I don’t know whether you are being criticized for some of your selfish behaviors, or whether you are suffering from selfishness and have difficulty integrating into the group. People are more or less selfish, otherwise why would they feel bored and alienated when a selfish person infringes on their interests? But the difference from selfish personalities is that their self-centered consciousness is not so strong. That is to say, while pursuing interests, they must also learn to share, help and sympathize, rather than showing indifference to the needs of others.
Another point I would like to make is that the foundation of society is group unity, and the core is integration. I think that human nature has a sense of selfish seeking, but since you want to integrate, you must learn to give up and learn to be tolerant, and this is a good thing acquired. The environment teaches us to become a member of a group and gain a sense of social identity and happiness from mutual help and support.
I think that to change a selfish personality, we must first get rid of the problem of suspicion. Over the years, I have come into contact with various selfish personalities. One thing they have in common is that they all have deep suspicion. When they encounter something related to their own interests, they will first have a suspicion, so they also use their own psychology to speculate on others, but in fact it is not necessary. Most people know how to be humble and fair. Try to make yourself more peaceful.
The second thing is to learn to share. You can start with some small objects or snacks. Many selfish personalities are unwilling to share. It’s not because they don’t understand. Their philosophy is that what’s mine is mine. I’ll get what’s yours when I need it. Find a way to make him mine. This thought repeated itself in their mind, forming a voice that always reminded them. This is difficult to change. You can only try small things first.
Selfish personalities tend to be self-centered, so they rarely like to listen and are more eager to express themselves so that the other party understands and accepts their own ideas and needs. They do not like to listen to what others say. If the other party sings the opposite, they will be very angry or even angry. It's resentment. So try to communicate. If you don’t have many friends around you because of your selfishness, choose relatives, listen more, understand their thoughts, and slowly you will find that you have gradually developed empathy . Don't be nervous when listening, and communicate with an accepting attitude instead of thinking about control all the time.
has selfish personality disorder, and oppositely, there is also pleaser personality disorder. The reason why both extremes are called disorders is because this type of personality is an obstacle for people to integrate into the group. The selfish personality itself is not a normal psychology. It is very likely that while deeply hating your own selfishness, you will undergo a drastic change and become a people-pleasing personality. So don’t change in a hurry, remind yourself slowly, slowly learn to accept it and always Little by little changes.
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