I saw a comment before saying that conflict between husband and wife is not the responsibility of one party, but both people have problems.
So men cheat, wives also need to be responsible. After all, it is an extramarital affair caused by conflicts between husband and wife. The first half of the sentence
is recognized by the Lan party, and most conflicts between husband and wife are caused by problems with both husband and wife.
But in the second half of the sentence, there is obviously a problem. Why do women be responsible for a man cheating?
If there is a conflict between husband and wife, you can resolve the conflict. If it cannot be resolved, you can't continue to get through. You can find it after divorce.
Why do you have to cheat during marriage? Isn’t it just that marriage conflicts do not exist at all, or is it profitable for marriage?
wants to enjoy the benefits of extramarital affairs, but does not want to face the pain caused by marital conflicts.
Take advantage of good things first, and if you want to escape bad things, you will have extramarital affairs.
So what are the responsibilities of women? In the final analysis, cheating is caused by men's greed and selfishness.
For example, an extramarital affair case handled by the Blue Party before.
Ms. Liu and her husband have been married for 17 years, and there are often some conflicts between the couple.
For example, because I went home during the Chinese New Year, I would give the two elderly people a question.
She feels that she often goes to her husband's house, and she gives money to her mother-in-law every time, and rarely goes to her house, and gives less to her parents.
So if she wants to give more during the Chinese New Year, her husband feels that she is partial to her parents' home.
For example, she and her husband have sisters, and the child is not a few years younger than her child.
wants to save money, and if you want old clothes for her children, it is a problem to give them to them wherever you want.
gives more red envelopes every year, and which child comes to live for a few days, and what kind of treatment will also cause conflicts.
Ms. Song said that although there are many contradictions, she doesn’t think it’s a big deal.
Two people will quarrel and have a cold war, and they will never be able to continue.
She didn't understand why her husband cheated on the grounds of conflict between husband and wife, and did not repent after being discovered.
How did Ms. Liu find out that her husband cheated on her? Because her husband is guilty.
For a while, her husband suddenly stopped fucking her and began to obey her.
When the festival was over, he actually offered to go to her parents' home and bought a bunch of things for Ms. Liu's parents.
When I got home, I happened to meet Ms. Liu's sister's family. The cheating man even took the initiative to send red envelopes to the child.
also deliberately pleased her parents. Ms. Liu should have been happy to see these actions.
But she just felt something was wrong because her husband never did these things for so many years.
There will be something wrong with something abnormal, but she did not directly suspect that her husband cheated on him.
just observed her husband very carefully and found that her husband always ran to the bathroom.
She followed her and heard her husband turn on the faucet and call and chat inside.
At this time, she began to doubt that her husband should be someone outside.
If you want to know if a man has cheated, the simplest and rough way is to
The man cheated and said he had to work overtime, and the original wife hired a car in advance to wait at the door of the man's company.
went there a few more times, and you can see if the cheating man would go to see the mistress in the name of overtime.
Ms. Liu caught her husband cheating, but she caught two people directly.
was at the entrance of the hotel. When she was about to enter, she rushed over directly.
Her husband also wanted to make a fuss, but the mistress admitted it directly.
Why did the mistress admit it directly? This is also the credit of the cheating man.
Affairing man said that he cheated on him as the fault of his original wife Ms. Liu.
Because Ms. Liu has a strong personality and always wants to control him, he will cheat because he is unhappy in his marriage.
Because Ms. Liu is unfilial and treats his parents badly, he will find mistresses and so on.
The cheating man and the mistress said these words. The mistress felt that the cheating man and Ms. Liu were already having a divorce.
The mistress felt that it was no big deal to be discovered. Anyway, the cheating man was going to divorce, so she admitted it.
In reality, a cheating man never thought about divorce, and after being discovered, he never mentioned divorce.
But a cheating man does not want to divorce, which does not mean that a cheating man will break up with a mistress.
Most cheating men are reluctant to let go of their mistresses, not because they are reluctant to let go of their mistresses, but because they are reluctant to let go of the enjoyment brought by extramarital affair.
Compared with the trivial matters of life, family and family, the conflict between the two families.
Extramarital affair is indeed a safe haven for cheating men.
So the cheating man does not mention divorce, and he is reluctant to break up with his mistress.
and also said that I cheated on me because of Ms. Liu, who was unqualified as a wife, and had problems as a daughter-in-law, etc.
Ms. Liu could not solve the extramarital affair and was also criticized by the cheating man. She didn't know what to do before she came to the Blue Party for help.
First of all, the Blue Party clearly told Ms. Liu that cheating was not his fault.
cheating is the problem of this man because he is both greedy and selfish.
Greed is reflected in that he feels that his marriage is not happy, but he is unwilling to end the marriage and start a new relationship.
Because marriage can bring benefits to him, he is greedy for the benefits in the marriage.
is also reflected in that after being discovered, he is unwilling to divorce, nor is he willing to separate the mistress.
Because extramarital affair can bring him enjoyment, he is unwilling to end the extramarital affair.
Selfishness is reflected in that he disregards his wife's feelings when he cheats, and he also has to blame his wife. After
was discovered, he ignored the mistress and wanted to lie at first to deny that during
, he also lied to the mistress and said that the conflict between the couple was very serious, which made the mistress mistakenly think that he would divorce and marry the mistress.
He actually doesn’t love mistresses, nor does he love his original wife. He only cares about himself.
Secondly, what should I do if I solve the extramarital affair?
The advice given by the Blue Party is very simple and crude, collect evidence to sue the divorce, and then let the mistress see the behavior of the cheating man.
It is obvious that men who have been cheating for more than ten years of marriage cannot give up easily, not to mention that the original wife has to pay more money.
So in this case, the man cheated on his cheating actually refused to divorce, and then he took the initiative to break up with his mistress, hoping to win his wife's forgiveness.
The mistress has been entangled, and the Lan Fang told Ms. Liu to let the cheating man deal with the mistress.
What you have to do is to find a mistress once, and you will get a divorce once, and directly take the cheating man to the Civil Affairs Bureau.
You have a firm attitude. A cheating man is afraid of divorce. He will be very decisive when dealing with a mistress.
Finally, Lan Fang wanted to say that if you feel that your marriage is unhappy, you can choose to end the marriage,
Even if your partner is unwilling, you can sue for divorce,
You feel unhappy, you don’t want to continue suffering, it’s understandable that you want to end the marriage.
But you must not enjoy the benefits of marriage, but also dislike the unhappy marriage, and then go to cheat on the mistress.
It’s this man’s fault that a man cheats on, it has nothing to do with his wife.
If you encounter an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
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