No one wants to experience a broken marriage, but life is not a wish, and many things often go against their wishes.
And in a broken marriage, women often feel most reluctant to leave their children. Children are both women's armor and women's weaknesses.
Some women will compromise in order to keep a complete family for their children.
But if the marriage really cannot continue, can the second-married woman with her children after the divorce still find her own happiness?
There is usually a saying on the Internet that it is easy to find a woman who is married to a second marriage with a girl, but if she brings her son, it will be difficult and it is not easy to meet a man who is willing to accept her.
I once read a memorable marriage message: I am a seven-month-old expectant mother who was pregnant and went on a blind date after breaking up with her boyfriend. Her request was that the other party had a car and a house and had no fertility.
I believe that no man can apply for such marriage conditions. Even from a female perspective, this is an unreasonable marriage requirement.
As a woman, if she wants to protect her children well, she will undoubtedly be able to grow up as soon as possible.
When you have the ability to raise children and grow up, you will no longer place your hopes on men. Everyone has the hardships in their own life, and marriage is not an effective way to pass on their own suffering.
Li Lifei is a single mother. In the last marriage, she won custody of her son.
The reason for the breakup of the marriage is very simple. In the process of her nurturing a new life, the man was unwilling to be lonely and betrayed her.
However, this betrayal was only realized by Li Lifei two years later. After knowing this, she cut off the marriage regardless of the man's plea.
This incident also became a wound in her heart, making Li Lifei never get involved in any relationship in the five years after that.
Li Lifei devotes all her time and energy to her children and work. The child has helped her to cultivate her well, of course with the help of her parents.
At work, Li Lifei, who is already capable, seems to be holding back her energy and gradually achieve small achievements.
When the child was almost seven years old, Li Lifei's father passed away. Before leaving, his father's concern was that Li Lifei would be alone and that his life would be too difficult in the future. Faced with her father's concern, Li Lifei finally chose to take a step forward.
Although this step is a bit difficult, fortunately, she met someone who she thought she could spend the rest of her life with.
That man looked mediocre, ordinary, and honest. In short, it is completely different from your ex-husband.
The boy has a poor financial situation and has an old mother who is sick at home and lives in an old house with his mother. The personal abilities are also average, and you can only be self-sufficient.
But Li Lifei doesn't care about these things. She has a house and a car, and can raise children and raise herself. What she wants is just a little wealth and peace, and what she wants is just a stability in life.
men are honest and dull, but sometimes they are considerate. These five years of single life have changed Li Lifei's personality. She has become decisive and strong and independent.
But at the same time, it has been difficult to live a life of having to bear everything alone for five years. When someone appeared beside him, Li Lifei's tight string finally relaxed a little.
Li Lifei has also hesitated during the four months she spent together, but she is willing to go through it. How can there be so many perfections in this world?
, but things went against my wishes. The man took Li Lifei to party with friends at home, and Li Lifei soon became drunk. The man thought it was Li Lifei who was unable to drink, but in fact Li Lifei was not drunk, she just hated this kind of occasion of drinking.
Seeing Li Lifei lying on the sofa without moving, the man pushed her,
Li Lifei pretended to fall asleep. The man told his friend that after drinking the glass of wine, it will be gone, and we will get together again the next day.
The man’s friend said yes, and then chatted with the man while drinking. As he chatted, he talked about Li Lifei. A friend asked, "Are you going to get married?" The man replied, "Wait a little longer!" A friend asked, "Why are you still waiting? You are not satisfied yet?"
The man replied, "Oh, it's still not satisfactory. Xiao Fei is a good person, but she still has a son after all. If it weren't for the limited economic conditions, no one would want to marry me, I wouldn't consider her. Just live a life, and you have to get married and find a woman to pass on the family line..."
Hearing this, Li Lifei's heart was cold. In fact, Li Lifei knew in her heart that she would have a son after marriage, so her conditions would naturally fall under the premature conditions.
But she always felt that men chose to accept their son because they had feelings for her. Unexpectedly, I just settled for the second best to continue the family line.
Later, the two people separated. Li Lifei doesn’t want to be wronged by others, let alone herself.
In fact, it is indeed a certain amount of pressure for a woman to take care of a child after divorce. Especially if you are bringing a boy, the other party's acceptance will be even lower.
However, no matter what the conditions of both parties are, these are not the most important. In marriage, only when two pairs of people meet and two people who appreciate each other can they achieve the right result.
A failed marriage does not mean anything. Women do not need to feel inferior in their relationship. But getting married and divorce is not a joke, you must be careful.
Life is always realistic. Everyone hopes to find a partner with relatively better conditions. This is true for women and men. This is understandable.
We don’t judge who is right or wrong, and we don’t have too high expectations for marriage. What kind of partner to choose is indeed a decision made by all parties.
Of course, this does not mean that a divorce is a woman with a child must not have her own happiness. Be cautious when getting married first, and even more so when getting married second. No matter what age or identity, you can find your own love.
Divorce is nothing more than representing her previous life, not what she wants; raising a child is just a proverb that she is a responsible and soft woman. Men may not choose, but please do not slander them.
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[Written|Weiwei'an: The pen has warmth and speaks for emotion. An atypical writer who loves words invites you to perceive life together]
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