Borrow gift refers to the fact that after the relationship between a man and a woman is basically determined, according to local customs and customs, the man gives the woman a certain amount of cash or property before marriage to express his sincerity in entering into a marriage with the other party. In our country, bride prices have been available from ancient times to the present. Even now, the state still does not legally recommend them, but does not prohibit them. It is only proposed to carry out special governance of prominent issues in key areas such as high-priced brides and other key areas for changing customs and customs. So, here is an emotionally tangled topic: Should the bride price be left to your parents or take it away by yourself?
Although there are no clear provisions on the right to possess the bride price in terms of laws and regulations, the bride price is the money given to the woman before marriage, so its right to possess should belong to the woman's personal property before marriage. How to deal with it should be decided by the woman personally. However, in reality, perhaps most girls themselves cannot make decisions, but their parents decide whether to stay or not, especially in the vast rural areas. This is especially true.
Many female parents will keep all or most of the bride price. In fact, some female parents are not old and are even at the age of the bride price, and they also have strong ability to work, work, and make money, but they will still keep the bride price as their own pension money or other purposes. In this way, it is impossible for a girl to bring the bride price back to the man's house. However, when encountering such parents who value money more and are not able to take into account their daughter's future happiness, their daughter often has no choice, so she is in a dilemma, helpless and entangled.
From the actual situation of the current dowry amount, due to different regions and different folk customs, the amount is different, with a large difference, ranging from tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands. Some don’t have a “zero bride gift” for a penny, while others are “sky-high bride gifts” for millions. Therefore, there are also many different ways to deal with the bride price. But overall, as the woman's parents, most of them are the ones who decide the disposal of this money. Moreover, this mainly depends on their ideological and family economic status.
After all, it is "marrying a daughter", and it is definitely not and should never be "selling a daughter". Therefore, parents with open-minded and economic conditions will think about their daughter's future happiness and satisfaction. They will not only hand over all the bride money to their daughter, but also pay their daughter a richer dowry, or even buy a car or a house. Therefore, many parents and daughters have only valued the man's character and did not ask the man for a penny of bride money. This kind of practice of valuing people over money is indeed worth promoting and promoting.
Of course, if the right to dispose of the dowry money belongs to the girl himself, then it can be decided based on the specific situation. For example, the woman's family is well-off and her financial income is also good. For parents, she is not short of money and has prepared a lot of dowry items for herself. Then she can buy some more expensive gifts to honor her parents and thank them for their kindness in raising her. Then take the money away and use it temporarily as your own private money for emergencies and at your own discretion.
If the female family’s financial conditions are poor or very poor, and there are certain difficulties, then most or all of the bride price can be left to her parents. After all, parents raise and educate them with hard work and leave this money to them, which is not only to do their filial piety, but also to leave them a pension to improve their future lives, but also to make themselves feel more at ease after getting married.
To sum up, there is no need to worry too much about whether to leave the bride money to your parents or take it away by yourself. As long as parents are reasonable and sensible people, the woman can decide how to deal with the bride price by herself, then everything is easy to discuss and discuss. It can be treated and handled according to the family situation and the specific situation.As the saying goes, "I feel sorry for parents in the world." All family members can have a prosperous life. Whether they are family or family members, since they are all the same word "home", then the family members will not speak two words. They must not hurt each other's harmony and feelings because of money. What do you think?
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