Nowadays, many of us elderly people will choose to remarry and find a new and old partner after divorce or widowing.

Introduction

Nowadays, many of us elderly people will choose to remarry and find a new and old partner after divorce or being widowed. In their opinion, after remarrying, not only will there be someone to accompany you, but you will also take care of you, so you will naturally live a happy and comfortable life in your later years.

First of all, the idea of us old people is not wrong, and their wishes are not excessive at all. However, when many of us elderly people really remarry, they will find that remarrying for elderly people is not only far from what they imagined, but is even worse and unacceptable than they imagined.

is mainly because the remarriage of the elderly is not only involving one person, but also whether the emotional problems of the two people can reach a high degree of unity; it also means whether the children of both parties can treat the elderly equally after marriage; the most important thing is whether the purpose of remarriage of the two people is the same, etc. If there are any minor problems in between, it is most likely that it will be difficult for the two people to continue living together.

Aunt Cao had previously chosen to remarry like other elderly people, but her subsequent marriage life was very bad, and it was even a bit terrible. Then she finally made the right choice, and she told herself: "It is better to hire a male nanny than to remarry and find a wife. Not only can she enjoy the care and service, but she doesn't have to be angry everywhere!" Let's take a look at Aunt Cao's story together.

66-year-old Aunt Cao's self-report

My surname is Cao, I am 66 years old this year. Now I have a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan, and I also have a 110-square-meter independent housing. Of course, I also saved enough pension money for myself in the bank early. Although my financial conditions are very good, my life is not good at all.

Because my wife died of illness fifteen years ago. Fortunately, my son had already started working at that time and my daughter was admitted to graduate school, so I basically didn’t have much financial burden. Although I was relatively young when my wife passed away, I did not choose to remarry, but lived alone.

10 years ago, I officially retired from my company. Before that, my two children had already gotten married and started a family and had their own family. I originally thought that after retirement, I would help my two children see their children, but they refused to say anything. I knew that the two children were kind-hearted and were afraid that I would be tired of seeing them.

So in the following time, if the weather outside is good, I choose to go out and sing and dance with other elderly people, just to chat and talk to friends. Sometimes, I will also attend a party between colleagues and friends.

If I encounter rainy and snowy weather, or when there is strong wind outside, I can only stay at home and watch TV or play with my mobile phone, but when I do these things alone, I always feel that there is no meaning at all. Therefore, most of the time, I am not sleeping at home, but I always stare at a place in a daze.

When I just retired, I went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables every day and cooked myself. But later I felt that cooking alone had no meaning at all, so in the later time, I chose to go out to eat or order takeaway, and occasionally I would cook by myself at home. Originally, I thought this kind of life was pretty good, and I would do whatever I wanted, and no one cared about being free.

But after a few years, I felt that this kind of life had no meaning at all. The most important thing is that I am so lonely and bored. It’s better during the day or when I’m with many people, but at night, or when I’m alone, this feeling is very strong.

After repeated consideration, I decided to find a remarried partner for myself. I originally would not agree because my two children would not agree, but unexpectedly, when the two children knew that I had this idea, they both agreed. I was naturally extremely happy and relieved to be able to tolerate and understand me.

So later, I went on a blind date, but the effect was not very good. Either I think it was either someone else or others looked down on me. Until Lao Yan appeared later, I thought Lao Yan was the person I was looking for.

The reason why I like Lao Yan is actually very simple. Compared with other people, Lao Yan's financial conditions are very good. He has a monthly pension of 7,000 yuan, a lot of bank deposits, and a whole three houses. Lao Yan is only three years older than me. He looks very energetic and has good image and temperament in all aspects. Lao Yan is also very particular about dressing and dressing, and he is obviously a person who pays great attention to his external image.

So compared with the above, I am most optimistic about Lao Yan's own temper and personality. No matter who he is with, he always smiles, giving people a feeling of spring breeze, which makes me feel very comfortable. After a period of contact, Lao Yan was also very satisfied with me, so later, we officially got married.

When I first got married, I was very satisfied with Lao Yan. He did all the housework alone and never let me interfere. He was responsible for all the living expenses at home alone and did not let me pay a penny. Not only that, Lao Yan also gave me flowers every now and then, or bought other gifts to me, which made him look very gentlemanly and romantic.

But after only more than half a year, Lao Yan finally revealed his true colors. After that, Lao Yan never did the housework very diligently as before. Instead, Lao Yan gave me all the housework. He didn't do anything by himself, so he watched me do it or directed me to do it.

I endured this. The key is that I was obviously very patient and meticulous and did the housework well, but he was still not satisfied. He felt that I had not mopped the floor clean, and then felt that my bathroom was not well organized. In short, no matter what I did, he always picked the bones in the eggs.

In addition, he always tried every means to let me do more for him. He asked me to go out to buy buns for him, and then asked me to go out to buy wine for him. Anyway, I dare not be idle. As long as I am a little idle, he can always find work for me. At this time, I am like a machine, running continuously at high speed.

Not only that, Lao Yan also asked me to share the living expenses with him. I thought that since two people live together, it would be nothing to share the living expenses, so I agreed. But then I realized that I was wrong because most of the living expenses were spent on Lao Yan, and the real amount of what was spent on me was pitiful.

I usually don’t like to eat meat. I like to eat lighter foods, but Lao Yan is just the opposite. He almost always has big fish and meat. It seems that he can’t eat a little without big fish and meat. Sometimes, he will order takeaway Western food, but when I see these things, he has no appetite at all, but he eats with relish. In this way, his daily living expenses are at least 100 or 200 yuan.

Also, Lao Yan has many friends. Usually, they will make an appointment to go to a hotel party every once in a while. Every time they gather, they always eat and drink, and with the expenses of drinking, the expenses for each monthly party are about two or three thousand yuan.

The most important thing is that Lao Yan always smokes good cigarettes, drinks good wine, and buys clothes at brand stores. He basically doesn’t even look at clothes worth four or five hundred yuan, let alone wear them. Even Lao Yan’s hair is at least 1 or 200 yuan. To put it bluntly, Lao Yan knows how to enjoy life very much.

Just this way, our monthly living expenses are sometimes eight or nine thousand, ten thousand, and sometimes more. Originally, I mean that I bear one-third of the living expenses and two-thirds of the living expenses. I think this is fair, but Lao Yan has to share the living expenses with me every time, which makes me feel very dissatisfied.

Originally, I thought it was not easy for the elderly to remarry themselves. I shouldn’t be too petty with him, but my blind tolerance in the end resulted in Lao Yan’s worsening. After

, every weekend or holiday, Lao Yan's two children would bring their families to visit Lao Yan. It was a good thing that they were too busy, but the fact is that every time they came, I would do all the things like buying vegetables, choosing vegetables and cooking, etc.

These people were either chatting or playing with their phones. Even if I was so tired that I couldn't straighten my waist, no one would help me do it. Most of the time they would just say a few polite words. Their behavior of just quarrel almost made my lungs irritated until the next day.

That day, I had just stewed a pot of delicious fish soup. Just as I was serving the fish soup to the dining table, Lao Yan's two grandchildren were playing in the room. They hit me all of a sudden, and the hot fish soup burned them. It was obviously the fault of the two children, but Lao Yan's family scolded me indiscriminately.

Now I really can't tolerate it anymore. I feel that I can't live so humble anymore, let alone be cowardly from them every day. So a week later, I decisively chose to divorce Lao Yu.

Later, I resolutely chose to go back to my home to live, but not long after, my back pain occurred, and I couldn't do anything. Originally, my plan was to let my two children take care of me, but I thought about it carefully and felt that I would not bother my two children. So later, I went to business company to hire a male nanny Xiaowei to take care of myself.

When Xiaowei took care of me, he was very patient, and he would try his best to meet my reasonable requirements. Xiaowei is also very skilled in doing housework. I am very satisfied. The most important thing is that he knows a little bit about preventive health care and health care for the elderly. It is estimated that this is related to his long-term care of the elderly.

Nowadays, Xiaowei has been a nanny for me for four years. To be honest, Xiaowei's arrival has indeed added a lot of color to my old age. Not only is my health much better than before, but my mood is also very good every day, which is much more comfortable than being with Lao Yan before, thanks to Xiaowei.

After experiencing so many things, I now have a feeling, that is, instead of choosing to remarry and find a partner, it is better to spend money to hire a nanny. If I do this, I can enjoy better care and services, and at the same time, I don’t have to be angry, let alone live so humble. So I decided to find a nanny to take care of myself in the future. Only in this way can I most likely live a happy life in my future.