Original author of Shenrancaijing | Editor of Tang Yahua | On a day in early autumn, 28-year-old Maizi and her husband held a wedding ceremony on a lawn in a hotel in Shanghai. There was only one couple of newcomers, both parents, and 6 people at the scene.

Shenrancaijing original

Author | Tang Yahua

Editor | Mufeng

On the early autumn day, 28-year-old Maizi and her husband held a wedding ceremony on a lawn in a hotel in Shanghai. There was only one couple of newcomers, both parents, and 6 people at the scene.

"I married the person I loved the most on the most ordinary day and made the most solemn vow with the simplest ritual. On this day, I just want to feel it well, and not be tired of docking, taking care of, and coordinating. I just want to be a happy and relaxed bride. It's simple, the person I love the most is enough." Maizi said.

This type of wedding is popular among contemporary young people. Some people call it minimalist wedding, while others call it "three-no wedding".

In fact, there are far more than three omitted. No carriage, no bridesman, no groomsman, no groomsman, and no groomsman are just basic operations. It is common to have no ceremonials, no sensational tear-jerking sessions, no wedding banquets, or even no guests.

boldly cut off the traditional wedding links because they participated in many weddings. Many young people think that they are prone to embarrassment, do not want to be led by the popular wedding process, refuse to die in the society, hate the monkey-like links, and do not look at the sensational and tear-jerking parents who give their daughters and thank you, and they don’t like to pose for photos.

Some netizens said, "Don't take wedding photos, don't accept gifts, don't send wedding candies, don't toasts, what's left is a sense of ritual, high participation of guests, plenty of time to take photos and communicate with friends, and everyone's unanimous praise." Indeed, the minimalist wedding lacks many rules and regulations, more relaxed and pleasant mood, carefully designed links, a more unique sense of ritual, and a higher film rate that young people pay more attention to.

However, holding a minimalist wedding is not entirely about saving money. Some people simplify some links and prepare carefully in the links they pay attention to; some people require minimalist style and pursue simple and high-end texture, which is not low.

Say goodbye to the complicated and redundant clichés, simplify the ceremonies and links, and hold a wedding that is truly for yourself is becoming the idea of ​​more and more people.

Wedding for herself: there is no fleet, wedding reception, emcee, and even wedding banquet

27-year-old Qianqian is from Jiangyin . She and her husband are disgusted with traditional weddings for many relatives whom they are not familiar with or even know, and they don’t like the toast session of traditional weddings. “ We want to use the wedding as a gift to ourselves, hoping that it is warmer and more meaningful. Compared to weddings, I hope the atmosphere is like a party.”

Finally, she decided to hold only a simple outdoor lawn wedding, without a fleet, wedding reception, best man, bridesmaid, celebrating, no gifts, and no banquets, returning to the essence of the wedding. A total of 50 people were invited to the wedding, all of whom were close relatives and friends.

After Qianqian determined the venue and provided the idea of ​​matching colors, the wedding design was completed by her husband and friends in several months. "My husband is an art student and also studied hosting when he was in school. We all think that hiring a host cannot express what we felt and want to express during the relationship, so my husband hosted the entire wedding."

The day before the wedding, Qianqian's husband and friends worked hard to build the venue until the early morning. The entire scene, the design drawings were drawn by friends, the material drawings were made by friends, the frame stage was built by friends, the background cloth was DIY by friends themselves, and the DJ and camera were all pushed by Qianqian's husband's friends from all over the country to help. " I think this is not just my husband's wedding, but more like a witness of friendship ."

On the wedding day, Qianqian's husband and friends went to the scene to perform the final improvement. Qianqian and her parents put on makeup and took photos at home, and drove to the scene after the photo. The wedding begins at 10 a.m.

Shenrancaijing original

Author | Tang Yahua

Editor | Mufeng

On the early autumn day, 28-year-old Maizi and her husband held a wedding ceremony on a lawn in a hotel in Shanghai. There was only one couple of newcomers, both parents, and 6 people at the scene.

"I married the person I loved the most on the most ordinary day and made the most solemn vow with the simplest ritual. On this day, I just want to feel it well, and not be tired of docking, taking care of, and coordinating. I just want to be a happy and relaxed bride. It's simple, the person I love the most is enough." Maizi said.

This type of wedding is popular among contemporary young people. Some people call it minimalist wedding, while others call it "three-no wedding".

In fact, there are far more than three omitted. No carriage, no bridesman, no groomsman, no groomsman, and no groomsman are just basic operations. It is common to have no ceremonials, no sensational tear-jerking sessions, no wedding banquets, or even no guests.

boldly cut off the traditional wedding links because they participated in many weddings. Many young people think that they are prone to embarrassment, do not want to be led by the popular wedding process, refuse to die in the society, hate the monkey-like links, and do not look at the sensational and tear-jerking parents who give their daughters and thank you, and they don’t like to pose for photos.

Some netizens said, "Don't take wedding photos, don't accept gifts, don't send wedding candies, don't toasts, what's left is a sense of ritual, high participation of guests, plenty of time to take photos and communicate with friends, and everyone's unanimous praise." Indeed, the minimalist wedding lacks many rules and regulations, more relaxed and pleasant mood, carefully designed links, a more unique sense of ritual, and a higher film rate that young people pay more attention to.

However, holding a minimalist wedding is not entirely about saving money. Some people simplify some links and prepare carefully in the links they pay attention to; some people require minimalist style and pursue simple and high-end texture, which is not low.

Say goodbye to the complicated and redundant clichés, simplify the ceremonies and links, and hold a wedding that is truly for yourself is becoming the idea of ​​more and more people.

Wedding for herself: there is no fleet, wedding reception, emcee, and even wedding banquet

27-year-old Qianqian is from Jiangyin . She and her husband are disgusted with traditional weddings for many relatives whom they are not familiar with or even know, and they don’t like the toast session of traditional weddings. “ We want to use the wedding as a gift to ourselves, hoping that it is warmer and more meaningful. Compared to weddings, I hope the atmosphere is like a party.”

Finally, she decided to hold only a simple outdoor lawn wedding, without a fleet, wedding reception, best man, bridesmaid, celebrating, no gifts, and no banquets, returning to the essence of the wedding. A total of 50 people were invited to the wedding, all of whom were close relatives and friends.

After Qianqian determined the venue and provided the idea of ​​matching colors, the wedding design was completed by her husband and friends in several months. "My husband is an art student and also studied hosting when he was in school. We all think that hiring a host cannot express what we felt and want to express during the relationship, so my husband hosted the entire wedding."

The day before the wedding, Qianqian's husband and friends worked hard to build the venue until the early morning. The entire scene, the design drawings were drawn by friends, the material drawings were made by friends, the frame stage was built by friends, the background cloth was DIY by friends themselves, and the DJ and camera were all pushed by Qianqian's husband's friends from all over the country to help. " I think this is not just my husband's wedding, but more like a witness of friendship ."

On the wedding day, Qianqian's husband and friends went to the scene to perform the final improvement. Qianqian and her parents put on makeup and took photos at home, and drove to the scene after the photo. The wedding begins at 10 a.m."My husband first sang four songs that were of great significance to us, and then my father led me into the audience. Because I was so sincere, when my husband sang the fourth song, there were already relatives and friends in the audience who started crying. After I went on stage, my husband cried before he could speak, and the audience started crying on a large scale, '50 people cried 60', and 10 were passers-by watching." After

, Qianqian, her husband and both parents expressed their thoughts and finally took a photo. Desserts, fruits and some cold meals were prepared on site, and the whole process lasted about 2 hours. Then Qianqian went home to pack her luggage and traveled to Xishuangbanna with her husband.

Dadi from Shenyang just held a minimalist hotel wedding in September this year.

Dadi first saved the fleet. She asked and found out that it usually costs 5,000 to 10,000 yuan to order 10 cars, which she thought was a waste of money. There is no bride-sending session, because she and her husband have lived together for two years before the wedding. "I think it's too futile to hold a traditional wedding to pick up the bride, and I don't like my parents to watch their daughter get in the car and silently feel sad. Marriage is just a form. We are all only children. We have gone out of the family of both parties to re-establish a family. I don't want to get married. ."

Because I don't like the noisy bride-sending sessions, blocking doors, and playing games, these are not arranged. That morning, Dadi and her husband got up and had breakfast leisurely in the hotel. Later, the makeup artist came to the door to put on makeup and simply completed the process of offering tea to parents. The hotel we stayed at was only a five-minute walk from the wedding hotel, and Dadi walked to the wedding hotel with his parents and friends.

10:58 ceremony begins. Generally, the wedding is when the father takes his daughter and handes it over to the groom. The father turns around and leaves. Dadi feels that this session is too sad and cancels it. "I just wanted to tell everyone happily that we were married. At the beginning of the wedding, I entered the venue myself. My husband and I said some oaths, but my parents were not on stage. My father-in-law came up as a representative to thank the guests for their arrival. Finally, we sang a song "Agreement" together and left. At 11:30, the guests had dinner."

The oranges in Hangzhou also removed the way parents calculate the auspicious day of the zodiac, and chose a day worth commemorating for them to hold the ceremony . Her wedding was removed from the convoy to pick her up, and she ate KFC in the hotel room for lunch. After the dinner, she continued to play with her friends in the hotel room.

Compared with the above young people who actively chose minimalist weddings, many of them passively chose minimalist because of the impact of the epidemic or in order to save money.

Xiaoyu, who works in Tianjin, originally booked a wedding and a return banquet for her hometown during the National Day holiday this year. Her wedding and banquets were ready, and relatives and friends were invited. But recently, the epidemic in Tianjin has suddenly worsened and the wedding was forced to be postponed. She plans to choose a weekend to go back to her hometown to have a simple re-issue.

There are also many minimalist weddings to save budget. A netizen said, "Although I am very moved every time I see the tall wedding decoration, , as a 'slum' girl, reality tells me that I can't be a fat man with a swollen face, and if I want to hold a cost-effective wedding ." She spent 2,600 yuan to complete the wedding, which was considered to be a very small amount.

"My husband and I are both young people who are struggling. We bought a house together. There is not much money to take out for the wedding. We all agreed that we don't want to make ourselves so tired, so we want to have a simple and warmth. The venue is the garden lawn site on the roof of the hotel, which totaled about 20,000 yuan." Netizens shared their minimalist wedding.

The sense of ceremony, personalized design, and high film rate. Only choose the

you need. For most young people, weddings can be minimalist, but they must be full of ritual.

Mizi is in Shanghai, In order to balance personal feelings and relatives and friends, she chose to hold the wedding ceremony and the banquet separately.

"I think the most important day in life should be comfortable. Pay more attention to the current feelings of yourself and your lover, and don't take care of the feelings of so many guests."Originally, she planned to take her parents and six of them to hold a destination wedding in Xinjiang, but because the epidemic did not go, the expectation dropped a little. As the time of the banquet approached, she decided to hold a main ceremony for six people.

She found a hotel with lawns near her home, and found two home makeup artists online to put on makeup for herself, her husband, and two mothers. The wedding ceremony only retained the First that Maizi wanted. look, oath, exchange rings and tea change .

. For the reason for choosing a minimalist wedding, Maizi felt that she was a worrying person. Inviting friends to come, she would worry about whether they could eat, sleep and have fun. The wedding was very busy and tired and inevitably had omissions, so she gave up. " grab big and put small is my overall goal. Before ensuring the experience of the 6 of us first, we should take care of other things later. In addition, I can't actually express in front of so many people. "

Considering the social relationship between her parents, she later invited about 40 tables at the banquet. There was no ceremony, so she only invited the host to open the show. The toast session was followed by the toast session, and the photos were taken by friends. "Because I have already obtained the main ritual part that I want to pay attention to our personal feelings, and the banquet session was relatively relaxed. "

cut off unnecessary cumbersome forms and added many carefully designed links, which are also something that many newcomers are happy to do.

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Qianqian carefully prepared nearly 60 souvenirs and made into gift baskets. The items purchased include bags of silk scarves, bear towels, retro relief glass cups, a can of Korean love candy, cheese scented candies, custom canvas bags , customized thank you cards, etc. The total price per serving is about 50 yuan.

Dadi did not like the cumbersome photo studio, but prefer to take photos on the mountain with free wind. Finally, she found an photography studio , took a group on the mountain and by the river, and named "Love between mountains and rivers". It cost more than 3,000 yuan in total, and the effect is very good.

Her wedding specially designed First look, “My husband stood on the side stage with his back to me, I came out of the gate and walked slowly towards him, patted him on the shoulder, and he turned around and saw me wearing a wedding dress. This may be the most beautiful day in my life. He kissed me and I thought it was quite romantic. "

In addition, "I made a video to play it at the wedding. When I was offering tea, I prepared a gift for my mother-in-law, and my husband prepared a gift for my mother. "Didi shared with Shenran.

Orange added a lot of her own designs to the minimalist wedding. She printed a certificate and put it on the sign-in desk, and asked every guest to sign it on it. She then printed a large group photo and prepared to frame it. She also invited a clown to tick a balloon next to her to relieve her boredom. She also prepared a blind box gift, stamped a custom seal, and posted a good luck sticker, which contained a handwritten blessing letter.

film output rate is also a young person's note The heavy point.

In order to take good photos, Dadi lost 25 kilograms before the wedding, compared the photography styles of many photographers, and chose the one he liked the most. In order to create the atmosphere of taking photos, she also bought a lot of wedding characters, small ornaments, etc. to decorate the wedding room. "My four sets of clothes were also carefully selected. Morning gowns, Chinese cheongsams, main wedding dresses, and toast clothes were all unanimously praised. The clothes of bridesmaids and groomsmen, tie knots, wrist flowers, etc. I have carefully prepared these details to take good-looking photos. "

Maizi likes the texture of film photography. She also specially found a film photographer on social platforms. Orange doesn't like posing, wants a retro style, and likes some small details. so the photographer I found is good at capturing and has her own unique style. She compares her various ways, communicates her shooting preferences on phone, looks at photographers' past cases, and finally finds a photographer with the same shooting philosophy.

Wedding planner Tan Yu noticed that many people would rather save the morning time to take pictures. Now there are many beautiful morning robes, including Chinese silk and lace. Many brides will choose two sets of morning robes to save the wedding reception and other links in the morning, and use them to put on makeup and shoot, and pursue the effect of filming.

Afterwards recalled that many respondents were still quite satisfied with their minimalist wedding. Minimalist wedding allows them to avoid fatigue, rush, embarrassment and anxiety, and be able to concentrate on enjoying the present, feel the wedding ceremony of two people, and have plenty of time to take photos and leave precious souvenirs.

How much does a minimalist wedding cost?

Wedding is always a matter of frugality. The minimalist wedding of young people, some people are budgeted, some people are links and styles. The wedding ceremony of

wheat for 6 people spent 1,000 yuan, the photographer spent more than 600 yuan, and the stay for one night only cost 2,600 yuan.

Qianqian searched Jiangyin for her lawn wedding and found an outdoor venue of 2,980 yuan among the many venues that cost several thousand yuan. The two of them bought their dresses online, and they spent a total of about 38,000 yuan, plus materials, makeup artists, cold meals, etc. "Our cost is very cheap. I have classmates around me who spent 130,000 yuan just to invite a wedding company."

Qianqian was very satisfied with her minimalist wedding. "It's really expensive to hold a traditional wedding now. Many banquets are wasteful. I hope to have a wedding that is entirely for myself. When I recall it in the future, I can clearly think of the smiles and tears of every close relative in the audience, rather than the makeup and hair at 4 a.m., slippers under heavy wedding dress and the strange and cold face under the audience ."

But her wedding also has a small regret. Because there were no bridesmaids and groomsmen, Qianqian forgot to bring flowers when she went out, and drove back home again. She also forgot to take the Polaroid photo paper she bought in advance.

Dadi spent nearly 40,000 yuan on the banquet, 24,000 yuan on the wedding, plus renting wedding dresses, makeup, photography, etc., the overall cost was nearly 100,000 yuan. "My idea is to reduce unnecessary links, and the money you should spend will be spent. I still pay more attention to makeup, hairstyle and on-site layout." In Dadi's view, the core of the minimalist wedding is to spend whatever you pay, and omit what you don't pay attention to.

In the eyes of young people, minimalism does not mean simplicity. Makeup artist Britney encountered a minimalist wedding that was relatively distorted. The bride worked in another place and asked her family to simply arrange the scene. She contacted Britney and the photography team online. She found out the night before the wedding that a very rough background board was equipped with fake flowers with heavy plastic feel. Later, she and the photographer went to the local friend overnight to buy materials. At noon on the wedding day, she first went to the groom's house and covered the previous background board with a piece of red velvet cloth before barely saving it.

Since the second half of this year, more and more people have been looking for Britney to ask for minimalist style. "For example, the bride requires makeup to be made into pseudo-free makeup, and often comes to us with some photos of internet celebrities." However, Britney suggests that makeup should be designed according to personal characteristics and should not just follow the trend.

Tan Yu has been in the wedding industry for many years. Her overall feeling is that young people’s wedding budgets are lower than in previous years. The average customer unit price of was basically 25,000 to 30,000, and now it is basically 18,000 to 25,000 . "Most people don't like to be so arrogant like before. In the past, customers asked the on-site layout to be visually full. Now people are more about setting an element and tend to have requirements for material and texture."

Young people started to hold weddings simply, which has subjective and objective reasons. psychology professor Dou Donghui, a professor of psychology at Central University of Finance and Economics, analyzed that objectively, generally, weddings require reservations for venues, catering and inviting relatives and friends in advance, but the uncertainty of the epidemic has caused variables in advance plans, which may suffer economic, time and energy losses, resulting in sunk costs, and the best way to avoid losses is to do it simply.In addition, the requirement of reducing gatherings is also an important factor.

subjective reasons, he added that, first, wedding preparations require a lot of time, young people generally have a lot of work pressure, and they feel "not energetic"; second, the traditional concept of "only a ceremony is considered marriage" is fading, and young people more recognize marriage relationships in the legal sense, that is, "geting a marriage is getting married" ; third, Many young people live and work in cities far away from their hometowns, and their relationship with the original clan and emotional weakened, believing that marriage is more of a "two people's business", allowing relatives to witness the need for weddings is not that strong; fourth, the influence of modern concepts and lifestyles, some people may be more repulsive of some traditional wedding norms.

If you want to hold a minimalist wedding, Britney’s suggestion is to find an independent planner during the planning process. On the wedding day, the newlyweds live in the same hotel or B&B to save the fleet, and the small venue can be simply arranged creatively and the wedding dress can also be bought online, but you need to choose carefully. If a newcomer or good friend has good eloquence, she can host it, but the photographer does not recommend looking for non-professionals, because she may miss many exciting moments.

*The title picture is from Visual China. In response to the request of the interviewees, Qianqian, Dadi, Chengzi, Maizi, Xiaoyu, Britney and Tan Yu are pseudonyms in the article.

Qianqian was very satisfied with her minimalist wedding. "It's really expensive to hold a traditional wedding now. Many banquets are wasteful. I hope to have a wedding that is entirely for myself. When I recall it in the future, I can clearly think of the smiles and tears of every close relative in the audience, rather than the makeup and hair at 4 a.m., slippers under heavy wedding dress and the strange and cold face under the audience ."

But her wedding also has a small regret. Because there were no bridesmaids and groomsmen, Qianqian forgot to bring flowers when she went out, and drove back home again. She also forgot to take the Polaroid photo paper she bought in advance.

Dadi spent nearly 40,000 yuan on the banquet, 24,000 yuan on the wedding, plus renting wedding dresses, makeup, photography, etc., the overall cost was nearly 100,000 yuan. "My idea is to reduce unnecessary links, and the money you should spend will be spent. I still pay more attention to makeup, hairstyle and on-site layout." In Dadi's view, the core of the minimalist wedding is to spend whatever you pay, and omit what you don't pay attention to.

In the eyes of young people, minimalism does not mean simplicity. Makeup artist Britney encountered a minimalist wedding that was relatively distorted. The bride worked in another place and asked her family to simply arrange the scene. She contacted Britney and the photography team online. She found out the night before the wedding that a very rough background board was equipped with fake flowers with heavy plastic feel. Later, she and the photographer went to the local friend overnight to buy materials. At noon on the wedding day, she first went to the groom's house and covered the previous background board with a piece of red velvet cloth before barely saving it.

Since the second half of this year, more and more people have been looking for Britney to ask for minimalist style. "For example, the bride requires makeup to be made into pseudo-free makeup, and often comes to us with some photos of internet celebrities." However, Britney suggests that makeup should be designed according to personal characteristics and should not just follow the trend.

Tan Yu has been in the wedding industry for many years. Her overall feeling is that young people’s wedding budgets are lower than in previous years. The average customer unit price of was basically 25,000 to 30,000, and now it is basically 18,000 to 25,000 . "Most people don't like to be so arrogant like before. In the past, customers asked the on-site layout to be visually full. Now people are more about setting an element and tend to have requirements for material and texture."

Young people started to hold weddings simply, which has subjective and objective reasons. psychology professor Dou Donghui, a professor of psychology at Central University of Finance and Economics, analyzed that objectively, generally, weddings require reservations for venues, catering and inviting relatives and friends in advance, but the uncertainty of the epidemic has caused variables in advance plans, which may suffer economic, time and energy losses, resulting in sunk costs, and the best way to avoid losses is to do it simply.In addition, the requirement of reducing gatherings is also an important factor.

subjective reasons, he added that, first, wedding preparations require a lot of time, young people generally have a lot of work pressure, and they feel "not energetic"; second, the traditional concept of "only a ceremony is considered marriage" is fading, and young people more recognize marriage relationships in the legal sense, that is, "geting a marriage is getting married" ; third, Many young people live and work in cities far away from their hometowns, and their relationship with the original clan and emotional weakened, believing that marriage is more of a "two people's business", allowing relatives to witness the need for weddings is not that strong; fourth, the influence of modern concepts and lifestyles, some people may be more repulsive of some traditional wedding norms.

If you want to hold a minimalist wedding, Britney’s suggestion is to find an independent planner during the planning process. On the wedding day, the newlyweds live in the same hotel or B&B to save the fleet, and the small venue can be simply arranged creatively and the wedding dress can also be bought online, but you need to choose carefully. If a newcomer or good friend has good eloquence, she can host it, but the photographer does not recommend looking for non-professionals, because she may miss many exciting moments.

*The title picture is from Visual China. In response to the request of the interviewees, Qianqian, Dadi, Chengzi, Maizi, Xiaoyu, Britney and Tan Yu are pseudonyms in the article.