This is the 944th real person we tell
My name is Chen Zhixian
(I am exhausted)
1977, I was born in Huaqiao Town, Dexing City, Shangrao City, Jiangxi Province. When I was a child, I was the youngest child in my family. My parents worked in a construction company and were non-farmers. I had no land and had very little income. They raised me and my three sisters, as well as grandparents with a meager salary, and their lives were extremely difficult.
When I was studying, my sister and I went to work as soon as we got off school. When I graduated from elementary school, I almost dropped out of school because my family had no money. It was me who worked as a summer vacation worker for two months, helping the construction site to move bricks, pick sand, and load cement, so I barely paid for the junior high school fee and successfully entered the school to continue my studies.
I have loved mathematics since I was a child, and one year I was selected to participate in the county's mathematics competition. During that time, while working, I also taught myself mathematics in the first grade of junior high school.
has been working all year round, and their parents are not in very good health. Once, my mother got off work and accidentally fell on the way back by bike, and fell into a coma on the back of her head. She lay down for three days and three nights before she recovered.
(my hometown)
My father also had a major lumbar surgery in 1991 and lay at home for half a year, and his life became even worse.
After graduating from junior high school, I went to vocational high school . I hope I can come out earlier, find a job, earn money to support my family, and reduce the burden on my family.
18 when I graduated from vocational high school, I followed my classmates to Hangzhou and worked as a waiter in a hotel. My monthly salary is only 600 yuan, and the hotel is not allowed to eat or stay. My friend and I rented a house outside. In addition to rent, transportation costs for commuting, and some holiday expenses, we almost couldn't save much money every month.
In 1997, I returned to my hometown and wanted to learn a technique, so I went to learn how to repair cars and took the driver's license. At that time, I studied as an apprentice, but I had no salary. I repaired various diesel locomotives every day, and drilled to the bottom of the car to repair all kinds of oil leakage. After a day, I was covered in oil and the water for washing my face and hair was as dark as ink, which was particularly dirty.
(The hardships of life can be tolerated)
A year later, I got a little salary, but I was still covered in dirt every day. For young people, it is really painful to wear oil, sludge, dirt every day. After working for two years, I decided to find a job in Hangzhou again.
Because I have a driver's license, I will do some jobs such as drivers and freight. He has driven vans, cars, freight trucks, mixers, and has worked as a driver in clothing stores, auto parts cities, construction companies and other industries, and his income has gradually increased from 1,500 to more than 3,000 yuan. It is the hardest to drive a mixer truck, each time one person works 24 hours a day.
2007 Spring Festival, after someone introduced me, I met my wife. She and I were in the same town. The two families were very close, only a river. After seeing each other a few times, we decided to have a romantic relationship. When I was working in Hangzhou, she would visit me every month, and we would go shopping, eat, and go out together. After half a year, I was about to talk about marriage.
(Being a father for the first time, dreaming of becoming a good father)
Because they are fellow townsmen and are all children of ordinary families, they both think that each other is honest and willing to live a good life together. After the parents of both sides agreed, we obtained the certificate at the end of 2007 and held a banquet in January 2008 to officially get married.
In 2008, our first daughter was born. I quit my job one month before the birth of the child and returned to my hometown. I thought that the family of three would live together well, so that my wife would not be too hard. At that time, with the joy of becoming a father for the first time, I felt that there was another responsibility on my shoulders, hoping to become a good husband and a good father.
After returning home, I upgraded my driver's license to A1 and found another job to drive semi-trailer . Although it was hard, the salary was high. I usually included food and fragmentary expenses. As long as I was in the car, I didn't have to spend it myself. At that time, I was 3,000 yuan a month and I gave her all the money almost every month.
(The road of life is still long)
Half a year later, in 2009, I started running long distances again, and my salary was higher. At that time, I drove a trailer to Guangdong, with a monthly salary of 3,800 yuan. But I only leave 100 yuan on my body every time, so that when I go home, I buy her and her children some southern fruits to try.
In 2011, our second child was born again. While working hard, I took care of the elderly and children with my wife. I handed over the monthly salary to her as much as possible, so that she could take charge of the financial power in the family.
My wife is usually very frugal. She can wear some clothes for six or seven years at a time. She rarely buys skin care products and never wears makeup. Usually, I always buy very cheap clothes and shoes when driving. Every Spring Festival, my wife always buys me a pair of clothes worth hundreds of yuan and a pair of good leather shoes. I said I have worked hard for a year, which touched me very much.
At that time, both of us were devoted to the elderly and children at home, so that we could live a better life as much as possible.
(Being an ordinary and happy ordinary person was once my biggest wish)
I often travel on business trips and I give her less company, and I feel a little guilty. So try to make up for the money. Except for leaving some pocket money, most of the income is handed over directly to her, and she never asks about it. In my opinion, nothing is more important than trust between husband and wife.
In 2013, the child has grown up. The eldest is already in kindergarten. The second child is over 2 years old and needs to spend more energy to take care of. I also wanted to take care of my family more, so I bought a van and started running a taxi at home so that I could be with my wife every day and give her more company. Although life is hard, there is new hope every day.
When buying a car, I asked her how much money she had? She said it wasn't much, and the children usually spent a lot of money, and the family spent all their expenses, and only took out 10,000 yuan. I didn't think much about it, but I borrowed some from my friends and sister. However, the taxi business is not easy to do, and the business is very deserted. I can't hold on after only one year of work.
(Work hard, I just want to be better)
In 2014, the child was getting older and older, and the house at home was still the old house assigned by the parents' unit before. Our family of 4 and our parents were squeezed into two houses. It just so happens that the unit needs to plan in a unified manner and the house also needs to be renovated. So I advised her to go out to work with me, save some money to renovate the house as soon as possible, and give the children a better environment.
So we went to work at a cousin's cabinet door factory in Shenyang. She did glass coating and I did spray paint.
is extremely intense there. I have to work until eleven or twelve o'clock every day, and the food is also very cost-effective. Most of the time I have simple vegetables, noodles, etc., and I am not used to the local environment, so I have intestinal diseases and have undergone a minor surgery. Before the wound healed, I went to work again.
(wife and eldest daughter in 2015)
There will always be rewards for our efforts. That year, we worked hard to save money together, and the balance was 90,000 yuan at the end of the year. I was very happy and told her that we would work hard for another year or two and renovate the house, so I would find a job at home to accompany you to take care of the children. I am always full of hope when I imagine the future and feel that all the hard work is worth it.
But unexpectedly, my wife refused to go out again. Maybe it was because she worked too hard to work outside, maybe she missed her children too much, but in short, she just refused to go out again. I also asked me to open a cabinet shop at home, and she helped me see the shop and do some small business at home.
couldn't resist her, so I spent my money on store investment, opened an cabinet store, and also a small factory. But I am not good at talking about business, and my wife stays in the store all day long and plays cards when she is not busy. Such a store naturally fails to make ends meet. After two years of hard work, I ended my second entrepreneurship.
(It is not easy to do business)
In 2017, I went out to work again and did cabinet installation projects in Suzhou , Wenzhou and other places. The house had to be repaired. I transferred all my income home, and my family also began to prepare for the construction of a house.During
, her father was diagnosed with cancer again, and I transferred it to her more than 40,000. During that time, she found a cashier job and told me that she would bear the expenses at home. I saved the money I earned and prepared to build a new house. At that time, I felt that life was particularly promising.
But not long after, she became pregnant again. After becoming pregnant, he quit his job as a cashier and raised his baby at home. I took on the burden of the whole family alone. From 2018 to 2019, it took two years to borrow money, work, and renovate the house. Because there is no deposit, it costs more than 500,000 yuan to repair the house, most of which are loans and borrowed money.
(How far is it?)
In order to repay the debt as soon as possible, I could only work hard and bring my own car to install it in order to make more money. I went out at five or six o'clock in the morning and often worked until the early morning at night.
Once, I accidentally fell off the shelf and couldn't lift my entire arm. I used my other hand to support it to add vegetables. I carried it myself for two months, applied plaster and applied medicine, and slowly recovered it, but I was not willing to go to the hospital.
2021, while I was working in Quzhou , she said she would go to Quzhou with her friends to do projects. I advised her not to invest easily, we can’t afford to lose money now. It doesn’t matter if I work harder. You and the children are at home, just take good care of the children and the elderly. But she went to Quzhou without hiding it.
During that time, she often didn't answer the phone when I called, either hung up or turned off, looking very impatient. In March this year, I called and she said she was at home. I found out that she was in a hotel in Quzhou through my mobile phone.
Intuition tells me that she cheated! I waited outside the hotel for a night, and at around 9 o'clock the next morning, she and another man came out to check out.
(Sadness is useless, the problem still needs to be solved)
This scene deeply hurts my self-esteem as a man. I went up and slapped them a few big shots. The 15-year trust of husband and wife collapsed at that moment. I worked hard for the family outside, but she was checking in with her lover behind her back! I looked at her, feeling extremely desperate, and tears couldn't stop flowing.
After calming down, I think about the three children in the family. The children are still so young. As parents, we always consider the children. They are all girls, and if this incident is a big deal, wouldn’t they be ridiculed at school? If adults make mistakes again, children are innocent.
Just when I was about to forgive my wife and let her return to her family, she ran away from home again. She also told me that she would take my eldest and younger daughter away in a few days, and the second child would stay for me. I can't figure out how to answer this, why is the only second child giving me?
(My former daughter and me)
My relatives and friends at home asked me to take my child to do a paternity test, but I refused at first. I think a woman with her for 15 years will not be so morally corrupt. But my wife seemed to have decided to leave, blocked all my contact information, and refused to meet and talk to me. After countless struggles, I still couldn't make up my mind.
I have grown up little by little since I was a child. The oldest is only 15 years old and the youngest is only 3 years old. Father and daughter are in deep love. How can I not love them? In addition, the couple has a hundred days of kindness. Although she has not accompanied me on the moon and starry sky, I don’t want to hurt my face after she has taken care of the family for so many years.
During that time, I tossed and turned all night, thinking back to her performance over the years and my efforts to my family. After working hard for so many years, I have kept all my hard-earned money for her, but in the end I still have a lot of debts.
(I’ve been busy all my life, and I’ve been empty)
I checked her transfer record and I actually transferred a lot of money to my lover for living expenses! There are many furniture and appliances in the online shopping records, and those things have not appeared in any place in my house! In addition, there is an additional loan of more than 300,000 yuan!
But reason finally defeated emotions. I thought of her indifference after her cheating and these excessive behaviors. We can't go back to the past anyway.
So, I took my three children for paternity tests and planned to have a peaceful divorce after the results came out. I hope that all three children are mine. As a father, I will fulfill my duties as a father. I will stay and raise them well.
But I never expected it, but it gave me a blow. On April 26, 2022, the paternity test results of the third brother's paternity test were released. On May 12, 2022, the paternity test results of the second brother and the eldest brother were also released.
The result that he most reluctantly wants to happen is like three knives piercing into my heart one by one. None of the three children are my biological flesh and blood!
(paternity test report)
I feel like a bolt from the blue, sitting on the ground for a long time and unable to calm down. The child I raised for 15 years is actually someone else’s. How many people in the world can face such a blow? There was a dream in 15 years. My wife was gone, my children were gone, and my money was gone. Everything was like an illusion, all of which were fake. After
, I went to my mother-in-law's house indignantly to seek justice. My mother-in-law drove me away with an umbrella and hit me. I used my hands to block her, causing my mother-in-law to sit on the ground and cause her thigh fractures, so they chose to call the police.
In the early morning of May 28, she took her lover and used homemade explosives to intimidate me and my family. My elderly father was so scared that his heart disease relapsed. I also chose to call the police at that time, hoping to use legal means to protect my last trace of dignity.
(the window that was blown up)
Now things between us are getting more and more complicated. I recall my life, I never hurt innocent people, I never felt ashamed of my family and friends, and I yearned for an ordinary and peaceful life. I endured hardships and suffered to give her and her children a better life, but why did I end up like this?
On the Mid-Autumn Festival, I missed the children very much. Although the conclusion of medical identification has nothing to do with me, people's hearts are all flesh. How can I not have feelings for three children and I have been with me for so many years? I bought mooncakes and waited for them on their way home from school. Unexpectedly, the children hid from afar when they saw me.
Lying in bed and thinking about it carefully. Who can I trust and rely on for the rest of my life? Along the way, my luggage is filled with ups and downs. I have learned to be silent, used to loneliness, and used to healing myself.
When one day, you have experienced the ruthlessness of society, the pressure of money, the unbearable love, and the sinisterness of people's hearts, you will eventually understand that no matter how big the eaves of others are, they are not as good as having an umbrella.
(All tastes are life)
Passed through the pass, and it is hard to stay up all night. You know the cold and warmth, you will be able to save your sorrow and joy, and you will be able to quietly collapse and heal silently. All kinds of tastes are life.
I have nothing but debts. Although suffering and hardship are part of life, no one is willing to tear their wounds apart to others again and again.
My story is not to attract fans, but to hope that everyone can reexamine their lives and also hope to receive some legal assistance.
(No matter how difficult the road of life is, you have to go on)
My elderly father needs me to take care of my old age and die. I have worked hard for decades, but all I get is hurt. I believe justice will be late, but it will never be absent!
[Oral: Chen Zhixian]
[Editor: Amy]
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