I was chatting with a friend, who said that his parents' desire for control was too strong. Because parents like to control, you want them not to control. This is actually the other way around. Aren’t you controlling your parents ‘not controlling’?

chatted with a friend, and his friend said that his parents' desire for control was too strong. You have to decide everything yourself. I said I hope I won’t become like my parents in the future.

I said, "Actually, as long as you still have this hope and expectation, you will still be like your parents. Why? Because parents like to control, you want your parents not to control. In fact, on the other hand, isn't you controlling your parents' 'not controlling'? So, when can we let go of our expectations for our parents, you will not control it like them."

He said, "It's so difficult to let go."

I said, "It didn't exist before, so how difficult is it? What I let go is not external objects, but our own persistence towards the outside world. And what this persistence does not exist is because we are "disguised", so there is one who says we should let go."

In life, what we call unable to let go. Fundamentally, how have we ever had it?

, such as money. Have we ever had it? I got the money you have today and spent it tomorrow. May I ask, do you have this? If it is yours, you should grab the money back. Why, because it's yours. But can you grab it? cannot! So, you don't have it.

Another example of our body. Do we have our bodies? If our bodies are ours, can we control our bodies from aging? cannot. Even our heartbeat cannot be controlled, so do you have this body? no.

Let’s talk about our family and children, do we have them? That's even more so. For family and children, you can only follow them. If you don’t follow them, you will teach you how to be a human being in minutes. Unless it is a child who is a few years old who is incapable of autonomy.

Even the body and family are not ours, so what exactly do we have? In fact, we never had it.

Sixth Patriarch said, "There is nothing originally, where can dust be caused." Yes, there wasn't one at all, and it's unnecessary to say that you let go.

is wrong. Since there is no, why can’t we let it go?

Because we think there is, we are greedy. And the reason why we think we can have is that we have not seen the true nature of things. Therefore, the Sixth Patriarch said, "The wind has not moved, and the banner has not moved, and the heart of the benevolent is moved." In other words, there is no so-called existence and non-existence, giving up and gain outside, but your mind is distinguishing the so-called giving up and gain. Then think you can get and have it. Since you can get it, who is willing to lose it?

But there is no giving or gain in nature. All things change naturally and are not transferred by human will. So when our will conflicts with the laws of nature, pain arises and troubles arise.

This is the saying - there are only 10 things that are not satisfactory in life. Then why are there one or two more wish-for-life ones? Because occasionally it follows the laws of nature. If you follow the rules, you will naturally think you have it.

But the natural law is to arise and disappear. When the things we greed are lost, will people feel uncomfortable?

In fact, all this is just lying to yourself. You've never got it.

So, When humans think, God laughs. Why does God laugh? Humans are cheering for themselves. Just like a mentally ill person, treating a stone as a treasure, be careful everywhere. is ridiculous to us. But let’s think about it, aren’t we the mentally ill person?

The problem of mentally ill patients is to take false as true. Then aren't we like this?

What if that stone is a piece of jade? For a foreigner, he cannot understand why a stone can be priceless. He might laugh like God.

Another example is the popular Tibetan Mastiff a few years ago. It is said that one is several million. But now I can only make meat and vegetables, no one wants them. So, when people nowadays look at the crazy things they were a few years ago, will they also make a laugh?

So, "The wind has not moved, the banner has not moved, and the heart of the benevolent is moved." The world is still the same world , but people have been happy, thinking that there is one me and one person. Essentially, we never had it.

says letting go, letting go is self-deception, and letting go is confusion.

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similar to a person who makes a fortune in his dream, there is a lot of gold. If he lost the gold in his dream, would he be very sad? But if he woke up from his dream, would you say he would be so sad?

won't, because he knows that there are no golds at all. Even the self in the dream doesn't have. If you still say yes, it's just a fool.

So do you have troubles and pain in this world, anxiety and depression?

If you are still dreaming, then everything is true. I can't escape even if I want to.

But if you wake up, you don't have to run at all. Because you know that those are just one’s own knowledge and views, and they are not born, so where can they be destroyed?

After reading the above interpretation, read the verses of the Sixth Patriarch. Will you feel a different feeling?

——"There is no tree in Bodhi, and the mirror is not a platform. There is nothing in it, so where can dust be caused?"