept transnational marriages because there are many restrictions on transnational marriages. Basically, foreign brides cannot work after marriage, which is basically unbearable in cities, and neither the man nor the woman can accept them. But it is generally acceptable in rural areas. In addition, some rural men may be more tolerant of women who depend on them, but in cities there are relatively fewer cases.
At least in my opinion, the problem of bride gifts in rural areas is related to the unreasonable marital status in rural areas and is also related to the lack of long-term and stable source of living for rural women. For this traditional marriage model, it can be gradually improved without being overly radical, unless it can solve the elderly care problems and life care problems of the mother's family, and there are also the income source problems of the vast number of rural unemployed women
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