As the saying goes, one fence has three stakes, one hero has three helpers. Rely on parents at home and friends when going out. It’s easier to walk with more friends.
In the eyes of us Chinese, the status of friends and relatives is equally important. You can rely on the care of your parents when you are at home. When you go out, you have to rely on the help of your friends. With more friends, once you encounter difficulties, you will have an additional channel to solve problems.
The friends, family and colleagues we often meet are all strong relationships with the people around us. In the book "Breaking the Circle: The Power of Weak Connections", it is called strong connection and is an extremely important part of the personal social circle. People can get a lot of support and help from it.
On the other hand, there are some people in life who are just ordinary friends, such as friends of friends, neighbors who don’t meet often, people who take yoga classes together, former classmates and colleagues, and even people who have only met once. These distant relationships are called weak connection . Needless to say, the importance of strong connections to individuals is a cliché.
The author of this book brings a new discovery, believing that it is often a weak connection that is easily overlooked by people. Those who are friendly and far away from us can bring us knowledge, opportunities and unexpected surprises, and even become a helper to change lives and achieve careers.
It is worth mentioning that the two authors of this book, Richard Cock and Greg Lockwood, their encounter and cooperation, happened to show the magical power of weak connections.
Richard learned of a new company through the message of four people. When deciding to invest in it, he relied heavily on a horse racing reporter he happened to meet at a party.
At the same time, Greg passed three messages through the people he knew and also invested in another company. Later, the two companies joined forces and Greg joined the board of directors of Richard's company. The two were able to meet and have the opportunity to work together to write books.
Richard met an Oxford book agent through the introduction of his former colleague, and the book was published and readers were lucky enough to read it.
This process is really a series of long interpersonal relationship chains, with no strong connections in between, it is all a combination of weak connections, but they do play an unexpected role.
: Detailedly counting ancient and modern times, both in China and abroad, there are also many such examples.
Everyone has heard of the story of "Chicken Crowning and Dog Stealing". during the Warring States Period, one of the four famous young masters, Mengchangjun . He is an interpersonal expert who has made good relationships. There are often thousands of diners eating and living in his house, known as " diners 3,000 ", and are well-known all over the world.
Mengchangjun went to Qin State as prime minister, Qin King believed in slander and arrested him. In a critical moment, some of the diners came up with an idea to find the most favored woman of the King of Qin to help save Mengchangjun. However, the woman offered a rare pure white fur coat.
Mengchangjun has it, but he has already dedicated it to the King of Qin. At this time, a good thief appeared and stole the coat and gave it to the woman. With the help of the woman, the King of Qin really released Mengchangjun.
was just released and regretted it immediately. The King of Qin sent someone to chase Mengchangjun who was fleeing.
Mengchangjun and his group arrived at the level but were unable to leave the city because it was not dawn yet, and according to regulations, they had to wait until the rooster crowed before they could pass.
The bad thing is, the pursuers are about to arrive! Unexpectedly, there was another diner who was good at verb skills. He learned a few roosters to make the real ones, which caused all the chickens to crow, and the city gate was opened and he escaped smoothly.
Mengchangjun is a clan member of the Qi State . He has a noble status. At the critical moment, he relied on the nameless "chicken crowing and dog thieves" to save his life. So don’t underestimate these weak connections. Although the relationship is far apart, it is likely to become the key to success or failure in the future.
In ancient times, transportation was inconvenient, people had different identities, and communication between people was limited. There were very few people like Mengchangjun who were in the world.
This is not the case in modern society. The earth has been described as a "village". The relationship between people is not restricted by geographical location. As long as you think, you will find that weak connections can make you happy at any time.
Before, I saw a video on B station where the up owner and his mother-in-law set up a stall in a French market to sell cut noodles . One day when I came back from the stall, I saw neighbors celebrating the neighbors’ festival together near my home. Each household prepared to order specialty dishes and join in the fun.
Usually everyone goes to work, they set up stalls and have no contact. But the mother-in-law took the "equipment" without saying a word, but the neighbors all liked the cut noodles she made.
In the chat, a neighbor working in the municipal government said that if you encounter any problems with setting up a stall, you can find him. Another neighbor is the editor-in-chief of the magazine, and he wants to ask his mother-in-law to do an exclusive interview. The up owner originally thought that the neighbor was just talking politely, but unexpectedly, a few days later, the reporter actually came to interview and said that after the report was posted next month, more people would definitely come to visit.
is so simple, a casual party, the first close contact with the neighbor, a promise, an unexpected opportunity. It doesn’t require you to be a “social bull” or you don’t need much effort. Examples like
are listed in the book, many of whom have obtained new jobs through weak connections, changed their lives, or achieved business success. Interpersonal relationships like
will bring good luck from time to time, which is very attractive.
At present, the epidemic has been going on for three years, the economy is in a downturn, and the overall environment is not good. Some people return from big cities to small places, some are laid off, some fail to start a business...
People's lives are in trouble, and they naturally hope to get help or obtain useful information. At this time, in addition to the various strong relationships around you, you can also consider those inconspicuous weak connections, and maybe you can find a way to break the deadlock.
So, how to explore your weak connections in daily life?
The author believes that the main way to establish and maintain an excellent weak connection reserve is to maintain a wide circle of friends and be open to new people or areas of contact.
has three other strategies that are worth mentioning. The first is to consciously target a new field and participate in it. For example, join a community, take weekend hiking, play frisbee or volunteer, just choose one that you are interested in.
Second, put yourself in various scenarios, such as coffee shops, bookstores, bars, markets, and increase the chances of getting in touch with strangers or common friends.
Third, in order to meet your urgent needs at the moment, take action immediately. If you want to find a job, you should mobilize various relationships, even if you are friends of friends.
The last thing to note is that you should not ignore connecting people you know, as this will also produce better results.
Weak connections exist in large quantities in life and are powerful and creative powers. Learn about it from now on, dig it out, maintain it, and maybe you will use it some day in the future.
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