Parents’ love for their children is selfless. Sometimes they would rather be wronged than create a better life for their children. However, in real life, some parents have selfishness and will be unfair. For example, they will pay more attention to the children they like, or they will have the idea of favoring boys over girls. In the end, those who are favored are always fearless and will lose the ability to be independent. Those who are not favored will become sensitive and fragile in their hearts, and even form a pleasing personality, which will affect their lives. It can be said that parents are the children’s first teachers. If they cannot establish correct values for their children in their words and deeds, they will only lead the children to the wrong path in the end.
Xu Ya has lived in a family that favors boys over girls since she was a child. Her parents also gave all her love to her younger brother and did not pay much attention to her. Even if she tried her best to do anything and wanted to attract her parents' attention, the result was often futile. Therefore, Xu Ya was both envious and resentful of her younger brother, but she was helpless, so she just wanted to escape from this home as soon as possible.
Especially when I was studying, my younger brother could always enjoy the holiday life freely during holidays, but Xu Ya had to work and supplement her life under the arrangement of her parents. After graduating from high school, Xu Ya thought that she would be able to leave this home after going to another place, but she didn't expect that her mother said that girls would get married sooner or later when they grew up. Reading too much books would only waste money, so she asked her to continue working with relatives to make money.
parents do not support her, and Xu Ya has no choice. Moreover, she only has 500 yuan in living expenses per month, and the rest are collected by her parents. She also said that the money will be kept for her as a dowry in the future. Later, Xu Ya felt trapped in the factory and lived under her mother's nose all day long. She always felt uncomfortable, so she proposed to go out to work, but her mother refused on the spot. In the end, Xu Ya said that she could make more money when she went outside, and her salary would still be kept by her mother, so she was able to leave home and go to other places.
Later, after wandering outside for five years, Xu Ya did not have much nostalgia for home and was even more disappointed with her parents. After all, they had never cared about whether they were living outside. Every time they would call to ask for money at the end of the month. Their parents' approach gradually became colder in Xu Ya's heart. Later, Xu Ya also started dating, and her boyfriend was very kind to her. She felt that she was cared for and taken care of for the first time. Not long after, the two started talking about marriage. But when she told her parents about this, her mother asked for a 300,000 yuan betrothal gift, and said that the bride should be high so that she would not be looked down upon by her in-laws' family after marrying, and the man would cherish it more in the future.
Xu Ya knew after hearing this that her mother said it nicely, but she was looking for her own dowry money, so she said directly: Yes, but I will bring 200,000 back then, and I will save about 150,000 yuan in the past few years. At that time, I will also take it back as a dowry to buy a house and decorate it.
When the mother heard this, she became anxious and immediately shouted: That's not possible. You can't move whether it's a bride gift or a deposit. These are for your brother to get married. As an older sister, isn't it very appropriate to help your brother? After hearing this, Xu Ya sneered and said: I don’t owe him, why should I take responsibility for my brother’s marriage? Besides, you asked for a 300,000 yuan bride price, but you didn’t let me take it back, and you didn’t give me a dowry. What will you let the man’s family think of me? How can I live in the future?
After hearing this, my mother knew that she was in the wrong and didn't know how to respond. Xu Ya then said: If you don't prepare a dowry for me, I won't want the dowry. Even if the man's family gives it to me, I won't bring it back then. Seeing that his daughter's attitude and tone were so firm, the mother also became silent.
Parents’ love is selfless. Good family affection will accompany you throughout your life, and it will make people feel like spring breeze, illuminating the road ahead, and giving people the motivation and warmth to move forward. However, people’s hearts are very complicated, and everyone cannot choose their own origins and family. If you meet selfish parents, then family affection will only make people feel depressed and bitter, and they cannot give up or escape. Especially when facing parents who are asking for excessive demands, all they can do is to stick to the bottom line and principles. When encountering various unreasonable demands and unfair treatment, only by clarifying your attitude, daring to speak out and rejecting to the end can you keep your happiness. Otherwise, blind obedience and accommodation will only put yourself in a dilemma and will also make yourself suffer all the grievances. #Marriage##Emotion##Emotional Firm#
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