text | Zhu Sinyong
When the word "end" is mentioned, many people will imagine future experiences and scare themselves to be miserable in the second half of their lives. In fact, divorced women are not so miserable.
Women in today's society are not so passive. A marriage cannot determine the second half of your life. You are the only one who can make you miserable. Therefore, women should cultivate a rational mindset.
The persuasiveness of psychology and sociology uses sample size and data facts to speak.
A woman who hastily divorced without dealing with her husband's cheating behavior will have the following results:
First, for strong and decisive women, you can not be trapped in extramarital relationships, turn around and leave, and start a new life as soon as possible, no longer give your ex-husband a chance, and you are still living a good life.
Second, there are some extramarital relationships. Originally, the man and the mistress were not suitable, and they quickly separated. The man turned back to win back his ex-wife, and the woman would be confused because of this.
Third, there are some women who are reluctant to leave after filing for divorce, but it is not good to live without divorce, so they are entangled in marriage.
At this time, you need to talk to your husband about marriage, extramarital relationships, and divorce in a professional way.
First, talk to my husband about the specific incident that led to the divorce.
The specific incident that led to your divorce is very important. From these experiences, you can review the habits, cognition and limitations of the two people in marriage, and you can also find your differences.
When talking about these incidents, do not accuse and insult the other party, and do not slander the other party's dignity.
Usually these events are the accumulated harm, the accumulation and escalation of daily trivial matters, and the conflicts caused by the betrayal of lovers.
Second, talk to my husband about the damage caused by the divorce incident.
Divorce incident caused the wife to suffer psychological trauma, making the wife feel disrespected, unrecognized, unsupported, ignored, and not paid attention.
These events make the wife have no feeling of love and no feeling of belonging.
Of course, a man's perception of marriage will have a fatal impact. He believes that divorce is a means to solve the problem of marriage. When this idea arises, it will be difficult for him to be happy in the future marriage.
Third, negative feelings will consume the relationship between husband and wife.
On a psychological level, the other party feels that you have not satisfied my respect, belonging, and attention, and you have not understood me.
On the spiritual level, the other party feels that your values are incompatible and your personalities are incompatible. How to repair marriage in this state? So, find those sources of negative feelings and resolve this problem.
Fourth, discuss ways to resolve divorce incidents.
When you communicate with divorce incidents, you should emphasize more on your efforts towards divorce incidents. For example, we have worked hard... What changes have happened? When there is no effect, it will make you feel very frustrated and make you feel powerless and helpless.
You want to express that if the divorce incident is not resolved, it will definitely happen in your future life and enter a vicious cycle, and you will not be able to continue to endure and bear this matter.
When you express this, the other party will feel that you are working hard for the marriage and feel that you understand him very much.
Fifth, the divorce incident makes you negate at all times.
You will deny yourself, your past, your present, and your future.
When you talk to him about divorce in this way, you will be sincere and you will let him see your determination.
In addition, we also need to use a scientific system to evaluate your marriage. If the marriage is valuable and can resolve the problems in the marriage, then don’t think about divorce and try to rebuild the marriage together.
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