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Marriage is a besieged city. People in the city want to come out, and people outside the city want to go in-------- Qian Zhongshu.
Seven years before marriage, we almost came to an end three times, and finally by chance, we have all lived the way we like.
It turns out that life is for yourself. The more beautiful you are, the world will give you the greater face.
I remember that in the first year of marriage, from love to marriage, we got along well at the beginning, but with the birth of Dabao, all kinds of trivial things made our relationship tense, such as washing diapers, mopping the floor, raising children, cooking and dishes, etc., I wanted the other party to do more.
often get angry and quarrel about such trivial matters, and gradually forget the other person's kindness to you, and always remember what the other person did not do.
Everyone says that marriage has been itchy for 7 years. If you survive it, it will be smooth sailing. If you can't bear it, you will part ways. This is right or wrong.
In the 7th year of marriage, a small thing in daily life overwhelmed the last straw, and our marriage came to an end. But during the period of handling the procedures, I suddenly fell ill. The accident came, which prevented us from getting a divorce smoothly.
The next two years were in the hospital. The family went back and forth for two years, between life and death, everything turned out to be a trivial matter. People are really not perfect, and don’t expect the other person to become a perfect person under your request and live a good life.
Since I figured it out, I looked back at the 10 years of marriage life I have gone through. The messy life seems to be less bad than the original one. Maybe I have come here or maybe I have figured it out.
Since then, I have started to be a 60-point self, a 80-point mother, and a 100-point self. In the next 10 years of marriage, we actually got along with each other and became the quiet time, and we each lived the same way we liked.
For you who are in marriage or are about to enter marriage, 10 psychological suggestions:
①: No one is perfect, reduce your expectations for the other person.
②: Marriage is a matter for one person, and you can live a good life.
③: Husband and wife are comrades-in-arms, lovers, not enemies, and trust and accept each other.
④: Give both parties some private space and grow each other.
⑤: Establish a family’s career plan and find common development goals, such as buying a house, buying a car, doing business, starting a company, and so on.
⑥: Trusting the other party is the basis of marriage management. We failed to fulfill our promises as promised and make explanations for everything.
⑦: Complaint less, encourage more, support more, things have happened, and scolding the other person is useless. The important thing is to care more about the other person's mood and give comfort.
⑧: Don’t try to change the other person, magnify the other person’s strengths, and look less at the other person’s weaknesses.
⑨: What is past is gone, don’t bring up old accounts.
⑩: Don’t compare and don’t dislike it. You must understand the wisdom of “contented people are always happy”. Life is to live your own life, not to others.
or above, encourage them together! !
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