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I don’t know since when, “marriage” has become something that people hate.
A marriage researcher said that today's marriage is affected by many negative factors, so its contradictions have not appeared in human beings for thousands of years.
In the past, marriages were either the traditional orders of parents or the words of matchmakers. Although they were blindly married, they could still make do for a lifetime. Today's marriages have fewer rules and more randomness. This blind freedom has ruined countless families.
It’s not that freedom of marriage is bad, but that a marriage that lacks principles is ultimately harmful.
For example, nowadays, there are endless cases of marriage fraud, and there are countless people who get divorced after a few years of marriage. People seem to be moving closer to the trend of "flash marriage and divorce".
This is not a good thing, it is just the beginning of the family's misfortune. Just imagine, some parents emptied their wealth in order for their children to get married, and ended up getting divorced. How many people can bear such a result?
Especially some families who are relatively poor have little money, and their parents have also emptied their wealth and are burdened with debts. Who would have thought that their children would get married and divorced. In the end, the ones who suffer the most are still the parents who have long since aged.
Today's marriage affects not only the children themselves, but also the parents' later years.
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The voice of a 211 master's degree, who spent all his money to get married, got married and divorced, and failed his parents.
Mr. Li, now 34 years old, is divorced. After only two years of marriage, he ended his marriage amidst the entanglement and pain, giving himself freedom and also giving freedom to the other party.
It is said that when Mr. Li was 32 years old, his parents advised him to get married and have children as soon as possible. Under the urging of his parents, he could only discuss with his girlfriend to see if he could get married as soon as possible.
After hearing what Mr. Li said, my girlfriend was unwilling to accept it at first. Later, she discussed the relevant marriage conditions with her mother, and then told Mr. Li that if he could meet these three conditions, she would marry him.
The first condition is that the man must give the woman a gift of 300,000 yuan; the second condition is that the man must have a house and a car, preferably without a loan; the third condition is that the woman's name must be added to the house.
Mr. Li was immediately shocked after hearing these three conditions. Because he didn't know that this marriage would cost so much money.
After returning home, he told his parents about it. Parents also lamented that if their children can last a lifetime, then forget it, it is not a big deal to give them gifts and buy a house. As a result, these two old people spent their life savings to meet the conditions for their son's marriage.
Of course, Mr. Li and his girlfriend successfully entered into marriage.
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After getting married, Mr. Li found that his wife did not go to work, but was addicted to the Internet world. This is a bit difficult for him to accept. Over the next year, they often argued about whether to go to work.
After this year, Mr. Li and his wife slept in separate rooms. One day, he discovered that his wife was very beautifully dressed and often went out. This caught his attention.
In order to know what his wife had done, he also followed his wife. Finally, he discovered that his wife had found another man, entered the hotel, and also betrayed him.
After a series of investigations, Mr. Li was shocked. It turned out that his wife had several men outside. Two men had relationships with her before she was married.
Mr. Li, who was deceived by his wife, could only end up with a hasty divorce. Today’s wife is still competing with him for a house.She told him that she hoped he would sell the house and give her part of the compensation.
After hearing what his wife said, Mr. Li said angrily, you betrayed me, how can you still be qualified to ask me for money?
Now, these two people have gone to court, making it known to all the neighbors and relatives. The only person Mr. Li is sorry for is his parents. Because he knew that his parents' lifetime money and lifetime efforts were all ruined because of his marriage.
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In real life, how many people are taken advantage of like Mr. Li? There are really quite a lot.
Both men and women will lose their own rationality due to temporary hormonal attacks. How can a person like achieve good results?
Many people will say that women are not good. Some people will also say that men are not good. In the final analysis, it is because marriage in this world lacks the principles and norms it should have, which is why so many families are suffering from misfortune.
I have also seen a case where a woman from a wealthy family married a poor man. Who knew that after the marriage, the man asked her for hundreds of thousands more and lied to her that he was going to do business. After the divorce, the two parties were still at odds and went to court.
What is wrong is not men or women, but some unprincipled groups. These groups include both scumbag men and scumbag women, as well as people who cheat to get married and make money. This deserves our vigilance.
As parents, we should not rush our children to get married. Maybe he made the wrong choice. In the end, it was his parents who lost both their life and wealth. They even lost any pension money. Isn't this sad?
As children, we still need to keep our eyes open to see the world clearly. Don't lose the balance and thought just because of a temporary feeling. Otherwise, the whole family will suffer.
everything, there is no right or wrong, only choice. If you make the wrong choice, you will have to bear the consequences. is nothing more.
text/Shu Shan Youlu
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