Five days ago, my mother called me and cried and said, "Jianhong died in a car accident!" Because my grandmother only had two children, mother and uncle, and my mother married in the village, so Jianhong and I almost grew up together and had a deep relationship.

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5 days ago, my mother called me and cried and said, "Jianhong died in a car accident!" I was confused after hearing this.

Jianhong is my cousin and my uncle's son. He is two years younger than me. Since my grandmother only has two children, mother and uncle, and my mother married in the village, Jianhong and I almost grew up together and had a deep relationship.

On the phone, my mother nagged about the incident in Jianhong. Due to the epidemic prevention and control reasons, I cannot go back to my hometown to send my cousin for the last journey, and I feel full of regret. Sitting in front of the computer, I no longer have the intention to work and recalled my cousin's short and miserable life.

When Jianhong was six months old, after a heavy rain, grandma told her uncle that the house she lived in was leaking and she would help her repair it when the weather cleared. It was originally a very simple job, but my uncle accidentally fell to the ground. He fell into a coma at that time.

In order to treat my uncle, he not only spent all his family’s short savings, but also borrowed a lot of foreign debts from relatives and friends. Unlucky, due to the timely rescue, his uncle not only saved his life but also left no obvious sequelae. But that debt has since been pressed on his shoulders like a mountain.

Nowadays, families who have "returned to poverty due to illness" often see families in rural areas. What's more than 20 years ago, everyone was struggling on the poverty line and their uncle's family, who had been carrying a lot of debt, were even more miserable.

This debt has also become the fuse for the conflict between Jianhong's mother and grandmother and daughter-in-law. The mother recalled, "Grandma had cried to her many times. Once, Jianhong's mother pointed at her nose and scolded her: "If the house leaks, it won't be able to live in you anymore. Now, it's time to build a roof. It's enough to build a new house! "

When Jianhong was two years old, his mother finally couldn't stand these hard days, so she left him, his uncle and son, and a bachelor from the neighboring village and ran away.

Half a year later, the bachelor from the neighboring village came back alone. Someone in the village once asked him: "Which girl did you kidnap? "

The bachelor smiled bitterly and said, "I ran away again, we can't afford to support it. I didn't earn enough money for a month for her to spend ten days. If I continue, I have to squeeze my bone oil! "

After breaking up with the bachelor, she did not return to her uncle, but married to a village in another county, about forty miles away from our village.

Because the market in that village is well-known, many people in our village who visited the market have met her. The villagers analyzed that she was not married to a wealthy family based on her dress and dress. Of course, all this has nothing to do with us.

html l0 Although Jianhong's mother didn't get married, she had never seen Jianhong once since she ran away from home, nor had she spent even a penny for him. The word "mother" has disappeared forever in Jianhong's memory.

After she ran away, her uncle never remarried and pulled Jianhong to grow up alone. Of course, her mother also gave her the best help. In that era, everyone was poor, and even if she wanted to take on a big bag, she could do nothing. When Jianhong was a child, he always picked up my old clothes to wear. After a long time, he would complain: "Why do I always wear my brother's rags! ", but this is really helpless.

Whenever I make dumplings or steam buns at home, my mother would tell me, "Go and call Jianhong to my house. Your uncle is so clumsy that he hasn't made dumplings for him for a long time! "Sometimes I would complain about Jianhong's voracious eating habits, and my mother always sighed and said, "You are not in his place, you can't understand it!" Poor child! ”

Jianhong’s grades in school were not good. He joined the working team after graduating from the third year of junior high school without getting into high school.He is a child who knows how to be grateful. After he got his first month's salary, he excitedly bought a lot of gifts for his mother and said, "Aunt, I can make money!"

The mother was also very pleased and smiled and blamed him, "I am not old now. You don't have to come to see me with gifts. If you make money, save it well. If you don't have to build a house and marry a wife in the future, it won't work if you don't buy it next time, but if you don't need to buy a house and marry a wife, you won't have to pay this amount of money!"

In the next few years, Jianhong changed a lot of jobs, but due to his low level of education and no skill, he always engaged in the lowest level of physical labor and his salary is not high. Even so, Jianhong, who was frugal, built five new houses in the village, which is the hardware that is necessary to get married.

After having a house, he felt that his personal problems should be solved, but his dull and even inferior personality became a stumbling block on his marriage. I think his personality is related to his childhood experience, which may be caused by the lack of maternal love insecurity.

In the blink of an eye, Jianhong is already twenty-eight years old and has entered the ranks of older young people. His lifelong affairs have also made his mother worry. "Even if Jianhong gets married to someone who is a second marriage and takes care of his children, I will be relieved to be able to get married!" She said this many times and asked her friends to help find her.

Unfortunately, Jianhong failed to wait for the day he got married. On the way home from get off work, he was hit by a car racing from behind and was hit by a car that was speeding from behind. He was not able to do so at that time. An accident investigation issued by the traffic police showed that the driver was driving tiredly and he had fallen asleep at the moment of the accident.

What is even more unexpected is that at Jianhong's funeral, a strange woman suddenly broke into. She leaned in front of Jianhong's coffin and howled loudly: "I'm a miserable son, why are you leaving so anxious!" Only then did someone in the village recognize her as Jianhong's mother who had run away from home for many years. It took a lot of effort for someone else to pull her up and found that there was no tear on her face.

The villagers realized that she was not good at coming, so they said hello to several people who still had an impression of her and got to the point: "I am Jianhong's mother, and his compensation should be my share!"

Because of this, my uncle and the people in his family quarreled with her, and some even wanted to hit her. But her face was always calm: "Jianhong is the flesh that fell from my body. This is a fact that no one can change. If you don't agree to give me money, we can go to the court to reason!"

After my mother called me to tell me about this, I specifically asked a classmate of my law. The answer I got was that she should be more or less part. Putting aside the legal level, from a human ethics perspective, my aunt abandoned Jianhong when she was two years old. Even if she really got the money, can she spend this money with peace of mind? Is she really not afraid of God’s reprimand?