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Happy National Day Duck,
Have you ever traveled?
says that travel is the best medicine to heal everything.
Do you also have the idea of escaping from life?
Maybe you can listen to the story of "50-year-old auntie driving on her own trip".
Su Min, born in 1964, from Zhengzhou, Henan Province.
was born in a family that favors boys over girls.
She is the eldest daughter and has three younger brothers.
When I was a child, I was a "little mother" for my younger brothers, and at the age of 117, I joined the work and earned money to support my family.
She has worked in a fertilizer factory, worked as a bricklayer, sold fruits, worked as a tailor, swept the road, delivered newspapers, worked as a supermarket promoter...
She has done all kinds of jobs, almost all year round.
Perhaps because she wanted to escape from her original family, she got married at the age of 23.
However, I didn't expect to jump from one abyss into another.
For her, only suppresses .
"No matter how I do it, it is wrong, and no matter how I do it, it cannot meet his requirements."
The relationship between the two is not equal . Su Min lives by watching her husband's face every day;
financially calculating , and the couple is AA system;
Su Min wants to support herself and her daughter, and live a life tightly, while the husband, who is not well-paid, spends money and makes a big fuss.
can buy table tennis rackets for a thousand yuan for your hobby, and they don’t want Su Min’s sick mother to use his medical insurance card once.
(I spent 75 yuan to buy medicine, and my husband changed his password the next day)
mentally endless suppression and even taking action .
At first she suspected and questioned herself.
She asked her husband if she disliked her appearance?
Since her husband's answer was: "Do you think you are good-looking?"
(Just ask who can't be angry about this??)
Or maybe it's because she gave birth to a daughter?
has also hurt himself because of depression , and the tip of the knife is almost the same as the chest.
In her mother's eyes, a man like this is:
"Apart from being picky, there is nothing big problem, at least he won't go out to find a mistress."
Yes, in the eyes of the older generation of Chinese women, the bottom line of marriage has never been decided by women.
At least he wants you, at least he has not cheated, and you have countless reasons to stay in this marriage.
Her daughter described her life like this:
"My father blamed my mother all kinds of things. When he was in a bad mood, my mother was under pressure and felt that she had cooked her well. If she did more work in , she would get a good face ."
(The picture shows an old photo of Su Min and her daughter)
Influenced by her parents, her daughter chose: an obedient and good-tempered man in terms of choosing a spouse.
Su Min and her husband have been separated for more than 20 years, except for the occasional pretending when her daughter and son-in-law are there.
Their husband-wife relationship is actually has already died in name only .
Someone asked, since you can’t get through, why not get divorced?
Su Min believes that inseparable means little to her .
It’s not that I didn’t think about divorce, but that I have been hurt by marriage.
For this marriage, she never thought of escaping.
She has made many excuses for herself: her mother opposes and is afraid that her daughter will be looked down upon after divorce, which will affect her daughter's choice of spouse...
But the real reason is that she has been in a PUA environment for a long time, She lacks confidence in living alone and is overly eager for her husband's recognition .
The only time her husband cares for a long time.
Except for her own small family, her younger brother, whom she raised since childhood, never gave her a good sigh.
Neglected childhood, disrespected marriage, and unbearable family shackles.
Su Min’s story is a microcosm of how many Chinese families? How many Su Mins exist?
We don't know.
Later she had enough of this and decided to leave.
My husband just said coldly to her: "You have to come back in a few days."
Run away ▼
September 24, 2020,
56-year-old Su Min started a life of driving alone.
This white Volkswagen POLO car is her little home.
One person, one car, one tent, she has been through and stayed in more than 100 cities.
set off in Zhengzhou all the way south,
in Chengdu, she met her old classmate.
In Yunnan, she experienced a different ethnic custom.
In Hainan, she spent the 2021 New Year.
This is her first time to come to the beach and learn to surf.
Later, she went north to Shanghai and went to Disney to be a child for one day. After
, she wants to go back to her second hometown.
She went to Tibet all the way.
Then he took his daughter and his family to Xinjiang.
She smiled and said: "I finally live like someone else envies."
Yeah, she finally lived the life that most people dream of.
During the journey, she saw scenery that she had never seen in her life,
Shaotong Mountain Package Sea of Clouds,
Dream Silver Tower in Mangshi ,
Sunrise in Xishuangbanna ,
Basongcuo Lake in Lhasa in May,
Xinjiang’s most beautiful Duku Highway ...
After seeing so many magnificent scenery, she said: "It turns out that life can be so beautiful, and it turns out that people can live like this."
Someone is curious, isn't she afraid of driving alone?
She has also been afraid, and
has also encountered difficulties, but fortunately, most of the kind-hearted people I met.
In order to save money, she has lived in a park,
parking lot,
gas station,
and the empty roadside.
She said, "I'm tired and happy."
During the journey, she met all kinds of people and made many new friends.
There are women who drive alone like themselves,
There are people who are curious about Su Min’s travel stories,
There are Su Min’s fans and friends,
also like-min’s friends.
From them, Su Min is experiencing and thinking about the meaning of life.
She is transforming and working hard.
self-study short video editing and aerial photography;
tent can be completed in more than an hour to ten minutes;
learn to be self-media,
fans have grown from more than a dozen people to more than three million fans on the entire network;
In the first half of this year, she finally changed from a hatchback small polo for the big RV she was thinking about.
She choked and said, "I finally have my own home."
Ju still remembers that she said before she set off that many things did not belong to her before.
Now this can finally be named after her name, a RV that looks more like a home than a cement house.
Su Minpairuo before and after the trip. The word mentioned most frequently changed from suppression to free .
She added a sentence to her personal homepage: "Everyone's final destination is itself."
In the journey, many netizens encouraged her,
envy her,
learn from her.
Yes, she became popular,
even became popular abroad.
More than one media rush to interview her and invite her to show.
even she published a book: "I decided to run away from home after fifty years of age" .
(If you want to know more about Su Min’s story, this book is recommended to you)
Ju watched a lot of Su Min’s videos, interviews, and articles she posted.
Su Min’s speech is organized and logical, and she does not speak in a brainless manner like her husband belittled.
To be honest, there were not many thoughtful women in that era, Su Min is ordinary but not ordinary .
There is a saying that goes, When you have seen mountains, rivers and seas, you will no longer be stuck in muddy and depressions.
Travel made her transform, and the stagnant water that she suppressed because of her life began to surging.
Ju still remembers that in a certain video, she came to Erhai to make up for the regret of coming and going last time.
To be honest, Juicy saw the girl's appearance in her smile for the first time.
But she should have lived so brilliantly, right?
Divorce ▼
She once described her departure like this:
My departure is not only a rebellion against suppressing life, but also a path to self-salvation.
is like a precious vent in a prison for marriage. If you don’t vent, you may die.
After traveling alone for two years, she decided to go home for a visit during the Mid-Autumn Festival this year.
On her way back home, she was very nervous.
Before this, Su Min accepted an interview with " Characters " magazine and she still had expectations for divorce.
"I have expectations, he has an attitude of improvement. Through this reflection, he can recognize his own mistakes. I hope the two of us can talk calmly. I hope our big family can live in harmony."
After she went back, she went to see her family, and her mother was worried that she was wandering outside.
The whole world has seen this middle-aged woman grow rapidly, but her husband chose to continue to "open her eyes and blindly" .
The first sentence my husband said when he saw her was to question: "You still know if you can't make it anymore when you come back."
throw the bowl in front of his grandson, "I usually have more ruthlessness than this. I'm not afraid if you pat me."
(You can imagine what Su Min's life was like in the past)
He was still suppressing her, that was his dignity as a man.
She expects his change, and he may not even want to see her travel video.
can no longer anesthetize himself. At that moment, Su Min chose to divorce.
But the husband chose to avoid it, and the marriage certificate was lost.
But this time she was determined to divorce , and planned to find a lawyer to go to the lawsuit, which would probably be handled for a while.
She didn't want to stay at home during this period, she wanted to continue to "on the road".
It can be seen that after returning home, Su Min changed back to the tolerant she used to be.
The smile on his face disappeared, and he became haggard.
27 She posted another post to answer the question of why she is divorced now.
Su Min decides to divorce, and there is a lot of controversy on the Internet.
Someone said, "abandoning your husband and daughter" for two years, why should you ask your husband to give her a good face?
If a man did this, would the whole network scold the scumbag now?
Some people also say that she made money by short videos, and there was a team behind her helping her.
She said bluntly that money is a woman's courage.
Why can’t she make money? The four words deny all Su Min's changes. Thinking like
will only make more "Su Mins" dare not resist.
Some people even questioned that this was just a show.
Why did she spend her whole life planning this grand "art" of departure?
If she can live this life and can endure it, she will not leave.
Su Min always feels that she is not the heroine of the drama.
The decision to divorce is not considered a new female awakening like the movies " ending " and "Kim Ji-young, born in 82",
but a traditional woman's "Save enough disappointment and leave" .
For Su Min, the greatest meaning of marriage is not love, but stability.
The mobile RV family is her stability now.
The first half of her life has been living for her identity role in the family.
She strives to be a good wife, mother, and daughter, and is dedicated and responsible, and is hardworking.
. She just wants to live for herself once in the second half of her life .
National Day, she announced that she will embark on a journey again.
This time she is going to take a C6 driver's license and drive a drag carriage (RV).
Su Min's story has not ended, and her life has just begun.
Auntie, please live for yourself in the future!
The last sentence
Sometimes, we all lack that little courage.
A decision is never too late.
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