Text丨Qingxin Junyue
Xiao Yuer spent her whole life interpreting what is the tragedy of that cannot be loved .
She tried every means to marry her beloved man Dorgon , naively thinking that as long as she becomes Dorgon's wife, she can get his people and hearts.
But what she waited for, Dorgon's alienation and indifference.
For this reason, she was too soft-hearted, showed good deeds, cried, made trouble, but she never replaced Da Yu'er's position in Dorgon's heart. The last Xiao Yuer ended her life in a tragic way.
Xiao Yu'er did not receive Dorgon's love throughout her life.
But now I re-watch this drama, savoring the whole story of Dorgon marrying Xiao Yuer and the reasons behind it, and savoring Xiao Yuer's awakening before death, I realized that in this tragedy of not being able to love, Dorgon is not innocent, he is the creator of the tragedy.
It’s not wrong for him not to love Xiao Yu'er, but he used Xiao Yu'er’s love to make Xiao Yu'er a pawn for him to play with others.
childhood sweetheart
The reason why Xiao Yuer likes Dorgon is actually very simple.
The two grew up together. Dorgon has always taken care of her like his brother. He not only took her to catch crickets and , but also blocked her in order not to let the wild dog hurt her, giving her a sense of security.
Add to that, among his peers, Dorgon is the most outstanding one. Not only is he riding and shooting, he is also the favorite son of big gold big khan nurhachi . Whether it is family background or childhood sweethearts, it is normal for Xiao Yuer to fall in love with Dorgon.
What Xiao Yu'er didn't expect was that Dorgon, who was determined to marry, fell in love with Da Yu'er after going to Korqin .
Da Yu'er followed Zhezhe, who was back to Korchin to visit relatives, and Dorgon followed Da Yu'er all day long. The two raced horses, chatted, counted stars, and watched the moon together.
Looking at the two people who were in the same position, Xiao Yu'er was both jealous and helpless.
She was jealous of Da Yu'er who easily snatched her Dorgon, but she had no choice but to sulk at her own heart. Although Xiao Yu'er is unwilling to admit that Da Yu'er is worse than her, she knows in her heart that she is indeed inferior to Da Yu'er in many aspects, such as appearance, background, talent and knowledge, temper and character.
Therefore, even though Xiao Yuer did not give up completely at that time, she was ready to accept the facts. Until Da Yu'er suddenly became the concubine of Huang Taiji , this made Xiao Yu'er rekindled her confidence.
In Xiao Yu'er's opinion, although she is slightly inferior to Da Yu'er in some aspects, now that Da Yu'er has become someone else's woman, no matter how good she is, it is meaningless. But she is different. She only has Dorgon in her heart. She will not betray him. This is her advantage and her opportunity.
Moreover, she didn't believe that Dorgon would continue to love a woman who betrayed him.
Xiaoyuer is a simple-minded, stubborn and stubborn woman. She has been spoiled since childhood and has her pride. However, in order to get Dorgon and for love, she was willing to put down her figure and take the initiative to attack.
So, after consciously having hope, Xiao Yuer continued to show kindness to Dorgon and created various opportunities to get along. In order to marry Dorgon, she even found her aunt, , noble concubine, and helped to find a solution.
. For Dorgon's intentional or unintentional evasion, she only thought that Dorgon needed healing. As long as she persisted, it would be a matter of time before Dorgon accepted her feelings. Besides, she did not think Dorgon was ruthless to her, but was just fascinated by Da Yu'er.
You see, women who are lost in love are like this. Their best skill is to deceive themselves.
The noble concubine was unwilling to get involved in the affairs of Xiao Yuer and Dorgon. She couldn't see that Dorgon was interested in Xiao Yuer, and she also felt that Xiao Yuer's temper was incompatible with Dorgon. However, in order for the Abahai tribe to have an extra strong son-in-law, Gui Taifei still responded to Xiao Yu'er's request.
After the Gui Taifei was disappointed with Zhezhe because of Xiao Yuer and Dorgon's affairs, Xiao Yuer, who had always been reckless, planned to go directly to ask Huang Taiji to give him a marriage.
Gui Taifei was worried that Xiao Yu'er was ignorant of the importance of it, and annoyed Huang Taiji and Zhezhe, so she thought of a countermeasure for her: When Huang Taiji was in Zhezhe Palace, she would like to mention the marriage again.
After listening to her aunt's countermeasures, Xiao Yu'er was very happy. With her concerted concert with the noble concubine, Huang Taiji agreed to give her a marriage.
However, the simple Xiao Yuer didn't know that Huang Taiji married her to Dorgon not because of her true feelings, but to monitor Dorgon through her outspoken words.
What she didn't expect was that this marriage made her a pawn that took the initiative to deliver it to her door.
Marrying
Since Da Yu'er married Huang Taiji, Dorgon has been depressed for a long time.
He hated Huang Taiji, hated him for snatching his throne and forcing his mother to death, and now he takes his beloved woman for himself. What made him most uncomfortable was that he could not do anything.
He wanted to kill Huang Taiji, but that was a fantasy. Although he and the three brothers Duoduo and Ajige each have their own control, they are the banner owners who have never even been on the battlefield, so they are fighting against Huang Taiji head-on.
He could only endure it, hide his feelings for Da Yu'er and his hatred for Huang Taiji, and wait for the opportunity.
Dorgon decided to keep his body as good as jade for Da Yu'er, but Zhezhe suddenly told him that he would arrange a marriage for him. When Dorgon heard that he was asked to marry Xiao Yu'er, he refused without thinking.
On the one hand, he couldn't let go of Da Yu'er whom he loved deeply; on the other hand, he really looked down on Xiao Yu'er who lost his temper at any time, making him lose his brain.
However, Huang Taiji was attracted by the will of this marriage. Zhezhe could only ask Da Yuer to help. Zhezhe believed that only Da Yuer could convince Dorgon.
It was Da Yuer's persuasion that made Dorgon meet with the marriage, but he did not mean to prevent Da Yuer from being embarrassed, but after Da Yuer's reminder, he found that the latter brought greater disadvantages between marrying or not.
In the play, there is a passage in the conversation between Da Yuer and Dorgon: Da Khan has decided to select the young Beile to cultivate and reuse it, in order to disperse the power of the Beile. Dorgon, you must take care of yourself, this is your chance to make your mark.
Da Yu'er is reminding Dorgon not to disobey Huang Taiji at this stall and lose the opportunity to be reused.
From the fact that Dorgon was able to endure humiliation and please the enemy Huang Taiji who killed his mother and seized the throne in exchange for space and time for survival and development, it can be seen that Dorgon's thoughts and strategies are not inferior to anyone.
Dorgon naturally understood what Da Yuer’s reminder meant, and also knew how to choose the most beneficial to him.
Dorgon has always known that Huang Taiji is afraid of him and is prepared for him. The premise of using him is that he can reassure Huang Taiji. The marriage with Xiao Yu'er is a test of Huang Taiji's.
Dorgon guessed that Huang Taiji was so concerned about his marriage. One is that he hoped that after he got married, he could focus on assisting Huang Taiji. The other is that Xiao Yuer was probably a tool used by Huang Taiji to monitor him. Just as Dorgon said in the play:
"If you can't do it well, you're going to have a seat next to me!"
In this case, the benefits of marrying or not marrying are clear at a glance.
If he doesn't marry, he may lose the opportunity to be reused. The days of revenge will only be far away, and he also needs to find a legitimate and convincing reason to refuse, otherwise it may make Huang Taiji suspicious.
In addition, more importantly, he must beware of Xiao Yuer's reaction after being rejected.
Dorgon knew that with Xiao Yuer's unrestrained and simple-minded personality, once the marriage was rejected, she would probably complain and complain everywhere that he rejected her because of Da Yuer.
In this way, the affairs of him and Da Yu'er will inevitably reach Huang Taiji's ears. This pair of people who are not satisfied and have no strength to compete with Huang Taiji is extremely dangerous, and Da Yu'er will also be implicated.
Instead of offending Huang Taiji and Xiao Yu'er, it is better to go with the flow and agree to the marriage.
can also put Xiao Yu'er, a gunpowder barrel that can explode at any time, beside you, watch. As for Huang Taiji's intention to monitor his movements through Xiao Yuer, Dorgon doesn't have to worry.
In his opinion, if it were other scheming women, it would be worth being wary of, but Xiao Yuer, a simple-minded silly girl, is the best thing to fool and grasp.
Therefore, after weighing the pros and cons, Dorgon should have a marriage with Xiao Yuer.
In a seemingly ordinary marriage, Xiao Yu'er thought she was the biggest winner and she got the man she wanted. Little did she know that she was just a chess piece that took the initiative to deliver it to her door.
Huang Taiji monitored Dorgon through her; Dorgon used her to exchange for the opportunity to be trusted, and used her as a shield to cover up her feelings for Da Yuer and their past; Da Yuer used the promotion of the marriage to make up for the guilt towards Dorgon in his heart.
Using
Xiaoyuer's chess piece, it has another function for Dorgon: covers up the secret conversation between himself and Dayuer.
After Huang Taiji's death, Da Yu'er's Fulin , with the support of Dorgon, became the new monarch of the Qing , and Dorgon became the regent with real power and power in the world.
In order to win over Dorgon, Dorgon was willing to help Fulin. Da Yuer used both soft and hard work to Dorgon, as if close and separated, and was restrained by emotions, and the interaction between the two was very frequent.
At this time, Xiao Yu'er's benefits are reflected.
For the outside world, Dorgon is a prince with a wife and a favored concubine. No one would doubt what Dorgon would have between him and the Empress Dowager.
Even if everyone knows that Xiao Yuer and Dorgon are not in good relationship, this does not affect Xiao Yuer's role. Therefore, no matter how Xiao Yuer quarrels, how she makes trouble, and how many stupid things she has done, Dorgon has never touched her. She is always the concubine of Prince Rui .
Dorgon doesn't love Xiao Yu'er, but he needs such a wife to block others' mouths.
To put it bluntly, when Huang Taiji was alive, Xiao Yu'er's existence was for Huang Taiji. After Huang Taiji passed away, Xiao Yu'er's existence was for the world to see.
From beginning to end, Xiao Yu'er was a chess piece in Dorgon's hand.
is so cool and thin.
see through
Xiao Yu'er married Dorgon for ten years, and for ten years she has lived a life of sexlessness, love and no favor.
I didn’t understand why Xiao Yuer had to hold on in this relationship without any hope. It was not until I saw what she said to Dorgon before her death that I realized that there is no hope that is our view as a bystander, but Xiao Yuer, as the person involved, can always see hope in Dorgon's words and deeds.
After Xiao Yu'er heard that Dorgon was preparing to usurp the throne, and then made Fulin the crown prince and Da Yu'er the queen, she went on a hunger strike for three days just to find an answer.
She asked Dorgon: Dorgon, if your heart can only be given to others and you can't give it to me at all, then why do you want to marry me? I was infatuated and suffered so much for ten years. I thought I could get a little love for you, but I didn’t even tell me if I could give me a little love... Can you tell me and tell me the truth.
Xiao Yu'er knew that Dorgon had always had Da Yu'er in his heart, but she didn't understand. Since Dorgon would never love her, why did he still marry her even though he knew that she was infatuated with him.
Before getting married in the play, Xiao Yuer had filled Dorgon's stable with flowers in order to please Dorgon. Last second Dorgon was so angry that he warned her not to touch his horse again, but the next second, when he saw Xiao Yuer crying, he took her to ride a horse to make her happy.
That night, Xiao Yu'er also asked Dorgon a similar question: If Dorgon had not gone to Korqin and had not met Da Yu'er that year, would he fall in love with her?
Dorgon did not answer, but smiled and shaved Xiao Yu'er's nose, and said "silly girl".
occasionally willing to coax her, call her a silly girl, contact her intimately, marry her, and questions that never have a clear answer, all gave Xiao Yuer the illusion that she had the chance to get Dorgon's love.
For ten years, Xiao Yu'er has been waiting for an answer.
Dorgon falls in love with her, or Dorgon tells her that he will never love her, either of them can do it. This is the real reason why Xiao Yuer struggled to support her marriage for ten years.
Therefore, after Dorgon impatiently confronted Xiao Yuer and told her that she would rather be played with by Da Yuer than love her, Xiao Yuer completely woke up.
At that moment, she finally understood that Dorgon had never loved her, nor had he planned to love her. She was just a decoration that Dorgon married home, a decoration that was valuable.
When Dorgon didn't have to be controlled by others and had no scruples, her decoration lost its value.
Xiao Yuer, who saw through everything, said to Dorgon: Thank you, finally gave me the answer. I have loved you for years, waited for you for years, and finally got an answer.
This is Xiao Yuer's final farewell to Dorgon.
She didn't hate him. Even though his ambiguousness and his proposal gave her hope, she still didn't hate him. She only hates herself, hates her eyes blinded by love, hates her delusions, hates her true feelings, and hates her willingness to become a pawn in their hands.
In regret and despair, Xiao Yuer lit the curtain of the bed, ending her life and a love that was destined to end from the beginning.
When you have someone but don’t love her, you make a double mistake. First, you should love but not love; second, you deprive her of the right to be loved by others. Instead of having it without loving it, it is better to let the loved one have it. The sentence
is said to a man like Dorgon.
There is another Sanmao saying, I would like to give it to a woman like Xiao Yuer: I don’t necessarily love me. I will never love those who don’t love me. Even if you love, you have to give up when the time limit comes. I am a great person, why not fall in a hopeless love?
Qingxinjunyue, an emotional observer, he is a storyteller and film critic. Warm you with words, me.
