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text | Fengdian Yebo
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When did you last post to a friend?
Is anyone like me, sometimes after posting on Moments, it is not long after it is set to private? Or, delete it directly?
Maybe, some people will say to my behavior: You are in a bad mood!
Yeah, the nerves are "not very good". Moreover, I know for sure that I am not the only one who is not very "nervous" like me. What's more, I don't post to Moments at all, nor do I browse Moments at all. Even if you browse your circle of friends, you won’t interact too much with people.
Why is this?
When the circle of friends first became popular, it was a "girl" who was loved by everyone! When a person posted on his Moments, he didn’t know how many likes it would attract, nor how many comments it would attract.
At that time, people who held their phones and joked through the screen, how could they say anything artificial?
Looking at the present, even if you are sitting face to face, how sincere is the close greetings and smiles?
In this way, it is not that someone’s mentality is too sunny, but that people today are living too cautiously.
Life is a big stage that can always be clear and clear, so that you can protect your body, body and mind.
After all, no one understands himself better, and no one can truly empathize with himself.
The only person in this world who can empathize with is himself. Therefore, more and more people at the moment have started an effective socializing and more time to be alone with themselves.
I don’t know when it started. People are obviously not withdrawn, but they are rarely willing to reveal their true selves to the outside world. The words "Friends" in the circle of friends have never been frequently published or have frequent sincere interactions.
More and more people have "disappeared" from their circle of friends, and replaced it with three days, half a year, and simply not visible! Is it a humanistic progress or a regression to some extent?
Only after finding out the reason was that I realized:
It turns out that the "circle of friends" has never been a gathering place with friends, but another "jianghu" in life. There are very few friends in the friend list that can be called friends, and the existence of the circle of friends is not a circle between real friends.
Where there are people, there are conflicts, and where there are martial arts world, there are disputes.
It is embarrassing to see others posting on Moments, and you will feel that it is no longer natural to post on Moments!
still send it? 3 truths tell you: the circle of friends has deteriorated!
After reading these 3 truths, you will understand that in fact, the greatest wisdom of a person is to "not overestimate" any relationship and "not overestimate" your own position in others' psychology:
1: Why are there less interactions in your circle of friends liked and commented?
Someone will say in particular refutation:
Moments are personal territory, and you can post it when you want to post it. What's the big deal?
In fact, if you want to post it, and how to post it, this is a kind of wisdom!
Frequently posting friends will cause people's "disgust";
Some friends circles are embarrassing and artificial;
Some friends circles are always showing off their "exquisite" without stopping;
Some friends circles are always showing off;
Some friends circles are always showing off;
Some friends circles are constantly watching the screen in countless days...
Maybe I didn't mean it, but others may not think so. Over time, you either see content like these and pass directly, or block it directly and do not read it...
Someone may have said again: If you don’t like to watch it, block it!
But, do people who speak like this really hope that everyone in your friend list will block you? Deep in your heart, I still hope to be paid attention to!
Otherwise, some of your thoughts that you think are beautiful can be completely self-visible, right?
In fact, many times, people should look at themselves from the perspective of others. Instead of stubbornly thinking that anyone is biased against themselves.
Although the circle of friends cannot fully understand a person’s inner self, the content of the circle of friends can directly reduce your score in others’ hearts.
know? Many times, your circle of friends carries your great luck. Whether it is work, marriage, love, or life, it may be affected by big or small.
and these effects generally have very few positive developments.
2: In the circle of friends, the "human nature" hidden is even stronger
Some people will think that I am just sharing life, that is my personal business and has nothing to do with others.
However, others are particularly "rejected" with your content. Do you know the problem? The answer lies in the words "personal matter" you say.
Personal matters, personal digestion is the best. The circle of friends is not entirely a personal territory, but a public "place" where you have the right to operate.
Friends, it seems to be a place composed of text, pictures or videos, but in fact, it is the same as when you attend a large banquet, you need to be decent at all times! If you are not careful, you will reduce your luck value.
No one cares about anything with you, but from the bottom of your heart, you will not "like" you.
No matter whether the content in your circle of friends is real or artificial, whether it is really happy or sad, it is nothing more than:
Hello, some people are jealous. You are not good, some people regard you as a topic and gossip after dinner.
That's all!
Moments are not as simple as you imagined. If you want to post, you will not post. If you don’t want to post, you will not post. If you like to read, you will not read. If you don’t like to read, you will not read!
The human nature revealed is clearer in the circle of friends. Or, if you can’t see other people’s faces through the screen, it’s better to give you a more direct feeling than the reality of face-to-face experience!
It can be said that the evil of human nature in the circle of friends makes people "unpreventable". Therefore, more and more people have become more cautious in their circle of friends in order to protect themselves.
seems to be a burden of extravagance, but in fact it is not a cognitive improvement.
3: A truly smart person has long been away from the circle of friends
compulsory course for adults, and is appropriately "disguised" in various relationships. These disguises are two completely different concepts from being insincere about people.
Adjust disguise for adults is a mature wisdom.
Smart people are mostly happy and angry without showing their emotions, and this is the best respect for others and themselves.
If a person is too unaware of "disguising", then this person will definitely suffer a lot of losses because of such "candidity".
You should know that no one is born smart. Among the people who are praised, most of the wisdom is exchanged for "suffering losses".
Murakami Haruki once said this: You have to be a calm adult. No emotionality, no secret miss, no look back.
emotion, everyone has it. But at least you want to vent, you have to find the right "bet".
In this world, there are always many people who watch you joke, catch you and step on you, and set obstacles on you, and treat you with hearts and hearts.
In the circle of friends, is there a place where all kinds of people gather. Are you really sure that in your friend list, everyone can "empathize" with you, and those who are sad about what you are sad about what you are happy about?
cannot guarantee that how many people will pay for your "sincerity"?
What's more, the content you post is the same as your joys, sorrows, and it has nothing to do with others. In other words, your content will cause negative repulsion to you.
So, are you still going to do it alone?
It is true that whether to post on Moments is personal freedom, and there is no need to grasp any "flaws" and pretend to behave.
But, don’t forget that the world of friends is really not as "easy to mess around" as you think. If all gains need to be exchanged for the pain of "seeing the truth", then you must have a grudge against yourself.
Remember:
Instead of being happy, hardworking, diligent, sad and painful in your circle of friends, it is better to put down your phone and live the present.
When your life is booming, you realize that the most important thing in posting on your "willfulness" in Moments is not as important as managing yourself. There is no need to complain about whom or not, and increase unnecessary displeasure about it because of whether it is posted on WeChat Moments.
Only by finding the center of life can one truly live honestly and freely, and truly explore the true meaning of life and the meaning of life!
Love is the purgatory of people in the world. Whether it is love or friendship, only by meeting the right person at the right time can you achieve the right result!
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Topic discussion: Is there anything you hate in your circle of friends? Leave the comments below to the comments you are not comfortable with!
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