Carnegie, a master of success, said: "Only 15% of a person's success is due to his professional skills, while 85% depends on his communication skills and work skills." In life, many people do not know how to maintain their interpersonal relationships. Today, Youshujun shares 3 so

Success master Carnegie said:

"Only 15% of a person's success is due to his professional skills, and 85% depends on his communication skills and work skills."

In life, many people do not know how to maintain their interpersonal relationships.

Today, Youshujun shares 3 social tips with you.

Don't hesitate to share

I saw a question online: "What are the benefits of sharing?"

There is an answer below that may give us some inspiration.

The person who posted the post said that her previous idea was that sharing was equivalent to making wedding dresses for others and giving others the opportunity to surpass themselves.

But she later met a girl. Any interesting things she had, the "scoop" she knew, the latest knowledge, etc., would be posted to the group to share with everyone.

When we meet, the girl will tell her all kinds of experiences, experiences, and feelings without reservation. She is so happy and free and easy every time.

Later she tried to change herself and share it like that girl. She was surprised to find:

It turns out that many classmates are so friendly and sincere. They will also share what they have learned, and everyone will discuss it together.

She is becoming more and more helpful, and others are more willing to help her.

She sighed and said, "I think this is the charm of sharing."

Writer Su Qin said:

"All cause and effect are just interactions."

If you speak wildly to others, don't blame others for speaking badly to you.

Only when you treat others sincerely will others treat you sincerely.

There is a saying:

"Calling is a cleverness, sharing is a great wisdom."

Care can only allow you to take advantage of it for a while, but it cannot allow you to not suffer any loss for the rest of your life.

You are very particular about others, so how can others be without reservations to you?

People who care about everything seem smart, but they often only get some small profits.

sharing sometimes seems to make you lose something, but what you have paid will one day give back to you in other ways.

The heart is one foot wide and the road is one foot wide. Many things seem to be altruistic, but in fact they are selfish.

Don't forget to change the position

Stephen Covey told one thing in the book "7 Habits of High-Efficacy People":

Once he took the subway and met a father with 3 children.

The children are noisy and messy, while the father does nothing and is not subject to restraint.

made people around them look at each other and were very dissatisfied.

Later, Kowei finally couldn't help but step forward and asked the father to take care of their children.

The father said sorry to Covey and told him that the children's mother had just passed away. They might be at a loss and didn't know how to accept this fact.

Covey suddenly disappeared and asked the father if there was anything he could help him.

Sometimes we can only see part of the lives of others, but we cannot see all the facts.

Only by understanding deeply and thinking from the perspective of others can we better understand others.

" Awesome Gatsby " says:

"Whenever you want to criticize others, you must remember that not everyone in this world has the superior conditions you have."

We have never walked the paths that others have walked, and we have never suffered the hardships that others have suffered. It is easy to point fingers, but it is difficult to empathize with them.

When we comment on others, others may be experiencing torture that we cannot bear in our hearts.

Put us in that position, we may not be able to do better.

Henry Ford said:

"The secret to success is to put your feet in other people's shoes, and then be able to think about problems from the perspective of others. ”

If you want to maintain a good interpersonal relationship and truly understand others, you also need to think about what others think, worry about what others worry about, and worry about what others worry about.

You need to stand in someone else's position to look at the problem, instead of retreating while saying "I understand you".

Don't be afraid of trouble

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There is a " Franklin " effect in psychology:

Compared to those who have helped you, those who have helped you will be more willing to help you again.

If you want to maintain a good relationship, we need to help others solve the trouble, and we also need to "create" some trouble for others in a timely manner.

The friendship between panda and bamboo begins with trouble.

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They work in the same company, but never talked.

One day during lunch break, Panda went to the company's balcony to make a phone call. But when he closed the balcony door, he didn't know what went wrong, so he locked himself outside.

Looking in through the glass window of the balcony, everyone else was taking a nap, and Zhuzi was only wearing headphones and watching the computer intently.

helpless, Panda had to ask Zhuzi for help through the company's WeChat group.

Zhuzi opened the door very friendly.

Panda encountered another problem in his work in the afternoon. He led his old employees away. Panda had to bite the bullet and trouble Zhuzi.

1 After a while, the two of them became familiar with each other.

After a while, the two of them became much familiar.

When you trouble me, new things in my life will emerge one after another;

When I trouble you, your bad things will gradually disappear.

"Trouble" seems to be very troublesome, but it is an opportunity to enhance relationships.

bother each other and is also a way to maintain relationships.

0 1 Do not need to do anything or make any tricks to maintain a relationship.

1 Don't stingy to share and stay sincere, A relationship has its origin.

Don’t forget to change your position, understand empathize with , and a friendship has the possibility of harmony.

Don’t be afraid of trouble, help each other, and only then will two people be together through thick and thin, and walk along the way.

May someone drink and talk with you when the spring breeze of peaches and plums; when the night rains in the rivers and lakes, you don’t have to face the lonely lamp alone.

I wish you some people share when you are happy, some people share when you are worried, and friends all over the world, and all your encounters are sincere!

Source: Youshu

Author: Xiaxi

Editor: Deng Rubeng

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