should be responsible, because getting married means that two people are willing to work hand in hand, go hand in hand, and be willing to be responsible for their partners. Otherwise, why get married?
But in reality, many people may want to divorce after getting married, and even have some cheating, family violence against , etc.
So many people are confused. Since they have chosen to get married, shouldn’t they cherish this marriage? Why should we do good things but not do good things?
In fact, you should be responsible for your partner after getting married, but this part of it should not be absolutely rewarded with happy results.
Because what should be done is usually the right thing, and the right thing is not necessarily happy or comfortable.
It’s like we should study hard in our students’ time, but in fact, only a few people can study hard, and there are still many people who will waste their studies or learn while playing.
Learning is something that a student should do well, but learning will also make people feel tired. If the learning content is needed, you may be tortured by learning to collapse.
If you can't feel happiness or even feel the hope of life, what else should you care about whether you should study or not.
includes after we graduate, it is time to work hard. But there are still only a few people who can work hard on their jobs. Some people are working on the surface, but they are actually stolen; some people are very hard-working on the surface, but they are actually just flattering; some people are very loyal to the company, but they actually want to change jobs long ago; some people are very upright on the surface, but they actually choose to fill their pockets, etc.
So you should work well, it is just an ideal state. There are a lot of pressure, temptation, conflicts, and troubles in work. If you don’t have enough strength to stick to your original intention, then working hard is not an easy task.
And marriage is the same. Since you are married, you should be responsible for each other and maintain this marriage well. It is not an easy thing to maintain a marriage, because there are many responsibilities to bear, so you need to have enough energy and ability to do it.
For example, you have to bear the financial expenses of your family, take care of the elderly, raise children, buy a house and a car, interpersonal relationships, eat and wear warm clothes, etc., all of them are all money!
For example, you need to take good care of the emotions of the people around you, make your partner feel caring, the elderly feel at ease, and the children feel at ease. This is all the effort you have to put in!
For example, you must resist the temptations of the outside world, such as the temptations of the opposite sex, the temptations of gambling, the temptations of substance abuse, etc.
So when you get married, you should be responsible for your partner. There is a big distance between whether you have enough energy and ability to be responsible. It’s like many people want to study hard but don’t have the patience to study hard; many people want to work hard but don’t have the perseverance to persevere.
In short, getting married should be responsible for your partner, but this is more of an ideal and a goal. We can work hard to do and look forward to it, but this is not necessarily a fact.
So those who think that as long as they get married, their partners can bring happiness to themselves may have to manage their expectations in advance, otherwise they may be disappointed.
Even if the other party really has the ability to bring happiness to you, if you want this happiness to last, you also need to have the ability to bring happiness to you, otherwise you will be destined to end up disappointed.
Happy~
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