"If you are like you, no one wants to sweep the streets in the future!" "When your dad and I are gone, you will still starve to death in the house." "You are really accomplishing nothing." From these a bit ugly and even a bit vicious words, we can clearly feel the mother's disapp

"If you are like you, no one wants to sweep the streets in the future!"

"When your dad and I are gone, you will not starve to death in the house."

"You really accomplished nothing"

From these a bit ugly, even some vicious words, we can clearly feel the mother's disappointment with her child. In her heart, her daughter Fan Chengjin has become a "waste person". Not to mention being successful, it is difficult to support herself. Because of being too disappointed, Fan Chengjin's mother stimulated her with unpleasant language almost every day, but despite this, Fan Chengjin stayed at home and ate her parents for ten years. What exactly is the reason that makes a girl who is in her youth willing to stay in a small house and wither alone?

The child who lived in belittled since childhood

Fan Chengjin's life experience is the same as that of any ordinary person. She was born in a rural family. Her father used to be a worker at a grain station, but later because of her birth, Fan Chengjin, she had to leave her job and go home to farm. Parents usually make a living by farming a few acres of land. They have no education, but it is precisely because of this that they really hope that their children will have some success in the future, at least not at home to face the loess. Fan Chengjin also has a sister, but her sister has not been very smart since she was a child. She is okay to help her family with work, but she gets a headache when she reads books and is not a piece of material for learning. Since my sister has no hope, all her parents’ expectations are pressed on Fan Chengjin.

Fan Chengjin's parents have traditional ideas. They believe in the filial son under the stick, so they have been strict with Fan Chengjin since childhood. Usually, Fan Chengjin made a little mistake in his studies, and faced with the insults and corporal punishment from his parents. For this reason, Fan Chengjin often hid in the house and cried secretly when he was a child, but when she was young, she did not dare to resist her parents, and only thought that she had done something good enough. Under high pressure for many years, Fan Chengjin's personality has become very introverted. She always lowers her head and says quietly, for fear that if she says the words wrong, she will be criticized. If you are a caring parent, you should be able to see the abnormality of your child at this time. But in that era, eating and drinking were the biggest. The most common saying of parents is, "It would be great if you can support you." Few people care about the healthy development of their children's mental development.

Fan Chengjin, who has been a little closed in his heart since childhood, has been promoted to junior high school. In junior high school, she also met some friends and had her own interests and hobbies. One day, when she went home, Fan Chengjin told her mother that she likes sculptures and paintings, and showed her the paintings she had carefully drawn. But in Fan Chengjin's mother's opinion, these are all evil ways, and she can't even read books, and she can still draw famous? So her mother criticized Fan Chengjin again. From then on, Fan Chengjin would never show her interests and hobbies in front of her family. When she was at home, she no longer dared to draw.

Because of introversion, she hits walls everywhere

But as she grows up, Fan Chengjin becomes more and more introverted. Apart from learning related things, she dares not mention other things to her family, but even if her grades are pretty good in the class, she will still be belittled by her parents. It seems that only one of the first place every day can be recognized by parents by 100 points every time. Her inferiority complex made Fan Chengjin fall into deep self-doubt, so that her grades began to plummet. In the end, after three years of resuming her senior year, she still only got into one junior college. Faced with such a result, her parents naturally found it difficult to accept.

After graduating from university, Fan Chengjin will enter society. She kept cheering herself up in her heart and told herself that this is a brand new beginning. As long as she is financially independent, she can get rid of her parents' control. But at the interview meeting, Fan Chengjin's problems of inferiority and lack of sociability were infinitely magnified. She couldn't stop trembling all over just sitting in front of the interviewer, her head became blank, and she stuttered and couldn't even say a complete sentence. The repeated interview failures made Fan Chengjin almost collapse, but no one could help her get out of the predicament. Later, Fan Chengjin's sister relied on her connections to find her a job in an advertising company, but within a few days she was kicked out. In the end, Fan Chengjin simply locked himself in the house and turned into a completely home.

Choose to avoid hiding one's parents for 10 years

As a college student, how can you not work and eat at home after graduation? Have you provided me for so many years in vain? Seeing Fan Chengjin staying at home, her mother was so angry that she was so angry that she would insult and accusations more frequently. Even if Fan Chengjin drank a sip of water, she would be scolded.

"If you can accomplish something in the future, I will kneel down for you"

"Dogs are more promising than you"

At the beginning, Fan Chengjin would reflect on herself. She told herself that she could not escape, she could not escape. She thought about opening a convenience store at the entrance of the village, but this kind of thing was too unrealistic. How could the family take out the money for opening a business? So my mother would cry to Fan Chengjin again, telling her to keep her feet on the ground and not to daydream all day. Her mother's stimulation made her feel serious rebellious. She believed that her current misfortune was caused by her mother. So Fan Chengjin began to lie at home with confidence and hide for ten years.

Mother’s belittlement from childhood has caused Fan Chengjin’s emotions to be accumulated for 30 years. When participating in the mediation program, she said that She felt that she had lived in the coffin for over the years, and no sunshine could shine into her heart. She clearly knew that she had gone astray, but she did not have the courage or ability to get out on her own.

Fan Chengjin is undoubtedly a very emotional person. The misfortune suffered in childhood is like a shackle that makes it difficult for her to spread her wings and fly. However, in the face of her daughter's telling, Fan Chengjin's mother was not very touched. In her opinion, everything she did is for the children, and the supply of delicious food and drink is her greatest effort. Some netizens also believe that it is indeed a bit difficult to make the peasant woman who is so tired that she can't straighten her waist every day to understand her child's slender mind. When she grows up, she must learn to please herself and enlighten herself. What do you think is the reason for Fan Chengjin’s 10-year tragedy?