Editor/Stupid Child Relationships are difficult, even between partners. Whether you're at the beginning, plateau, or decline of a relationship, conflict will always creep up at some point. How you deal with and deal with these conflicts will affect your future life.

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Relationships are difficult, even between partners. Whether you're at the beginning, plateau, or decline of a relationship, conflict will always creep up at some point. How you deal with and deal with these conflicts will affect your future life.

Australian psychologists have given the following suggestions, suggesting some ways that you can be yourself, and hope to help you resolve disputes, maintain a healthy relationship with your partner, and continue to move forward together.

1.Reflect on self

Both parties in a conflict are often at fault. One thing we may need to carefully study in our daily relationships is how our past behavior affects our relationship with our current partner.

For example, you may notice certain patterns of behavior that your partner has become accustomed to that always disturb or trigger your emotions. If you are able to share and discuss these triggers with your partner, it can go a long way toward resolving the problem, as it will make your loved one more aware of these triggers in their daily lives or during an argument.

You can also use your emotional experience of triggers as a signal, such as when you feel like you are getting angry. Taking a moment to calm down or relax before moving on to a difficult conversation can put you in a better position. mental state.

When you calm down, you may observe yourself feeling down, reacting too angrily, or having difficulty opening up even when you don't want to. Maybe you can discover that your expectations for your relationship are somewhat unrealistic, or you notice that you feel anxious about your relationship status and are demanding too much of your partner because of your insecurities.

These realizations may be difficult for you to accept and make you feel vulnerable. Still, we can't avoid them because it's part of figuring out what needs to be done. Taking a step back, reflecting, and thinking about what you can contribute to the relationship issues you're dealing with can allow you to explore what behaviors might help maintain or improve your relationship.

2. Focus on your feelings and needs

In a disagreement, you may focus too much on the other person. You're so depressed that it's hard for you to really focus on your feelings and needs.

Instead of obsessing over what your partner is or isn't doing, why not express how you feel about what's going on? Or what do you think you need in this relationship to feel supported and appreciated? Thinking in terms of your own feelings may facilitate a more open conversation and allow your partner to know what your true needs are.

3. Avoid mind reading or assumptions

Many people often guess what their partner is thinking or feeling. And this kind of thinking trap often creates more stress in relationships because we don’t know if this is really what our partner is thinking unless we ask them.

Rather than making assumptions and experiencing the emotional rollercoaster that may ensue, try asking your loved one how they experienced the issue and what they think about it.

4. Ask questions to better understand the other person

Show that you are willing to hear their perspective by asking them the following questions.

• "How are you feeling?"

• "What is upsetting you right now?"

• "How can I support you better?"

• "What do you need to feel more comfortable opening up to me?" ”

These are just a few examples, you can ask other types of questions in your own words to express your interest in hearing what they have to say.

5. Teamwork

While you are entitled to your own feelings and thoughts, you should also find a way to ensure that the two of you work through the problem together instead of being torn apart by misunderstandings and opposition. Building unity and cohesion in your relationship is a great way to help you move forward together.

You can consider communicating and handling conflicts that you may face in the future in a more proactive way in your daily life. Maybe you both can agree to take a break when things get heated and to remain respectful of each other in terms of your words even when you argue. In addition, in many cases, quarrels stem from misunderstandings. You can first try to understand what the other party is saying to clarify whether you heard their statements correctly, etc.

In short, more communication instead of harsh words will go a long way in maintaining your relationship with your partner.

6. Explore Personal and Relationship Goals

Setting goals for both of you individually and together will help push each other in a positive direction.

Some questions to consider when determining goals might be:

• Do we need to spend more quality time together? What activities can we do that we both enjoy?

• Do I need more alone time for my own personal pursuits and social/entertainment opportunities (so that I can come back to the relationship feeling more alive)?

• Is there a need for a more equitable distribution of tasks in the home and childcare context, and if so, who can take on what?

• Do we need a visual schedule in a central location where we can plan our weekly appointments/alone time/work schedule?

Think about what is most important to you as a partner and as a person, and define them clearly. This way you can develop a plan to strengthen your relationship and thereby increase your satisfaction with it.

7. Imagine what your future together looks like

Where do you see yourself in one year? 5 years? What about 10 years? Think about your housing situation, career, family life, location, and anything else that stands out to you. Making concrete plans for the future can help you handle current relationship issues more confidently and give you hope for what to expect in the future. It may be difficult to think so much ahead of time, but doing so will allow you to decide how to spend your time and energy, and to keep your partner aligned with your progress.

Think about how you can support each other as you move into your future lives together. This exercise can be a helpful reminder for you to continue to work together during the normal ups and downs of a relationship and in your daily life.