All my ambitions are, but I can live a life of free
Text: Little Moon | Typesetting: Moon Lane
In the past, I couldn't imagine the life after marriage~
Now, I can't imagine the life without marriage~
Before I was a man of marriage, I always thought that it was better to be free and comfortable than two people living together in pain and sadness.
Having a small house, a job that can support you, a couple of confidants, and something you like to do is the ideal life. (I think many girls may have fantasized so much~)
life has smoothed out all my unrealistic and overly idealistic unrealistic fantasies.
Recently, I saw a netizen (female) discussing marriage with my mother and sister (married), which strengthened my thoughts.
Mom ~
Maybe when you are in your thirties or forties, you still feel that marriage is not that important, and life alone is better.
But when you are older, need to go to the hospital for treatment, need someone to be busy, feel uncomfortable, need someone to take care of, and feel uncomfortable and need someone to accompany you.
You will understand that having your own relatives and children around you is a great happiness.
No matter how much money you have, you can hire the best nursing staff, go to the best hospital, spend money to make people happy, and be accompanied by sincere friends.
But no one can replace his relatives. Not only do he treat you from the bottom of his heart, but he can also bring you emotional comfort. Blood ties are so wonderful.
Sister ~
Everyone has edges, but marriage can constantly polish the edges of both parties until they no longer touch each other.
My marriage has been running in for six years and I have been in a divorce crisis, but until the last step of separation, the two still felt that both parties could take another step back.
Only after experiencing a short-term loss can you understand the preciousness of possession and achieve growth. Now that I have almost finished it, I rarely quarrel and often have happiness.
I still think that getting married is better than one person. The difficult thing to get married is the process of running-in, but as long as you choose the right person and work hard together, marriage will eventually make you happy.
The views of their mother and sister shared by netizens are believed to be the marriage view of many mothers or married women.
Slowly, I also realized that my previous attitude towards marriage was pessimistic. Due to various factors, we would preconceive that we cannot live a good marriage life.
But, do you dare to imagine it?
If I don’t get married, what kind of life will you have?
If I don’t get married, in terms of the nature of my work, I will go home in my spare time and stay with my parents.
This will invisibly bring great pressure and burden to parents, and there will be gossip from relatives and neighbors, and you will have to worry about me.
It was okay when my brother was not married because he was a family and it didn’t matter if he stayed together for a long time.
But after getting married, I have a home. As a girl, I stayed at my parents' home for a long time, and my sister-in-law will have ideas.
I may not be able to avoid it, it will become a point of conflict between my younger brother and sister-in-law.
Sometimes, conflicts with your parents cannot be avoided. At this time, you will feel that you are like a pug, and your parents can't get rid of them even if they want to.
If I encounter something, such as being sick or needing a lot of money, my parents will help you if I can’t get rid of it, and my sister-in-law will feel that my parents-in-law always revolve around my elder sister-in-law.
My existence has affected the life of their family~
When they grow up, it becomes a burden to others. It is a very embarrassing thing, especially between family members. They can't be clear and thrown away. There is nothing else to do except to see each other and get bored.
Thinking about this, I don’t want to be a burden to my parents and family.
No one will love you unconditionally, especially girls. They are old and still stay with their parents, and do not bear the responsibilities they deserve. If they do not fulfill their filial piety, they are mistakes.
(except for the only child. I don’t know much about this situation and cannot conclude anything. Except for those who have severed relationships with their parents and family, after all, this is unnecessary.)
A friend once lost his father when he was very young.
Such a heavy thing, I don’t know how she could withstand such a thin and young age? I would regret meeting her too late and not accompanying her at that time.
When I think of this, I think it is better to have your own family when getting married. When that day comes, there will be no one sharing, no one accompanying you, or no one helping you.
The kind of powerlessness and frustration that is empty and in a trough black hole, and no one can help you, is really indescribable.
As an unmarried and unfriendly person, I am really not qualified to discuss the meaning of marriage.
But I figured out why girls must get married~ or is it better to choose to get married?
That feeling should be:
No matter what happens, I will not be desperate. I can climb up with confidence and boldness to do whatever I want, because someone is a guarantee, like a comrade, and he feels very safe.
Friends who have followed me for a long time should have discovered that my view of marriage has changed☺ Maybe, and it will become
or above later. Let’s encourage each other!
Author introduction : Little Moon, an amateur writing enthusiast. The greatest ambition is to use books as friends, write as companions, and share as a living. In the quietness of writing oneself, experience the grandeur of life.
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