Text丨Love in the West Chamber
Time is not long, I hope you will meet in my words and it will not be too late!
People often say that husband and wife are the two closest people, and the feeling of "sharing the same bed" is unmatched by other relationships.
It is true that the secret of a happy marriage is that two people are of the same mind and love each other.
In addition, as the saying goes: "When a couple quarrels, they quarrel at the head of the bed, and they quarrel at the end of the bed." This shows the importance of "sharing the same bed" between husband and wife.
However, many couples always choose to sleep in separate rooms for one reason or another.
For example, after a big fight between a couple, they usually have a cold war, so it is natural for them to sleep in separate rooms.
Another example is if one member of the couple has bad sleeping habits, such as snoring and sleeping lightly, they often choose to sleep in separate rooms out of consideration for the other's feelings. Of course, children are also a big factor. When the children are still young and there is no one to help, couples usually choose to sleep in separate rooms, with the mother sleeping with the child.
However, sleeping in separate rooms is not a good thing. It is often the beginning of problems in a marital relationship. If marriage is turned into a life together, then the two people will definitely drift apart.
However, many people do not take this seriously and often wait until the marriage is irretrievable before they wake up and regret it.
Therefore, whether you are a man or a woman, you should know that there are three major dangers in sleeping in separate rooms when husband and wife get along, especially the third point.
The first point: It is easy to cause suspicion and lack of security.
When couples get along, sleeping in separate rooms can easily cause suspicion between each other and make each other feel insecure, resulting in trust crisis.
When two people lose the opportunity for the most intimate contact, they will inevitably have random thoughts and suspicions about each other. At this time, the party who proposes to sleep in separate rooms will definitely be suspected.
Thoughts like "Will he not love me anymore" and "Is there someone out there?" will appear endlessly, and fear and worry will follow.
In this case, some bad behaviors will appear, such as checking the other party's mobile phone and tracking the other party's whereabouts.
In addition, the two people will become more and more sensitive and suspicious, and a small move or an unintentional word will be continuously amplified.
As a saying goes: "Husbands and wives are not afraid of quarrels. What they are afraid of is that one person wants to quarrel and the other wants to run away."
Therefore, if you sleep in separate rooms for a long time, it is difficult for a marriage to avoid problems and conflicts.
Lack of communication is not conducive to emotional communication
When everyone is working during the day, evening is the best and only opportunity for communication. Communication and communication are extremely important for a marriage.
Marriage will inevitably encounter many problems, and after encountering problems, if two people cannot exchange and express their inner thoughts in time.
Then, after a long time, a sense of alienation will gradually arise psychologically.
Therefore, sleeping in separate rooms is not advisable. It will cause a serious lack of communication between you and is not conducive to emotional communication between you.
Don’t believe it, when one party does not care about the other party for a long time, problems will arise.
You must know that two people in a marriage should be able to know each other's cold and hot, and they should also be able to talk to and listen to each other.
Sleeping in separate rooms is tantamount to eliminating the opportunity for sharing and communication between you.
After a while, you will suddenly find that there are no longer topics to talk about between you, and you may no longer even be on the same channel.
Unable to meet needs, emotional displacement
Unable to meet needs, emotional displacement is also one of the dangers of couples sleeping in separate rooms, which directly affects the survival of the marriage relationship.
In addition to psychological needs, physiological needs are necessary for everyone, especially two people in a marriage relationship.
"Sharing the same bed" is conducive to satisfying each other's physiological needs, making the relationship between two people better and sweeter.
It can be seen that sleeping in separate rooms will greatly weaken the relationship between two people.
At this time, extramarital affairs can easily occur. When one party's needs cannot be met, he will inevitably feel dissatisfied, so he will place his hope on others for such satisfaction.
Once someone of the opposite sex with corresponding ideas appears next to him, the two people will hit it off. By then, he will not even feel that he is at fault, but that the fault is all yours.
So, please remember that sleeping in separate rooms is often the cause of extramarital affairs, and extramarital affairs are often the key reason for the failure of a marriage.
Conclusion:
As we all know, long-distance relationships and long-distance marriages are very difficult, and many people cannot survive it. The reason is that there is a lack of companionship, communication, and intimacy.
The same is true for marriage. Sleeping in separate rooms is tantamount to living in different places. When husband and wife become neighbors under the same roof, it is too late to regret.
Marriage is like a ship. When there is a hole in one place and you don't notice it, the same will happen in other places. In the end, it can only sink to the bottom of the water.
Ximei has read a story about an elderly couple who hold hands every night when they go to bed and say "I love you" to each other before going to bed.
When asked about the reason, the grandfather said that both parties were afraid that the other would die in their sleep. If such a thing happened, the last words the other party heard would be "I love you."
Their marriage lasted for decades and they were still as happy as ever. It can be seen that love should always be love, and it cannot be completely turned into family affection or a partnership.
Therefore, no matter what, couples should try to avoid sleeping in separate rooms. This is also the key to running a successful marriage.
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