What I want to talk about is such a person: an ordinary farmer girl, her 22 years of life seem to be condensed in the 2 hours of the reporter's interview and in the screen of our interview. She appeared in the picture of our connection with a smile, and she said: Ordinary action. If you can't do big things, it's just small things in daily life.
What she said is the things that each family and every mother does for the children every day, such as washing hair, bathing, cooking and laundry, taking care of children's daily life, and tutoring children's studies... However, there are 12 children, each of which comes from a different family. Some of these children are orphans who have lost their parents, and some are children from difficult families whose parents or grandparents are seriously ill and adopted by her.
Xue Haibin cuts her child's hair
Her name is Xue Haibin, 47 years old, from Biyang County, Zhumadian City, Henan Province. She was selected as the "China Good People List" for Helping Others in the Second Quarter of 2022 by the Central Civilization Office . When talking about Xue Haibin in Biyang County , everyone gave her a thumbs up and praised her deeds.
Xue Haibin is a farmer's daughter in Daxiongzhuang, Beicaozhuang Neighborhood Committee, Huayuan Street Office, Biyang County. She has helped the weak and weak for 22 years with her meager strength. Since 2000, she has voluntarily taken care of orphans and children from difficult families, supported orphans and widowed elderly people, and built a home for the children with simple actions, bringing warmth to the children and widowed elderly people.
The beautiful lies of my mother taught her what kind of kindness
Xue Haibin is in the second grade of elementary school. It was almost winter, and one day it was very cold. At about three or four o'clock in the afternoon, a white-haired old man who was begging for food suddenly came to Xue Haibin's mother and said to Xue Haibin's mother: Girl, do you have leftovers at home? Give me a bite, I haven't got anything to eat in a day.
Xue Haibin's mother kept saying yes, and when she entered the house, she went to make porridge for the old man and added two poached eggs. The old man's tears came out at that time. Before leaving, the old man gave the sweet potatoes he had begged for to eat to Xue Haibin's mother. Xue's mother took them away, then brought the steamed buns from the old man and gave him some flour. Since then, the old man will always come to her house every half month or a month, and the old man who comes to beg for sweet potatoes will give to Mrs. Xue. Every time, Mrs. Xue will still give the buns and flour from the house to the elderly.
Xue Haibin said that every time my mother asked them to eat sweet potatoes given by the elderly, she didn't understand why my mother had to replace the steamed buns and flour at home with sweet potatoes. The family was very poor at that time, and there was little white flour and lack of food. But her mother told her, "Don't look at the old man as a beggar, but the old man is a god. Look at his beard is completely white and he is so kind. The child will become smart after eating his sweet potatoes. He will be able to win certificates every year if he is good at studying." When he heard his mother's words, Xue Haibin tasted sweet potatoes and sweet, and told her that the sweet potatoes were more delicious than our white buns. My mother said that if you help someone, your child will grow longer.
When he grew up, Xue Haibin realized that his mother's lies were so simple, great and beautiful, and that his mother's kindness affected Xue Haibin's entire life. It was her mother who taught her what kindness is and what kind of virtue is to cultivate virtue.
Digging a well is not as good as a spring, but it is still a abandoned well. Adhering to this sentence from Mencius , Xue Haibin has persisted for more than 20 years on the road of charity. Her life was changed because her meeting with the children.
She said that maternal love is very important for a child's growth
For more than 20 years, Xue Haibin has helped many children with charity. There are 12 children raised by her at home. Some of them were adopted by Xue Haibin when she was still a baby, from learning to getting into college and working. Watching them grow up is Xue Haibin’s most gratifying thing.
This summer, Xue Haibin went to the train station to send Xiaohua (pseudonym) who was admitted to university to go to school. After the train left, Xue Haibin stayed at the train station for 40 minutes before leaving.
It’s too difficult for a child to grow up. Xue Haibin named the children at home by age. Xiaohua, who was admitted to university this year, is Xiaojiu's brother. When Xiaojiu and his brother were very young, their parents died of illness one after another. The two brothers were raised by their elderly grandfather. Xue Haibin found the family's difficulties from an acquaintance. After learning about the difficulties of the family, he found the family. The grandfather entrusted Xiaojiu to Xue Haibin with tears and kept Xiaohua by his side.Seeing that his grandfather worked so hard, Xiaohua wanted to give up going to school and work early to earn money in society. He didn't go to school for more than a year in high school. The anxious grandfather couldn't persuade him, so he could only ask for help from Xue Haibin. After learning about Xiaohua's situation, Xue Haibin found Xiaohua and took him home, ate and stayed with the children at home, talked to him, and encouraged him. With Xue Haibin's encouragement, Xiaohua walked into the classroom again.
On the day Xiaohua went to college, Xue Haibin got up at 4 a.m. and went to Zhumadian to send Xiaohua. At the station, Xiaohua looked at Xue's mother who had been helping and caring for him and raising her younger brother for so many years. Xiaohua was so grateful that she kept crying.
After returning, Xue Haibin wrote an article "Eighteen-year-old Youth" and posted it on his Moments. Thinking of the poor child's difficulty in growing up all the time, Xue Haibin cried. She felt sorry for the child. She knew how difficult it was for a child. The child is in conflict with his heart. He goes to school and thinks that it is not easy to raise himself at such an age. If he doesn’t go to school, he will have no future. The child has been in conflict and struggle, but finally did not give up on himself.
In the three years of high school, Xiaohua gave up for one year, and finally he was able to listen to Xue Haibin and return to school, return to school, and through hard work, he was able to go to university to complete his studies obediently. When he was sent away, standing at the train station, Xue Haibin kept crying. She said: But what shed is tears of happiness. I feel that from the moment I took over them, I will take good care of them. Standing at the train station, seeing Xiaohua's back as he was leaving, Xue Haibin's tears rustled.
She said to Xiaohua: "Child, you are so great, you can finally start your own life again. You can study with peace of mind. Xue's mother will raise your younger brother well. In a few years, Xiaojiu will definitely be admitted to university like you." During an interview with
, Xue Haibin told reporters: "How to describe this feeling, there are mixed feelings. I think pulling the child back from society and returning to school may also be a leap for the child's life in the future. This kind of happiness is indescribable to any voice."
Over the years, Xue Haibin's greatest sense of happiness and gain is to help others to be happy. Seeing these children grow up physically and mentally healthy, I feel an indescribable sense of relief and pride. Four of the children who grew up were admitted to college, and some of them were now fathers and wives and worked. They did not go astray on the road of life, which was the greatest comfort and encouragement for Xue Haibin's heart, and also made her feel the importance of maternal love and knowledge to a child's growth.
In those years, she raised the children she grew up with her heart
In 2000, Xue Haibin took care of the first child Xiao Jian (pseudonym), who was in the first grade of junior high school. His father unfortunately passed away. His mother took care of the whole family alone and found it difficult to make a living. Xiao Jian's mother not only had to take care of him and his 8-year-old sister, but also had to bear the financial resources of the family. Xue Haibin began to help their mother take care of their two children to school, and took them to their homes on weekends to do laundry and cook for them until they went to college. During their four years in college, Xue Haibin would spend several hundred yuan a year to supplement their living expenses until he graduated from college.
The children are together, and they are a happy big family.
In the autumn of 2008, Xue Haibin learned that an elderly widow in Wangdian Town adopted a girl named Juanjuan (pseudonym). Because the old man was old and could not take care of Juanjuan, Xue Haibin took her to the county town to go to school and was responsible for Juanjuan's daily life. In a blink of an eye, she was about to graduate from college.
In March 2012, Xue Haibin saw a young girl in the county industrial area, wearing a pair of shabby slippers, her clothes and face were dirty, standing by the roadside crying helplessly. Xue Haibin learned that the girl was named Xiaoyan (pseudonym), who was in the fourth grade of elementary school. She lost her mother at the age of 3 and had a younger brother who was just over a month old. Xiaoyan's father was paralyzed in bed due to illness. Although the family had a minimum living allowance, it was still difficult to maintain a living, and her younger brother also had to go to school. Looking at the poor Xiaoyan, Xue Haibin felt very uncomfortable. Without saying a word, she took the child home, bought clothes and made up the bed for her, and took her to school in the afternoon to continue her studies.In June of the same year, Xiaoyan's father passed away, and Xue Haibin took the two children to the county town home to take on the daily life of the two children. Under Xue Haibin's careful care, Xiaoyan walked into the university gate and his younger brother also went to high school.
Xiaoqiang (pseudonym) of Garden Street Office, when she was 5 years old, her mother died of illness and has been living with her grandfather. Because my grandfather was in poor health, he still couldn't recover from his health after being hospitalized several times, so he had to stop school and stay at home. After Xue Haibin found out, he took him to his home to take good care of him, and since then he became a member of Xue Haibin's family.
Xiaogang (pseudonym) is a second-grade elementary school student. He was born in a poor family. His father went to prison before he was born. His mother also remarried a few months after his birth. Xiaogang, who was hungry, was taken care of by his grandfather. Grandpa was low in income, weak and sickly, and unable to take care of his children. In August 2016, Xue Haibin heard about this and brought the child who had lost his father's love and mother's love to raise him at home.
In July 2015, Xue Haibin learned about three primary school girls in Shewan Town. They had no mothers when they were less than two years old and were supported by their grandparents who had been sick for many years. Their father was a mentally retarded person and had a family in difficulty. When the three children first met Xue Haibin, they said, "We don't know what the city is like." The children's young hearts deeply touched Xue Haibin's heart. She took these three children to the home for raising them without hesitation.
Xiaoxin (pseudonym) in Shewan Town both died at 8 months old and was taken care of by her elderly grandparents. After Xue Haibin learned about it, she decided to help them raise this child.Xiaoxin became the 10th member of Xue Haibin's family.
In the autumn of 2015, the neighbor's child Xiaobao (pseudonym) suffered from Down syndrome . No matter how busy he is, Xue Haibin never forgets to go to bookstores of all sizes and big toys to buy exquisite picture albums, books and wooden toys for Xiaobao, so that Xiaobao can continue to have new partners on the road of growing every day, and his intelligence level will gradually improve under good training. Due to low immunity, Xiaobao caught a cold and had pneumonia and again. The condition was suddenly critical. His parents asked Xue Haibin for help in a hurry. Xue Haibin did not say anything, but put down the work in his hand and accompanied the child to the hospital. In front of Xiaobao's bed, she was like a mother, and she kept moving forward.
In February 2022, there was another 3-year-old girl next to Xue Haibin. The girl's mother ran away from home and was taken care of by her grandparents. Her grandfather was in her 70s and was disabled. Her grandmother was in poor health. Xue Haibin decided to help the elderly raise her together.
22, Xue Haibin has been sticking to the road of charity. She is not only the intimate mother of the children, but also the teacher for the children's growth. She used the family rules of loyalty, filial piety, courtesy and trustworthiness as a benchmark for being a human being, and cultivated them to become positive people in society in the future. Her love is like sunshine that warms the hearts of children and illuminates their growth path. Xue Haibin interprets the traditional virtues of respecting the elderly and the elderly of others, and the young of others with his selfless and broad mind.
Many people learned that Xue Haibin adopted 12 children and helped more children with loving care, and thought Xue Haibin was very rich. Actually, not. Over the years, Xue Haibin has been relying on small businesses and making money by doing odd jobs. She can do whatever she has to work, and Xue Haibin has also set up street stalls. The clothes worn by the children were old clothes provided by Xue Haibin’s acquaintances and friends; the house they lived in was always rented. The house I live in now was arranged by Xue Haibin's unit where Xue Haibin worked. When the leader learned that Xue Haibin had rented a house with seven children, he was moved by Xue Haibin and helped them very much. He freed up a few houses in the unit to live in, and bought high and low beds for the children.
Xue Haibin has a son. The first child she adopted is 3 years older than her son. The son always says, don’t give yourself pocket money, leave the money for her sister to spend, and don’t let her sister hungry. My son is very sensible and economical, and often picks up discarded notebooks scanned out of the stationery store.
Xue Haibin said that the children are very sensible and know that it is not easy for mothers. They never compete with other children for food and drink. They all cherish the family very much and study hard.
Xue Haibin also loves literature. Many poems and essays are published in provincial newspapers and magazines. He is now a member of Zhumadian Writers Association and a member of the Bianyang County CPPCC.She has successively won the honorary titles of "The Most Beautiful Mother of in Days", "High Man with Bianyang ", and "March 8 Red Flag Bearer".
Xue Haibin takes the children to read
In order to develop children's reading habits, Xue Haibin formulated a reading plan for the children and read it with the children. She asked the children to read 100 Tang poems and took the children to read "The Analects of Confucius" together. In order to make the children understand gratitude, Xue Haibin often takes the children to visit the elderly and help the elderly whose children are not around to work. During the school holiday, Xue Haibin took the children to climb the mountain. She said to the children: "We must conquer mountains and overcome difficulties. If you overcome difficulties and conquer mountains, no matter how many difficulties you will have in the future, it will not be a difficulty in your eyes. No matter how big the difficulties you encounter in your life, it will not be a difficulty. First of all, you must defeat yourself. If you cannot defeat yourself, you will be defeated by yourself."
Xue Haibin went to visit the elderly with the children and helped the elderly work.
No matter how difficult it is, it is necessary to raise the children
Xue Haibin said that over the years, she has not told others that she has adopted children. She is afraid that others will laugh at her and that she will not have enough food to care about the children.
Every winter and summer vacation and during the Chinese New Year, when the children who are going to school and working outside come back, it is the most lively time at home.
The children and Xue Haibin's mother are very close and are willing to tell their mothers.
Xue Haibin told reporters: "The family is very warm. Everyone does this and that. This family is really harmonious. All the difficulties and all the pressures are gone after I see the children. Because of expectations, I look forward to the children growing up healthily into people who are useful to society. These difficulties are not difficult. When I see the children, I feel a lot of strength. Sometimes when I wake up in the middle of the night, my back is sore all over my waist, and I think of the children, and when I run over to hug my mother and lie on the bed with my mother, I lose all my hard work or fatigue."
Xue Haibin takes the children to climb the mountain and exercise outdoors.
Xue Haibin often tells children that excellent character is the basis of life's growth and future development. If you do not have a good and excellent character, you will not be an excellent person in the future. In addition to daily life, she spent a lot of energy and effort to educate her children and cultivate them to become positive children. She also often says something to the children, saying that in the future, you will grow up after you leave this house, and you will become adults after you are 18 years old. After you go out, you can ignore your mother and forget your mother. But what my mother told you is that as long as you don’t go the wrong way, take the right path, be honest, and repay the society with knowledge and kindness, you will not let your mother down.
Xue Haibin took the children to visit the retired revolutionary comrade
Speaking of future plans, Xue Haibin said that no matter how difficult it is, they must raise all the children well.
The interview was the weekend. At the end of the interview, the reporter said he wanted to see the children. Xue Haibin asked the children to come to the video. Xiaoqi, Xiaojiu, Lao San... 7 children greeted the reporter in front of the camera with bright smiles, took a photo with heart and happiness. On Xue Haibin and the children's faces, there was no trace of suffering, only the little happiness of being together. These originally lonely children, because they met Xue Haibin, had a mother and a warm home. (Text/Lei Houlan The pictures in this article are provided by the interviewee)
