When in love, both couples show the most perfect side. After living together, the most realistic appearance of each other can be shown. There are both advantages and disadvantages in living together before marriage. should I live together before marriage? And what should couples who want to live together pay attention to?
The society is becoming more and more open now. Many young people will live together before marriage. Many young people plan to live together before marriage, but in fact they are already planning to enter the palace of marriage. So what are the benefits of living together before marriage?
Advantage 1. Live together before marriage and understand the real other party as soon as possible
Before getting married, you can give each other more insight into each other before marriage, so as not to "set accounts after marriage".
After all, when in love, everyone is trying to disguise themselves as much as possible, and willing to spend money for each other or often be attentive. Living together before marriage can be said to be a simulation of the situation after marriage, which can allow each other to have a general understanding of each other's living habits, so that they will not complain after marriage that the other party does not brush their teeth at night and does not wash their feet before going to bed.
Advantage 2. Living together before marriage is easier to make a clear division of labor
Many people complain to me that after getting married, they often quarrel over housework.
After all, now it is not like before, women are in the hall, especially now, the improvement of women's status has allowed many men to experience the "household chores", and thus, conflicts arise. Therefore, many people will complain after marriage, and even divorce due to slight changes. Living together before marriage can make everyone perform better under the "threat" of love. Once they get married, it may become a habit and it is too late to change.
Benefits 3. Cohabitation before marriage, so that men can enhance their sense of responsibility
In all marriages, the life of "fisting, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea" that you have to face, plus the more expenses of rent, and the "filial piety" of both parents, it is not a small amount. If these appear in the era of cohabitation, they can put more pressure on men. Know that love and marriage are different. You have to bear more realistic things and be able to bear the responsibilities that men should have. There will be no embarrassing situation of your wife raising your husband after marriage.
Benefits 4. Living together before marriage makes women more virtuous
Female, after living together, is different from the time of love. They will not be as spoiled and ignorant as before, and can tolerate each other slowly, because after all, this family is a matter of two people and requires two people to maintain it, so if you accept it, you must accept everything from the other party, including the in-laws and relatives of both parties. In this way, with caution before getting married, it is easier for women to experience the pressure of getting married in a very short period of time.
Live together before marriage, which makes people who cannot tolerate and understand, who have no real love, choose to break up, just like in love. Perhaps it is the last shift before marriage. It seems that living together before marriage has many benefits, not just like the tradition.
Benefits 5. Both parties have the opportunity to step back and choose
Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and it involves double-family families, legal contracts, etc. Therefore, it is best to make a final decision, otherwise the harm of a failed marriage is not just about losing a lover. Trial marriage avoids the situation where you find that each other is not suitable for each other after marriage, but it is difficult to regress. After getting married, you can’t just leave as soon as you want, but you can live together before getting married and you can separate at any time, without any other troubles. The only difference between living together before marriage and most couples is that they do not go through the marriage registration procedures. In the early 1980s, "before marriage cohabitation" flowed into China with the sharp rise in divorce rates and the concepts of Western sexual freedom, and gradually became a "test product" for some trendy men and women.
Benefits 6. Test the trueness of feelings
The love you say in love may be the most sensible, but not necessarily the most real. When in love, the promises made by men and women, and the love you said are likely to be stimulated by hormones or impulsively, and often when calm is not counted. True love is maintained, not a flash in the pan. If you live together before marriage, two people live together, after repeating their lives day after day, after you see all the other person's various states, then this is considered true love.
Benefits 7. Test whether sex life is harmonious
In many divorce cases now, many people end up with discord in sex life. Sexual life plays an important role in marriage. Most couples will feel that there is indeed some flaw or inadequacy in their sex life. Cohabitation before marriage can test whether the two parties are harmonious in sexual life. If possible, then there is no problem. If there is a problem, you can debug and solve it in time. If it really doesn't work, it won't affect anything. But after marriage, everything is not so easy.
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