Author: Cherry (Columnist of Fushu)
There is a "Museum of Empathy" in the United States, which has a very interesting experience activity.
It requires two people who don’t know each other to exchange shoes for each other, and then accompany each other on a long way, exchanging their life experiences and feelings while walking. As a result, it is found that when you wear other people’s shoes, it is easier to recognize other people’s feelings.
This is Put your heart in mind and think from the perspective of others.
A well-educated person can put himself in the shoes of others and think about problems, take into account other people's emotions, and have a sense of tolerance and the measure of treating others.
The most difficult cultivation in life is to observe others' difficulties, tolerate others' shortcomings, and forgive others' mistakes.
Discover the difficulties
There is a topic on the Internet: What actions do
What are the actions that make people feel educated and have a doubled preference?
has an answer: smooth out the situation when others are embarrassed, take the initiative to relieve the other party's psychological pressure, and do not embarrass people.
At a certain award ceremony of the Writers Association, a female writer politely hugged Hu Ge with Hu Ge after receiving the trophy presented by Hu Ge .
Then, host He Jiong made a joke to the male writer who came on stage next time and said, "You and host Yiyi can also hug them."
But who knew that the male writer replied, "I am a thin-skinned person, unlike someone. How can you make such a joke with me, a cultural person!"
Unexpectedly, as soon as the words came out, the stage and the audience were embarrassed. Even He Jiong, who was usually quick to react, did not answer for a while.
At this time, Hu Ge noticed everyone's embarrassment, rushed to the stage in time, and said three consecutive words: "I'm sorry."
and said: "I just hugged the female writer. Indeed, it was because I was thick-skinned and the thin-skinned. I told them that I wanted to hug them." As soon as the speech of
fell, the frozen atmosphere gradually eased.
In life, we often encounter some embarrassing or embarrassing moments, which make people feel at a loss, like a hint of light.
People with good cultivation can often detect the difficulties of the people around them and help others without any hesitation.
They are like a warm wind, the wind passes without trace, but it makes people feel comfortable and beautiful.
It is easy to add icing on the cake, but it is difficult to provide timely help.
The most rare thing for people to get along with is to silently add a few bricks when others need help, build a step to help them walk over smoothly.
As the writer Su Qin said: "Put a step under someone else's feet, and you will see the world's double appreciation for you."
People's hearts are mutual, giving people decent, and giving themselves decent.
tolerate people's shortcomings
Xue Xuan once said: "Only generous can tolerate people, only thick can carry things."
If a person does not have the elegance of tolerating others, it will only make people stay away from him.
Those who achieve great things not only know how to appreciate the strengths of others, but also tolerate the weaknesses of others.
Chairman of Huawei Terminal Company Yu Chengdong . Since entering the management level of Huawei , he has a very high-profile style and often speaks without any restraint.
In order to prove that Huawei's products are easy to use, Yu Chengdong said: "Mr. Ren's family used Apple products before, but now they all use Huawei." After
, Ren Zhengfei found out, he quickly clarified to the media: his family is also using Apple's products, and said that Apple's products have a good ecological system. You cannot narrowly think that you like Huawei, so you must use Huawei mobile .
The voices of Huawei Group oppose Yu Chengdong's arrogance have been rising and falling.
However, Ren Zhengfei has always been tolerant of Yu Chengdong, and even said openly at the meeting: "No one is perfect. Don't always stare at other people's shortcomings, and don't force me to make the decision to fire Yu Chengdong."
Finally, because of Ren Zhengfei's trust and tolerance, Yu Chengdong took over the Huawei mobile phone business unit that was "to be sold" in less than 10 years to bring Huawei mobile phones to the top three smartphones in the world, and evenly with Apple, , Samsung .
Philosopher Spinoza said: "The human heart is not conquered by force, but by love and tolerance."
When getting along with people, there are always some people who dislike others, infinitely amplify other people's shortcomings and ignore their advantages.
But everything in the world is different, no one can be perfect, and everyone will have shortcomings.
Instead of holding a magnifying glass to look at other people's shortcomings and being too picky, it is better to learn to look at others with an appreciation point of view.
Don’t be too picky when making friends; don’t get too strict with others.
When we tolerate others' weaknesses with a tolerant heart, we will also gain more trust and respect.
Thank you for your mistakes
Hu Guangping In the book "Memoirs of Lu Xun", Xu Guangping records such a thing.
When Lu Xun was in Shanghai, he hired a kind and simple old female worker at his family.
The old female worker is very kind to Lu Xun's son Zhou Haiying . Lu Xun wants her to call her mother, and she never is allowed to call her name directly.
Whenever Lu Xun and Xu Guangping went to the dining room for dinner, Mu's mother would come to Lu Xun's study to do cleaning work, or take Haiying to play here.
One day, Lu Xun returned to the room after dinner and saw Mu Ma and Hai Ying having fun. They were blowing paper pages on the balcony, saying that they were flying kites.
Haiying was very happy when she saw the paper flying, rising and falling, and she always asked for another one.
, but I found that the piece of paper was a book on my bookshelf.
Lu Xun hurriedly stopped him and took back half of the book.
Because my mother is illiterate and does not understand Lu Xun's temper of treating books as life, she just wanted to win Xiao Haiying's joy, so she didn't think so much about it.
Seeing Lu Xun take the book back, she knew she had done something wrong, so she lowered her head, waiting for Lu Xun's punishment.
But Lu Xun did not blame her, but just whispered to remind her not to do this again in the future.
An old saying goes: People are not sages, but who can do nothing without mistakes.
In life, a friend’s unintentional words may make us unhappy;
At work, a colleague’s unintentional behavior may make us uncomfortable.
But if we are careless about these unintentional mistakes, we will retaliate everywhere, which will only intensify the conflict and eventually both sides will suffer.
people live for a lifetime, in just a few decades, there is no need to lose their temper and be petty about some trivial matters.
Extreme anger hurts the body and more words hurts people. It is better to take things lightly and spend every day calmly.
As said in "Zengguang Xianwen": "Rebuke yourself with the heart of blame others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiveness."
Do not blame others when encountering things and understand more about everything, so that the relationship between people can be more harmonious.
Forgive others’ mistakes is to truly treat yourself well.
Yang Jiang Mr. Yang said:
"A person has obtained different degrees of cultivation and different degrees of benefits after different degrees of training."
People live for a lifetime, pleasing themselves is a ability, and making people feel comfortable is a kind of cultivation.
Observe people's difficulties, take the initiative to reach out and pull, love others and benefit yourself;
Tolerate people's shortcomings, be less harsh on people, and you will eventually gain more Kindness;
Forgive others' faults, there is no need to worry about it everywhere, letting others go and letting yourself go.
Transformation is a high point in dealing with the world, and treating others with a little lenient is a blessing.
For the rest of our life, I hope we will be tolerant and generous, and live warm and kind, and please others It looks like pleasing yourself.
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