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Speaking of self-discipline, everyone thinks of getting up at 6 o'clock every day, exercising for an hour and other such executive actions. In fact, self-discipline is not only reflected in personal behavior.
also requires self-discipline in language communication.
Some hurtful words are like water thrown out. Once spoken, it is difficult to take them back. And insisting on keeping one's words carefully and not saying these three things to anyone is a person's self-discipline in speech.
Don’t speak big words in front of others
"Historical Records" records that when Confucius was young, he once asked Laozi for advice on the principles of life.
Laozi told Confucius: "A good businessman hides his wealth deeply, but his appearance looks like a fool's."
A great businessman hides his wealth deep inside, but looks like he has nothing on the outside; a cultivated gentleman has morality hidden inside. , and looks stupid and slow on the outside. The highest state of being a human being is to be calm and steady. Avoid arrogance and boastfulness.
If a person speaks without restraint and likes to brag, he can easily get into trouble.
A famous official in the late Qing Dynasty Zeng Guofan In the past, like some people, I liked to talk big.
Once, Zeng Guofan's father celebrated his birthday, and fellow countryman Zheng Xiaoshan came to wish him a birthday. At that time, Zeng Guofan had just entered the Hanlin Academy and was a little carried away. He boasted about himself to his friend Zheng Xiaoshan who came to celebrate his birthday, which made him feel proud. Unexpectedly, Zheng Xiaoshan was offended. Before the birthday party was over, Zheng Xiaoshan left angrily.
Afterwards, Zeng Guofan realized his mistake and regretted it. After that, he began to pay attention to his words and deeds.
In the eleventh year of Xianfeng's reign, Zeng Guofan wrote the famous "Simple Words of Admonition" to educate his subordinates, the third item of which was "Forbid big words to be pragmatic." He brought this code of conduct to his employment standards.
When he had children, Zeng Guofan warned his descendants in his family letter: "To establish a life based on not lying."
When people reach middle age, the most taboo thing is to say some inappropriate words out of frivolity and complacency. As a human being, you should always remember not to tell lies or empty words.
Lao Tzu said: "Great skill is like clumsiness, great debate is like indolence." Being cautious in speaking and doing is attitude, and appropriate silence is cultivation.
As it is said in "Night Talk around the Lu": "What the world believes depends on the ability to act, not the ability to speak." What the world is willing to contact and trust are people who do things reliably, not people who talk nicely.
People don’t gossip
"Wise people speak because they have something to say; fools speak because they want to say something."
The key to being a human being is to know how to control your mouth on any occasion. There is no need to talk about other people's affairs; there is no qualification to evaluate other people's rights and wrongs. A person who always puts his mind on others will not be popular wherever he goes.
heard a little story.
Han Yu, the head of the human resources department of a company, once recruited a top student and had high hopes for him. As a result, within a few days of joining the company, this employee decided that the department manager was incompetent. He did not dare to point out the manager's shortcomings face to face, so he often complained to his colleagues in private.
During a lunch, this employee caught a glimpse of Hanyu sitting not far away, and immediately talked about the manager's recent "mistakes" on the project, and deliberately turned up his voice, hoping to make Hanyu "unintentionally" Recognize the moral incompetence of department managers.
As a result, Hanyu turned a deaf ear to his discussions and fired him after the internship.
Faced with the employee's doubts, Hanyu told him seriously: "When you arrive at the new company, remember, if there is something you think you can't say in front of others, then never say it."
People's Cultivation And level, hidden in the propriety of his speech. Not commenting on things, knowing others without commenting, this is a reputation for helping others, and it is also a good reputation for yourself.
To poke people behind their backs and gossip about others is detrimental to both others and yourself. Regardless of whether a person is right or wrong, it is a rare education for a person not to reveal the merits of others.
Don’t complain when you meet people.
As the saying goes: “Nine times out of ten things will go wrong as you wish."In the face of unsatisfactory things, some people will seriously reflect on it in order to make progress, while some people always push the problem to others and complain endlessly.
An old chef has two apprentices. The eldest apprentice is diligent and studious, and the second apprentice The old chef cheated and cultivated two apprentices. In addition to teaching cooking skills, they also arrange for two people to clean up the kitchen. On weekdays, when the second apprentice cleans up the kitchen, he complains about the master. He feels that cooking during the day is already very hard, and he still has to clean up the mess, so he hastily finishes the job. . When the master saw that the second apprentice was so unwilling to make progress and always complained about others, he no longer arranged for him to clean the kitchen.
When it's the apprentice's turn, after cleaning up, he will seriously ask the master some questions that he doesn't understand. While asking for advice humbly, he will take a pen and paper to record what he has learned.
Seeing that his senior apprentice is very good at cooking, he is still there. Stepping forward, the second apprentice couldn't help complaining: "Master is partial and gives Senior apprentice has started a small business."
In fact, the master is not biased.
Time flies. Half a year has passed. The eldest apprentice was hired by a big restaurant in the city to be the chef, while the second apprentice can only do odd jobs in the tavern.
"Resentment The intestines are extinct and have no owner. "Complaining all the time will only put you in an emotional abyss, sinking deeper and deeper, unable to extricate yourself. Instead of constantly complaining and consuming yourself, it is better to let go of your obsession and improve yourself. Only by facing difficulties head-on and rising to them can you succeed Opportunity to make a comeback.
Don't talk nonsense in front of others, and be cautious in your words and actions. This is respect for others and responsibility for yourself. Only when people don't complain and reflect on themselves often can they change their current situation.
Use actions to achieve yourself and use self-discipline to demand yourself. In the end, we will eventually become the person we want to be.
Host: Zhang Dan
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