Bi Shumin In the article " Filial piety is priceless " said: "I believe that every sincere and loyal child has made a great wish to his parents in his heart the future is long, and he believes that the future will come naturally. I believe that there will be a day when he will return home in glory. Unfortunately, people have forgotten that the cruelty of time, the shortness of life, and the vulnerable fragility of life itself."
We always think that we have enough time to be filial. When we are no longer busy, we have the strength and time, we can return to our parents and be filial. Some people think that I would give my parents more money to make them feel free to have food and clothing, even if I am filial.
However, for parents, what they want most may not be money, wealth, or concern on the phone, but the company of their children. Even if it only takes a few days, it will be fine.
Regarding companionship, " Reader " says this: Companionship is very warm, it means that in this world, someone is willing to give you the best thing, that is time.
However, there is still a bad trend now, that is, companionship and leniency.
The so-called companionship and leniency refers to the behavior of staying with the elderly with the ability to live independently, providing the elderly with spiritual pleasure, and receiving support from the elderly with food, clothing, housing and transportation. Compared with traditional dependents, companionship dependents often beautify their behavior into "going home often to see each other", and therefore have a strong sense of moral superiority.
They believe that they are not dependent on their parents, but accompanying their parents and fulfilling their filial piety. And parents' money is theirs sooner or later, and they spend the same thing early or late.
"Stay at home for 5 days on National Day, take away 100,000 yuan, and say I don't think about my children and grandchildren, so I won't go back next year." Aunt Zhao couldn't bear it anymore and got angry at her son's family of four.
The son and daughter-in-law were very aggrieved, believing that the reason why they gave up their plans to go out for National Day and returned to their hometown to accompany Aunt Zhao was to be filial and blamed Aunt Zhao.
People around him saw that their family had a quarrel and came to mediate. Aunt Zhao could no longer bear it and accused everyone of her son and daughter-in-law of lying on her parents these days under the banner of accompanying her and filial piety.
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A week ago, Aunt Zhao was extremely happy to learn that her son and his family of four were coming back for National Day. From the moment he confirmed the news, he became busy.
In order to prepare the meal, Aunt Zhao specially called her daughter-in-law and asked her what she liked to eat. She was preparing to buy it in advance. Unexpectedly, after hearing this, her daughter-in-law felt very aggrieved: "Mom, I have been married for seven years. Do you still don't know what I like to eat? Do you think of me as a family member?"
When she heard her daughter-in-law's complaint, Aunt Zhao felt extremely embarrassed. In fact, she didn't know what her daughter-in-law liked to eat, but just to be on the safe side and prevent the wrong purchase from making her daughter-in-law unhappy, she called and asked.
"I went to the county town and bought a lot of vegetables, meat and fruits. My grandchildren liked to eat, stuffed a refrigerator, and waited for them to come back. They set off on the evening of the 30th and expected to arrive at three or four in the morning. Although I was already very sleepy, I was waiting for them, packed the room and put the bed in. "
After my son and daughter-in-law arrived, they both shouted that they were sleepy and went to take a shower directly, then went upstairs to sleep, leaving Aunt Zhao alone to help them move their luggage from the trunk to the living room. They were busy until five o'clock, and they squinted for less than two hours, and got up and became busy.
"My son and daughter-in-law didn't get up until around eleven o'clock, and they complained that I was louder and clamored for them, but I really paid attention and sounded as much as possible."
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Lunch was made by Aunt Zhao alone, and they made their favorite food according to the taste of their son, daughter-in-law, grandchildren.
Because my grandson is still young and is only over two years old, Aunt Zhao is worried that her grandson will not know how to eat, so she plans to feed her grandson. When the daughter-in-law saw it, she took the bowl away, preached Aunt Zhao, and turned up the old accounts of Aunt Zhao's helping to take care of her grandchildren. She disliked Aunt Zhao for spoiling her children, and Aunt Zhao didn't dare to refute a word.
After dinner, my son went out and my daughter-in-law went upstairs. Aunt Zhao had to clean up the dishes and watch the two children not run around, and she couldn't get a rest at all.
"My son is enough, why do you never forget to go to a party with his friends every time you come back? He is also drunk every time. When his daughter-in-law sees it, she naturally quarrels and complains that I can't control her son. How can I control it? He is 32 years old and is the father of two children. I said he is impatient and can't listen."
As of now, the son and daughter-in-law have been at home for five days, quarreling every day. The daughter-in-law kicked her out of the room. Aunt Zhao was determined to persuade her to fight, but she was afraid that the more she made a fuss, she had to look at them worriedly and didn't dare to say more.
Over the past five days, every meal has been made by Aunt Zhao, and the dishes and chopsticks were also washed by Aunt Zhao, including clothes. My son was drunk and was also taken care of by Aunt Zhao.
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Starting from the evening of the 2nd, the daughter-in-law began to complain to Aunt Zhao, saying that their life pressure was getting greater and greater.
"Your son's company layoffs. Although he was not laid off, he had to accept a salary cut. Now, his monthly salary is only more than 8,000. Although our company still has business, it is not prosperous. My salary is not as high as before. However, the mortgage has to be paid and the children have to be raised, hey."
"Mom, how much money do you have? Can you take it out and help us? The market has been in a recession in recent years, and it is difficult for us. You have to help us through the difficulties."
Aunt Zhao heard this and found a passbook with 100,000 yuan in it, which was handed over to his daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law stopped mentioning their suffering outside, but it didn't last long.
The daughter-in-law disliked the money was too low and it was not very useful. She still remembered that when her father-in-law died, she gave her mother-in-law a bank card and asked about it. Aunt Zhao remembered her husband's advice: "Look, Xiaohui and his wife don't know how to save money. They spend as much as they have. How can they continue like this? If something happens one day, and they need money urgently, don't stare at me directly, are you waiting to die? The money in this card is for the family to respond to emergency. Don't hand it over, they will squander it directly."
Seeing that Aunt Zhao refused to give it, the daughter-in-law complained that Aunt Zhao didn't consider her children and grandchildren. After nagging for two or three days, Aunt Zhao really couldn't stand it, so she got angry.
Seeing that everyone was talking about it, accusing them, the daughter-in-law couldn't bear to show her face, and said, "If you don't go back, you won't go back, who would care?" He took the child and called her husband, leaving behind a lonely Aunt Zhao.
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There is a classic line in the movie "The Godfather": "A soft-hearted heart without boundaries will only make the other party gain more and more; being kind without principles will only make the other party do whatever he wants."
Unfilial children are all spoiled by their parents. If you spoil your children, you can't bear to refuse them, you can't bear to get angry with them, and you will almost always respond to all your requests. They are used to asking for it and think that parents should sacrifice everything for them, and naturally they will not be grateful.
Many parents love their children and are reluctant to blame them. They always like to find reasons from their children's partners and accuse their daughter-in-law and son-in-law of being unfilial. In fact, if your children are really filial and cannot tolerate anyone who disrespects their parents, their other half dare not ignore you.
The idea of raising children to prevent old age is not outdated. The premise is that you must educate your children well, instead of letting them lie by their parents, and bet on your last retreat in your later years.
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Topic today: Do you have any good suggestions for Aunt Zhao? Welcome to share your views in the comment section.
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