Now we praise a person, and the favorite word we use is: , sober and clear.
For example, if the heroine in many movies and TV dramas does something that we admire, we will say: I am sober in the world and so clear.
In short, everything that makes us feel beautiful and enjoyable can be praised with waking up.
But the question is, what exactly is soberness?
seems to be a little confused. In writing jargon, this word is too general and not specific enough.
Any word that is too general can be put into the world, and there is no problem no matter how you use it. But, you read it a hundred times and don’t know what to do.
In this article today, we will combine Minglan , which is famous for its soberness, to specifically talk about what soberness is.
Can view yourself objectively
Also a concubine daughter, Mo Lan feels that she is worthy of marrying anyone, and even thinks that she has many talents because her biological mother is Lin Xiaoniang, the concubine who is favored by the Sheng family.
But from the perspective of outsiders, is there any difference?
Whenever they go to discuss their kinship, their identities are the same. Even if Molan’s mother is favored, she will only add a little bit of points and there will be no substantial change.
Ko Molan and Lin Xiaoniang never could see this clearly. They would marry the young master and Liang Liulang. In the end, I had to accept the reality. Even if I married Liang Liulang, whom I once looked down upon, I could not be open and honest. I could only cook the raw rice secretly.
Minglan knew very well that she was a concubine's daughter and had no favored mother. It was impossible for a family like the young master to marry her as her official wife.
Later, I saw that the young master was deeply affectionate and was willing to give him a try.
marrying Gu Tingye and becoming the lady of the imperial decree . She still knew her identity and status very well. The maid said that the Marquis and King Huan were brothers, and she immediately scolded: Shut up, what kind of virtue do you have? How can you dare to be brothers and brothers with King Huan!
This is to be clear and be able to look at yourself objectively. Even if Gu Tingye saved the emperor, even if he was a popular upstart, and even if he had a good relationship with King Huan, he was just a subject and had boundaries.
Only by looking at yourself objectively can you not be floating.
Of course, looking at yourself objectively does not mean that you will not fight for anything, you can still fight and climb.
Minglan is willing to swear to the young master because although she knows that she is not worthy of her identity, she also knows that with the love and blessing of her, she still has a chance.
After marriage, she always knew her identity, but she still helped the queen solve a lot of trouble because she saw that the queen hoped that she could give her advice, and she could give her advice too. The other party’s needs match their own abilities, of course, we must work hard to achieve them.
If you can look at yourself objectively, you will not be anxious or anxious, and you will have a higher success rate in doing things and will be accepted even if you fail.
Like Molan, she will be anxious because things exceed their expectations. She is too anxious and afraid of failure, so she does such an affair. Fortunately, my grandmother successfully proposed the marriage, but otherwise, Molan would be ruined for the rest of her life.
often see some blind date posts on the Internet that make people feel incredible. They have nothing, but require the other party to have everything. In essence, they do not look at themselves objectively, so they have become everyone's laughing stock.
You can be confident and climb high, but you must understand what cards you have in your hands.
knows the result and is willing to accept
If someone tells you that there is a project that makes money that can enable you to achieve financial freedom, will you do it or not?
Many people heard this, is there such a good thing? That must be done.
But he never thought about what else would happen if he did it besides financial freedom, and whether he could bear it.
minglan has always been clear.
When she helped Yanran drive away Manniang, she thought it very clearly that this matter seemed dangerous, but it was actually very safe. For the sake of the reputation of his daughter, the Yu family will definitely not say anything. Manniang herself has no reason and cannot say anything.
s she did it, and there would be no bad results at all. At most, she would be told by her grandmother.
Later, she designed to attract Lin Xiaoniang and Molan to avenge her mother, and she also knew very well what the result was. But she thought it through clearly that no matter what the result was, she must do it.
So after Lin Xiaoniang died, she came to apologize to her grandmother and asked her to punish her.
When her grandmother was poisoned by the eldest lady, she also thought it very clearly. If she was as close as her father, her life would not change. But if she had to help her grandmother seek justice, she would offend her parents' home and she would have no parents in the future.
she was willing to bear the consequences, so she unswervingly did it.
But there is one consequence she cannot bear, that is, to bring the future of several sisters and brothers of the Sheng family into it. The old lady of the Wang family saw this and threatened her with this, and she could not be determined and almost couldn't bear it.
Fortunately, at the critical moment Changbai is back, and Changbai has also considered all the consequences and is acceptable. So he wrote his resignation first and personally ordered his mother to eat vegetarian food and recite the Buddha's name for ten years.
A person knows what the result is and is willing to accept it, then he is sober and invincible. No one can do anything to him, and no one can fool him.
There are plans and methods
Minglan did several beautiful things, one is that when the housekeeper was instigating the eldest lady and the female envoy sent by Lin Xiaoniang, and when they made the matter big, they would use the eldest lady's hand to send the person away.
After getting married, the mother-in-law sent a roomful of children. She used the same method, in addition to indulging, she also fanned the flames and made the situation big, and once again legitimately drove the people away.
These methods were learned from Madam Kong and she was very familiar with them.
Her every time she does something, she has an overall plan, that is, to wait for these people to make a big deal, and then drive people up with confidence. There are specific methods in the process, such as coaxing the other party to persuading the other party, and creating conflicts and causing them to make trouble if they don’t work.
When she lured Molan to make mistakes, she also had plans and methods.
Knowing that Molan wanted to marry Liang Liulang, she wanted Molan to make a mistake. In this way, her father would definitely not let Lin Xiaoniang go, and she could avenge her mother.
There are specific methods for each step, such as deliberately showing off the gifts given by the Earl's lady, and specially sending someone to give Molan a secret, arousing Molan's jealousy. Seeing Mo Lan take the bait, she handed the message to the eldest lady, asking her to break up the love affair.
are actually the most difficult things. It is easy to recognize yourself and to bear the results, but having plans and methods really requires wisdom.
This is due to Minglan's good at learning and driving away the female envoy. She used all the tricks of Mama Kong, but based on the actual situation, a little adjustment was made, and the general direction was the same.
Usually learn more, read more, think more, study the beautiful things others have done, and you can use them next time.
For example, after seeing what Minglan did, you can also learn. If your annoying relatives live in your home and your parents-in-law and husband are unwilling to drive people away, you can indulge your relatives and let them do something special. You take the opportunity to make a big splash and drive people away.
The wisdom of life also needs to be learned. With our brains alone, most people cannot think of it. But learning can make up for these shortcomings.
or above three points, practice slowly, and you can also become a sober person.
Article pictures are from the Internet
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