As the saying goes, "Marriage is destined by heaven, and no one can be controlled by others." A good marriage is hard to come by. Sometimes it must be found in destiny, and no time in destiny should be forced. When facing marriage, we should take the attitude of being content with everything. We should cherish it when we meet it, and get together and part with each other when the fate is over, without having to get too entangled.
However, in ancient times, it was emphasized that "the parents' orders and the matchmaker's words." Most of the marriages of women are arranged by their parents and matchmakers, and in modern society, it is a blind date. Will the marriage be really happy if it is urged to get married? We cannot deny that there are indeed some happy endings, but how it is still like drinking water, you will know the heat and coldness.
A woman from Henan was urged to marry after returning to her village
For example, this woman from Henan encountered the troubles of marriage. She was originally a financially independent, carefree and comfortable girl. During the college entrance examination, I was admitted to an ordinary undergraduate university in Zhengzhou from , my hometown in Henan, and after graduation, I went directly to work locally and became a white-collar worker in the company.
Because of its excellent business processing skills and excellent interpersonal communication skills, women are doing well in the workplace, and everyone has to look respectfully when they see them.
Originally, his career and work in Zhengzhou were developing quite prosperous, but God did not give him any rewards. The market conditions in Zhengzhou became bleak, and the woman was unfortunately laid off by the company. She had nowhere to use her skills and talents. The woman was extremely depressed but could not help but leave Zhengzhou dejectedly and returned to her hometown in Henan to prepare for the New Year.
At this time, the woman was only 25 years old, and she was beautiful and energetic. She looked like a capable girl. The woman originally wanted to treat the time she returned to her hometown as her short vacation time, but she didn't expect that she would be even more depressed after she came back.
After the aunt in the village learned about her unemployment, she tried every means to arrange blind dates for herself, as if she was afraid that she would not be able to get married. The woman was a little puzzled. She was obviously only 25 years old, but why did she seem to be 30 years old?
Of course, the woman herself does not want to get married so early, because she is financially independent and has the ability to make money to support herself. Why do she have to enter the grave of marriage so early? She didn't want her future life to be busy with food, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and she revolved around her family and children.
family members' persuasion
But the woman's family obviously disagrees with the woman's view. They believe that it is normal for a good man to marry at the right age of a woman. Women have a certain period of flowering like flowers. Once the flowering period is over, it is not worth it. If they are delayed, they will not be able to get married. In fact, it is understandable that the older generation has this idea. Most of the people they receive are feudal education, especially those of grandparents. Many of them get married and have children at the age of fifteen or sixteen.
In their eyes, marriage is a major event in life when they reach age, and it is a stage that every life must go through. Taking care of your husband and children is a responsibility that women should fulfill.
So the woman's grandmother gave the woman some thoughtful education. She hoped that her granddaughter would not be chosen anymore. It would be difficult to marry when she was old. If she was picky, a good man might not be able to find him in the end. It would be better to take advantage of her age and find a good husband for herself, so that she could help her granddaughter with her master.
The woman agreed without permission
The woman looked at her grandmother's painstaking efforts and a sad face. After all, she felt soft-hearted. The old man was old and she was embarrassed to refuse, so she could only reluctantly agree to accept the blind date and meet the blind date arranged by the aunt in the village.
In fact, she didn’t have any expectations in her heart. After all, it was a blind date and they were not familiar with each other. Who knows what kind of personality and temper the other person is? But in order to follow her grandmother's wishes, she is still willing to go along and try it out. If one or two people are really suitable, they can continue to develop.
Hearing his granddaughter finally gave in and agreed, the old man's face was filled with wrinkled smiles again. Her granddaughter has been her proud capital since she was a child. She looks beautiful and capable and can make money. In her opinion, she is the most outstanding girl in the village.
However, she was also afraid that her granddaughter would be under pressure, so she tried to let go and tell her granddaughter: "Child, you can meet first and see if it's right. If it's really not suitable, then forget it. Your parents and I will definitely not force you to get married."
Hearing grandma's enlightened words, the woman felt much more relaxed. After all, she was just afraid that she would be tied up by blind date. Whether the two of them would depend on future development. It's too early now. So she agreed with her grandmother's opinion and was willing to get along, but the final decision was still in her own hands.
Author's opinion
Marriage is a major event in life, not a joke. When choosing a partner, we must remain rational and look at each other with a clear look. Before you understand the other person's character, remember not to make promises for your next life. After all, the future is still long, and our lives should be in our own hands. Everything is the most important thing to be happy.
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