Finding " soul mate " is a wish that many people buried in their hearts, but before meeting her, try to turn the focus back on yourself, no longer ask for "what should my ideal partner look like", but focus on your own diligence and growth, and become your ideal appearance. One day you will find that her.
My wife is my "soul mate"?
Recently I often see the word soul mate, and suddenly I thought I could write a topic about "soul mate".
First, I checked the Internet for "What is a soul mate?"
Wikipedia: Soulmate (English: Soulmate) refers to people who have a deep or natural affinity with them. It can be a similarity, love, romance, friendship, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, or coordination and trust between the two.
Simply put, it means that the body, mind and spirit are in harmony with you.
The body, mind and spirit that I define is:
body, not just "sex", but whether your actions are in a consistent direction;
heart, whether your heart is concerned with each other, and can understand, experience, and tolerate each other's emotions and feelings;
spirit, are you eager for the same deep in your heart the same?
When you are in such a relationship, what wonderful changes will happen between you? Use my wife and I to share it simply.
1. There will be the so-called "chirology response" between you
When you miss her, she happened to contact you; when you want to eat, she just bought it back; she is particularly sensitive to each other's emotions and can immediately detect something wrong.
You will have an indescribable tacit understanding. For example, my wife and I will say the same words and sing the same song inexplicable situations. The inexplicable level is like, we will shout at the same time: "Hello, brothers! A pair of treasures!"
pair, such a nonsensical and unreasonable tacit understanding, we will first look at each other in a daze, and then laugh wildly.
2. You will respect, support and believe each other
. Our relationship is closely connected, but you can also be independent individuals.
We don’t need to bear the “should” because of “identity” and express gratitude and love for each other’s efforts.
In other words, everything we do for each other comes from "love".
On her birthday, there were no cakes, no gifts, no surprises, and no special holiday arrangements. After returning home from work, she only said "Happy Birthday" from her, which was enough.
, she didn't have to spend a lot of effort to prepare anything for me on my birthday, because I had already "concerned" to deduct my birthday gifts for the next five years and bought them all!
This way she can save her worries and what should she give, right?
When she asked me, "What are you buying this?"
I would say, "Please let me explain it to you with a song."
Although she would roll her eyes, she would also cooperate and say, "Happy birthday! Buy it!"
The best love for me, that's it, "You are making a fuss, she is laughing."
3. Your combination has made each other transform into better people, creating a value of 1+1 greater than 2
Encounter, knowing each other, loving each other, cherishing each other, and staying with each other. At each stage, you can feel that you are getting better and better, and it has also made many things that life feels "impossible" in the past, such as becoming a "child's parents". There is a saying that
is very suitable to describe such a relationship, that is:
is not "no way to do without you", but "it is better with you".
We do not care about right or wrong, we only talk about: "What can we do now?"
We do not distinguish responsibility, we only ask: "Then what can I help you?"
As long as it is what the other party wants to do, even if the result is full of uncertainty, we will support it unconditionally, believe that the other party "must be able" and do its best to provide all support, which will make the other party feel tired, or even if it fails, there is still an arm to lie down and a spiritual harbor to rely on.
4. In front of the other party, you can be yourself truthfully
What is your state, what your thoughts, your emotions and feelings can be presented in full and true in front of the other party. She accepts you as you are, she loves you as you are, you don’t have to make any efforts or change, or cater to and please her everywhere, just to make her "love you more".
You are yourself, that's great.
Some people may say, "That's because you are lucky to meet such a woman. Now there are almost no women with these traits!"
Can't my conditions and abilities be worthy of such a woman?
I also thought so in the past. I think a good relationship is very luxurious. Other people’s boyfriends and wives will not disappoint people, and my own is just like that, and I have no dislike.
So when I face a relationship, I put myself in the position of "passenger". I accompany you through a long window period or a difficult process in life. When you get better, I will let go and let you find someone who is more suitable for you.
When facing me with this mentality, I can imagine what kind of experience and results I will have in my emotional journey.
Until, I began to focus on myself and put a lot of effort into myself. I no longer asked "what should my ideal partner look like?", but focused on my diligent growth and becoming my ideal appearance;
I had a harmonious relationship with myself, and successfully had a harmonious relationship with others, and finally had a love that everyone envied.
Many friends say, "I envy you and your wife very much."
I think such envy is not because my wife allows me to enjoy the mountains of gold and silver, and enjoy the delicacies every day, so I can live carefree without hard work;
But we can maintain the simplest, purest and most ordinary happiness and happiness under the pressure of food, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
Every moment you spend with you is a kind of enjoyment.
So, my encounter with her was not "lucky", but "I deserve it".
May everyone know clearly: "I deserve to live the life I long for." I will continue to believe firmly and 100% and wish you a blessing.
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