No child likes to live in other people's homes since childhood, and no adult likes to help others raise children. If you help in the short term, it's okay, but in the long run, no one will be able to accept it.
This is also the fundamental reason why women must own a small house before getting married. They do not want too many housework to affect their married life, nor do they want their life that should have been sweet.
Recently, the experience of a woman in Jiangsu has made many people feel a lot of emotion. Her family of four has been living a hard life, but the burden of the entire family finally fell on the couple. Such a scene instantly made many people feel distressed.
It is reported that the woman has had a second child since she got married, but the married life of four, who should have been happy, was completely disrupted by her predecessors for five years. Due to emotional problems, my brother-in-law and sister-in-law divorced and went out to work alone. Not only did he leave his elderly parents at home, but he also left his two young children at home.
The kind-hearted woman saw this scene and felt that since she was a family, she should not speak the two families. She was also the eldest sister-in-law, so she directly brought her brother-in-law's two children to the home to raise.
I already have two children, and with my brother-in-law's two children, the daily expenses of the four children can only make the woman and her husband work hard day and night to make money. It was a little better at the beginning, but as the children grow older, various living expenses and tuition fees come one after another, and the exponential increase in expenses made the couple not dare to rest for a day.
It is worth noting that in addition to raising 4 children, the couple also live with their parents-in-law. The unmarried sister-in-law is also crowded with her parents, brother and sister-in-law. A large family of 9 people all rely on the couple to make money to support them.
Someone may say that even if a brother-in-law who works outside does not support his parents, he must at least take care of his own children. Since his sister-in-law has helped raise him, he should pay for the daily support expenses!
. In response to this, the woman said that from the beginning, she thought it was just a matter of more than one pair of chopsticks, but who knew that over the years, my brother-in-law never paid monthly support, and only gave it occasionally, so most of the expenses were still to be borne by the woman and her husband.
If it is just a money problem, it is okay. The key is that the children are getting older and older, and they must keep up with their psychological counseling and education, not to mention that they are not their own flesh and blood, but also master the standards and timing. This makes women who are already physically tired feel even more tired.
Many netizens have mixed praises and criticisms about the woman’s experience. Some people think that this woman deserves to be so tired. She is obviously a problem between her parents-in-law and her brother-in-law, but she has to take it away by herself. She can give her two children a better life and future, but she directly gives it to her cousins. Such parents are great, but in the eyes of the children, they are a little selfish.
Some people also think that a big family should not speak two families. Now that my sister-in-law and brother are so kind to their children, don’t they remember it in their hearts? Can’t you remember the old man and the old lady when the two children grow up? Although I am tired now, I am still at the back when I enjoy my happiness.
Actually, normally, such things are other people’s housework. Others have no say except the parties involved. But let's talk about things at the same time. From the perspective of an onlooker, it seems that things will not be as simple as imagined.
First of all, it is most certain for families to have more children to have family marriage, but as long as they are handled properly, there are still not many problems.But the problem facing women now is, does the other party know that they have taken on these heavy responsibilities so much?
You should know that a woman lives with her parents-in-law, so should her brother-in-law occasionally give her living expenses, should she give her parents or women? In other words, does this brother-in-law think that his parents are raising these two children?
If you know that your sister-in-law is helping her parents, then it would be a bit too much to pay for her occasionally. But if I always thought it was my parents who helped raise it, then what the woman did would really mean was a bit like "meat buns to beat dogs".
Things are both sides, and no one knows what the future will be, so there is the saying "Do good things, don't ask about the future."
can only be said that this woman’s approach is great, and as a sister-in-law, she is even more selfless. But for children, whether it is good or bad is really a different matter.
I hope this brother-in-law can read the article and shoulder the responsibilities and burdens on his shoulders as soon as possible. I also hope that this family will be happy forever, because such a scene of unity and love is really too rare.
If it is your wife, do you want your wife to do this? If it were your daughter, would you hope she would choose this way?
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