Do you think the quality of a husband-wife relationship is related to the children? Students often consult: "Why did my relationship with my husband become worse after giving birth? I chose to have a second child to ease the relationship between us, but found that nothing was done." So today we will talk about it. Will children affect the relationship between husband and wife?
Teacher Hu wants to tell everyone that is actually because you have problems, and the children have just become the scapegoat for the problem between you. is like this in many families. Since giving birth to a child, women have been focusing on the child all day, while men do not help, and women blame him and nag him.
When a man feels bored, he ignores his family even more, and your relationship is trapped in a vicious cycle. The reason for this situation is that many women have very low self-identity.
When you and him started to get intimate, you think you have no value. For example, some women chose to get married because of pregnancy, or because of the fact that men have changed their minds, you chose to have a second child. The purpose of doing this is because you hope that will increase the cost of his departure .
When you have such a starting point, your relationship has actually fallen into a bad consequence. Men are even more disrespectful of you because you do not respect yourself. Your self-worth identity is based on childbirth.
The second is because many women have emotional transfer after giving birth.
When you are unable to resolve the conflict with your husband, you choose to pin all your expectations and hopes on your children. Such a family has a typical feature: Men are marginalized, and a state of alliance is formed between mother and son. Children bear a lot of pressure that they should not bear. They dare not be disobedient and dare not let you down. Once you quarrel with your husband, he will automatically choose to be with you.
And as the child grows up, he wants to be independent more and more. Once he shows resistance, many women will habitually say: "How can you be disobedient? I worked so hard for you. If it weren't for you, your father and I would have been separated long ago" . Children become tool for solving problems between you couples, .
Teacher Hu has experienced so many years of emotional consultation experience and has seen too many children who have psychological disorders due to their parents' years of emotional discord. So as an adult, you really have to face up to the substantial problems in your marriage and make up for your shortcomings.
For example, your communication skills, such as the interest of getting along with you couples, such as the improvement of your own personal abilities, etc. Only when you solve this root problem can you really improve your relationship with your husband and wife and not hurt your children.
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