When it comes to the elderly care for the elderly at home, it will cause many people to feel helpless, because it is difficult to achieve everything, and even difficult to understand and respect enough, which often leads to disappointment between elders and children. This seems i

When it comes to the elderly care of the elderly at home, it will cause many people's helplessness, because it is difficult to achieve everything, and even difficult to understand and respect enough, which often leads to disappointment between elders and children. This seems inevitable. The two generations have different lifestyles and different concepts of life. Naturally, there will be differences in the elderly care. However, smart families can understand each other, think about each other, and make life more calm, while unwise families just care about their own feelings. Elders rely on their seniority and younger generations ignore them, which ultimately leads to the breakdown of family relationships.

So when facing the elderly care affairs of parents at home, you can often try to communicate, communicate, calmly express your needs and difficulties, and look at life problems rationally, so that life can be put on the right track and family harmony.

60-year-old mother got rich and asked for 2,000 pocket money every month. Her daughter cried: You want to break up my family!

60-year-old Aunt Bai has retired for five years. In fact, many people envy Aunt Bai in the eyes of her. On the one hand, it is because of her living conditions, and on the other hand, it is because Aunt Bai has a filial daughter and a filial son-in-law. In the eyes of outsiders, Aunt Bai's life is rich and colorful, but only Aunt Bai himself knows that many conflicts have accumulated at home.

Aunt Bai's wife passed away relatively early. When Aunt Bai's daughter was not married, her wife passed away. Later, her life was always the same as Aunt Bai's life alone. The place where her daughter got married was not far away. However, after all, she got married and didn't go home many times. Almost all Aunt Bai was taking care of herself. Her life was relatively smooth at the beginning because she had her own job and her own life. Although she was a little lonely, Aunt Bai also arranged it for herself every day. In addition, her daughter was not very busy in the first few years, and she often came home, and her life was just day by day.

But after all, my daughter also has her own life. As life goes by day, my daughter goes home less and less often, and Aunt Bai gradually becomes accustomed to living alone.

Before Aunt Bai retired, her daughter actually suggested that if she could meet a suitable peer in the future, she could remarry, so that she would not live alone and live a better life. Aunt Bai never accepted it for work reasons. It was not until after retirement that Aunt Bai began to arrange her own life, but what she didn't expect was the life state that started with Aunt Bai's retirement, but became the saddest place for her daughter and son-in-law.

Aunt Bai's conditions after retirement are very good. She has a pension of 3,000 yuan per month, and a good deposit is enough for her to retire in her later years. Moreover, when her daughter got married, the dowry also left 100,000 yuan for Aunt Bai. At the beginning, she felt that she could not support Aunt Bai after getting married, so she kept the money at home. Therefore, Aunt Bai's life has always been very comfortable after retirement. In addition to dancing square dance, Aunt Bai also likes to go out for a trip. Every now and then, she signs up for a tour group to stroll, using her By the way:

"I didn't have time to travel when I was young, but now I have a lot of time to retire. I must have a good time. I must take a good look."

My daughter and son-in-law also understand Aunt Bai's approach, and even support Aunt Bai's traveling, which can relax and enrich her life. Although it costs thousands of dollars every time I travel, this can be borne by Aunt Bai and there is no pressure. After all, my savings are about 200,000 yuan, which is enough for her later years.

But just a year has passed, Aunt Bai stopped traveling, but began to choose another kind of life.

Aunt Bai met several peers he could chat with during the trip, so after returning home, everyone kept in touch with each other, often having dinner, walking, and shopping together. My daughter didn't care about Aunt Bai's life at first, and rarely cared about Aunt Bai's life, which led to Aunt Bai's life becoming more and more free, and she was a little too free.

Some of the friends that Aunt Bai knew were actually very good. Some were retired elderly people in the enterprise, some were doing business, and some were rich in their sons and enjoyed their old age. They were all generous when spending money. They wore, dressed, carried bags, and places to go in and out. Aunt Bai could do it if she was just an ordinary friend, but it was still difficult to be with them every day. After all, such a life requires a certain economic foundation. In order to integrate into this circle, Aunt Bai also began to dress herself up. Various cosmetics, expensive bags, and some expensive clothes also entered Aunt Bai's life.

Some cosmetics are often set for thousands of yuan, and some clothes are often more than thousands of yuan. Even my daughter is very envious. Sometimes when I get home, I sigh that Aunt Bai’s clothes are so beautiful and expensive. I also tried to remind Aunt Bai not to spend money, but Aunt Bai said:

"Mom is so old, and your life is so good now, so I don’t have to worry about it. I now know what the lives of those rich people are like, and the old sisters that Mom knows. , I stand with them, and I feel that they are not of the same age group. Now I am with them, don’t you think I am much younger now? "

But my daughter still said:

"Mom, don’t compare with them. What family conditions are they all? Besides, we are so old, just live our own life well."

But Aunt Bai said to her daughter and she had never heard of it before, and she was even getting too far.

In addition to the entertainment activities of playing mahjong, because I often go to and from some high-end restaurants, I even occasionally organize self-driving tours. Aunt Bai has no car and needs to take the bus with others, so I take the initiative to bear all tolls, gas money, meals, etc. These expenses don’t sound like a big deal, but in fact, I know when I really pay for it, I pay thousands or thousands every time. Aunt Bai later said:

"Once an old sister celebrated her birthday, I didn’t know, she just set out to travel places. I just said this, but everyone else had prepared, but I was the only one who didn't, so I thought about buying gifts for her locally. As a result, I also took on all the expenses for that day, the expenses for eating, singing, and the money for buying gifts. I spent 8,000 yuan in one night, which was the most I spent. "

Although Aunt Bai knew that it was a lot of money, she did not stop. Instead, she continued to live such a life. Several times when her son-in-law and daughter returned home, they wanted to persuade Aunt Bai not to play with them anymore, but Aunt Bai did not listen and continued to live that kind of life.

But money will always be spent for one day. In addition to a fixed deposit of 100,000 yuan, Aunt Bai can basically spend more than 100,000 yuan in four years. The ending is conceivable. When she realized that the deposit was about to be spent, she restrained herself a little, and suddenly realized that her life in the past few years was too big. However, Aunt Bai, who is used to this kind of life, could not stop for a moment, but chose to ask her daughter for money. The monthly pension of 3,000 yuan is no longer enough to support her current life. In addition to eating and drinking, she also had to maintain her relationship with those old sisters. In desperation, she borrowed 20,000 yuan from her daughter and son-in-law, saying that she wanted to respond to the emergency.

Didn't borrow it, but taught Aunt Bai and said bluntly:

"You have spent so much money in the past few years. Why haven't you realized that you are living in the wrong way now? You don't have to spend money to support your old age in your later years. What suits you the most is right. People have good family conditions, but our family conditions are not as good as others. You just want to be fat. Now that you have no money, we can live your own life."

Aunt Bai was scolded by her daughter and said nothing, but she said something. The daughter was very helpless. Aunt Bai said:

"Then you can give me 2,000 yuan a month, which can be regarded as the pension money you gave me. Even if I want to learn to change my lifestyle now, I have to take it slowly. Besides, we have made an appointment for a self-driving trip next month. It's not okay to have no money."

Looking at Aunt Bai's obsession, the daughter cried and said:

"I don't have money, and I won't give it to you. If you are raising your old age for yourself, I will care about you, but if you are experiencing those false life now, I will definitely not give it to you. You, why haven’t you realized that your lifestyle has been wrong in the past few years! "

Aunt Bai said:

"I am so old, what kind of lifestyle do you want? Just live happily by yourself. If you don’t give it to me, I will find a son-in-law to go."

My daughter cried and said:

"You want to break up my family! Do you still think you are right now? I spent more than 100,000 yuan in three or four years, and you are a pensioner every month. I will tell him now that we don’t give you money, and if you really recognize me, a woman Son, if I still need my care in the future, if you have to go, then go, I don’t care about you, I won’t give you money anyway.”

Aunt Bai was angry and did not ask for money in the end. Although she felt that her approach was a bit inappropriate, she still chose to go for the so-called relationship and face. The ending is conceivable. Aunt Bai still went, but because she had no money, she made her trip very unhappy. In order to ease her relationship with Aunt Bai, her daughter also took the initiative to reconcile with Aunt Bai, and calmly advised Aunt Bai to change this life state, but Aunt Bai did not refute any more.

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In fact, elderly people like Aunt Bai who live alone in their later years have good financial situations at home, and they also have savings and pensions. When their children do not need to worry about their lives, they will be prone to these things and will easily spend money and be generous. Perhaps the life they experience is what they like and can bring happiness to themselves, but this lifestyle that they choose without bottom line will always face failure and end, and it will be more difficult to make themselves happy at that time.

So life in my later years is not free and easy, and spending a lot of money must be happy. On the contrary, in many cases, the best and happiest ones are suitable for you. If you integrate into some circles that are not suitable for you, you will always feel difficult and inappropriate, and finally make your life a mess. What do you think?