For an old couple, life in their later years is like two people relying on each other and accompanying each other. Once one party leaves the world first, the one who is left will definitely be in pain.
Because the one who was left behind had to bear the loneliness and loneliness of old age alone, guarding the empty house from morning to night, only those who have experienced it will understand the loneliness that penetrates deep into their bones.
I remember there was an elderly blind date program where an old lady who had been widowed for 23 years. She met an old man who had been widowed for 23 days. The old lady said that 23 days of loneliness and 23 years of loneliness are actually the same.
Some people think that after the wife dies, they have to stay for the other party for at least two or three years before finding a new partner, otherwise it will seem too heartless; some people think that ordinary people cannot understand the loneliness of the elderly, so the faster the elderly find a partner, the better.
There is a 74-year-old man Liu Baolai in Heilongjiang. He suffered a lot when he was young. Later, he lived a good life. Uncle Liu has always been very thrifty.
Uncle Liu's wife has been with him for decades. He died suddenly due to illness. The lonelyUncle Liu wanted to find another companion to have a support.
Uncle Liu has a monthly pension of 1,855 yuan, because he rented a piece of land and received an additional income of four or five thousand yuan a year.
Although the income is not high, Mr. Liu has medical insurance and is content. He felt that although his living standards were not as good as those in the city, in the countryside, he had a house and income, and was enough to live a better life.
Mr. Liu is used to being frugal, so he doesn't spend money: it costs five to ten yuan to get a haircut out, so Mr. Liu bought an electric haircut himself to use for his own haircut; at the age of 73, he installed a water heater in the bathroom alone, because it would cost at least 100 yuan if he hired someone to install it...
Mr. Liu firmly believes that he can do work, he must never waste money.
Even if the kitchen at home is renovated, the old man didn’t spend a penny more. The tiles and cement are all things that others don’t want, and the old man picked them up and went home by himself. Even the range hood was washed by the old man himself.
Although Mr. Liu is very frugal, he will never make do with the food. There is never a shortage of fruits, meat, eggs and milk at home.
When the matchmaker learned about Uncle Liu’s basic life situation, he also lamented that he was a careful person who could live a life.
Uncle Liu told the matchmaker that his wife died of liver cancer and had only been away for more than four months. My wife's illness came suddenly, from being hospitalized to her death, only two months later.
Uncle Liu and his wife have been together for 57 years and have never quarreled or fought. My wife suddenly left like this. Whenever Mr. Liu thinks about it, he can only cry with sadness.
Uncle Liu sighed: My wife is walking too fast. If he can be served for a year or two, he will feel better.
Now, Mr. Liu commissioned the matchmaker of the blind date show to help him find a companion, one is to get rid of loneliness, and the other is to get out of his grief as soon as possible.
Otherwise, every time he returns home, he always feels that he is missing something in his heart when he looks at the empty room.
No matter how filial the children are, they also have their own families and it is impossible for them to always guard their old father. So, Uncle Liu had the idea of finding a companion.
Uncle Liu’s standard for choosing a spouse is also very simple: as long as he doesn’t dislike his low retirement salary, an old lady who can live together is fine.
h In order to let Uncle Liu have a companion as soon as possible, the matchmaker worked hard and finally found a candidate for Uncle Liu: 68-year-old Wu Xiujin and Aunt Wu.
Aunt Wu was an accountant and her life was very simple, diligent and thrifty. She could even be described as stingy.
After using an electric rice cooker for thirty years, she still can't bear to throw it away. She can still use it to stew bones; the bottom of the stainless steel washbasin leaks, she can still use it to wash vegetables; the broken bucket in the unit will be taken home to put miscellaneous items.
Aunt Wu also has the habit of keeping accounts every month, and her monthly expenses will definitely not exceed 500 yuan.
Despite this, Aunt Wu said that saving money will be done according to the situation. If relatives and friends come and she wants to invite someone to dinner, she will never save the money. Even if it costs 1,000 yuan, she is willing to pay it.
Speaking of her past marital status, Aunt Wu's expression immediately became solemn.
Her deceased husband is an alcoholic and basically drinks every day. When she gets drunk, she will ride on Aunt Wu and beat her.
Aunt Wu’s child couldn’t stand it and persuaded her mother to divorce her father. Aunt Wu once thought about leaving her husband who was drunk and domestically abused, but she thought of her two children. For the sake of family integrity, she endured it silently.
When Aunt Wu was 46 years old, her husband passed away due to alcoholism.
Now, Aunt Wu's children advise their mother to find another companion, not to do anything else, just to have a companion in their later years.
For the requirements of future wife, Aunt Wu hopes that the other party will be healthy, not drink or smoke, have a reasonable personality, and must have an independent housing.
The matchmaker hurriedly said that she had a suitable candidate, that is 74-year-old Mr. Liu, and Aunt Wu agreed to meet at Mr. Liu's house.
After arriving at Mr. Liu's house, the matchmaker introduced the two.
Uncle Liu is very satisfied with Aunt Wu. When he learned that Aunt Wu is also very good at living, his favorability towards Aunt Wu increased by more than one level.
In order to show your importance, Mr. Liu specially bought a lot of fruits, melon seeds and peanuts and other dry goods.
After Aunt Wu sat down, Mr. Liu began to talk about his life: live a life that means saving what should be saved, and you should be willing to spend money if you should not be saved.
In this regard, Aunt Wu expressed that she agreed with Mr. Liu's point of view.
Seeing Aunt Wu say this, Mr. Liu hurriedly began to promote himself: I don’t smoke, drink, play cards, or dance, just like taking a walk in the park.
Then, Uncle Liu struck while the iron was hot, indicating that he was very healthy, did not have the three highs, and had clear ears and eyes.
Although Aunt Wu said it was very good and very good, her expression was obviously impatient and perfunctory.
After listening to Mr. Liu's introduction, Aunt Wu said: " is healthy, which meets my requirements; he does not drink or smoke, does not have bad habits, and also meets my requirements. These are all very good. But I have one that is not satisfied with ."
When Aunt Wu said "dissatisfied", Mr. Liu, who was in high spirits just now, immediately showed embarrassment and embarrassment on his face.
He didn't understand what he was making Aunt Wu dissatisfied.
Aunt Wu said, "Honey wife has been away for too short ."
Uncle Liu suddenly became helpless and could only look at the matchmaker with a look of help.
matchmaker quickly explained to Mr. Liu: "House 3 may not be particularly long for four months, but for people of this age, every year passes much faster than that of young people. As they get older, they no longer want to experience this feeling of loneliness. ."
matchmaker said that during the four months after his wife passed away, Mr. Liu also went to the park for a walk alone, and could only watch TV after returning home.
Although children are close to each other, they cannot be with them every day. This feeling of loneliness is really unpleasant.
Aunt Wu said that this feeling is indeed not good, after all, I have lived such a life.
But the behavior of Mr. Liu looking for him again after being widowed for four months made Aunt Wu feel uncomfortable.
Aunt Wu may want to say the word "indifferent", but she still restrained it. She said that even if she wanted to find a widowed person, she would have been widowed for at least two or three years.
The matchmaker conveyed Aunt Wu’s idea, but Mr. Liu felt that this was not realistic at all.
After all, he is now 74 years old. If he stays for another three years, he will be almost 80 years old. So what else is there! Mainly, while the body is still strong, find a partner to take care of each other.
In response to this, the matchmaker comforted Mr. Liu, hoping that Mr. Liu would not change his original intention of finding a wife.
Aunt Wu and Uncle Liu still couldn't get together. The matchmaker felt very sorry and advised Aunt Wu to consider it again. After all, Uncle Liu looked pretty good, but Aunt Wu said that what she decided would not change again.
Although it ended with regret, Uncle Liu said that he also understood Aunt Wu.
I hope Mr. Liu can find a partner who suits his heart as soon as possible and end his lonely old age.
Uncle Liu and his wife who died of illness have been together for 57 years. The two have a deep relationship and have never quarreled and blushed. But his wife died of illness for only four months. Uncle Liu could not bear the lonely life in his later years, so he wanted to find another partner. This is his right to pursue happiness.
But in Aunt Wu's opinion, Mr. Liu's wife can accompany him for so long, but the tea is cold after leaving. She has to look for her again in just 4 months. It is unreasonable to be reasonable.
In the eyes of matchmaker, the loneliness of the elderly is not something that ordinary people can imagine. It is understandable that Mr. Liu wants to get rid of his lonely mood and behavior.
What do you think about this?
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