Text丨Love in the West Chamber
Time is not long, I hope you will meet in my words and it will not be too late!
As the saying goes, a daughter who gets married is the water she throws away. After a woman gets married, in addition to being separated from her family of origin, it is more important to maintain an appropriate distance from her relatives.
You must understand that from now on you are no longer your mother’s daughter, but your husband’s daughter-in-law. As your identity changes, so will your responsibilities.
As a daughter, you can get along with some relatives for the sake of your parents' face, but as a daughter-in-law, you should consider more about the new family you and your husband have established.
Xiaoqin's experience has also confirmed to us: after marriage, women should stay away from these three kinds of relatives, otherwise they will easily get into trouble.
Type 1: Inconsistent relatives
This kind of relative often likes to say one thing and do another. The seventy-two changes of , Sun Wukong, and are not as expressive as his.
Xiaoqin is from Henan, and her husband is from Sichuan. She, who was married far away, had made a lot of determination for this huge gamble.
But when the two were still lovers, Xiaoqin's aunt always said in Xiaoqin's mother's ear: "It is easy for a daughter to suffer a loss if she marries far away. You have worked hard to raise Xiaoqin so big, but you cannot let her suffer away from you."
These words seemed to be for Xiaoqin's sake, but she was planning to marry Xiaoqin to the single son of a distant relative.
For this reason, Xiaoqin and her mother often had conflicts.
But my aunt kept using this mentality of "mother is worried that her daughter will suffer hardship, and daughter does not want to disobey her mother" to prevent Xiaoqin from pursuing her own happiness.
For this reason, Xiaoqin's mother kept disagreeing with this marriage.
But it was not until later, after the aunt informed Xiaoqin's mother of her plan, and Xiaoqin's father reminded her that Xiaoqin's mother realized what she was doing.
After learning the truth, Xiaoqin's attitude towards her aunt also changed from respect to disgust now.
From then on, Xiaoqin tried her best not to have contact with her. Because you never know, she might sell you one day.
It can be seen that if you treat relatives who treat this kind of person one way before and another behind the scenes, the only way to avoid getting yourself into trouble is to stay away from them.
The second type: Relatives who adapt to the wind
There is a saying in the countryside that the winter melon on the house rolls on both sides. What I am talking about is the kind of person who adapts to the situation and is only interested in profit.
What people like this are best at is being afraid of the high and the low. For him, his attitude towards you depends on your value to him.
Xiaoqin's aunt is like this. When you are rich and powerful, she will greet you with a smile; when you are poor, she will show her disdain vividly even if she even says a word to you.
When Xiaoqin and her husband got married, they invested all their money in business. Because I had no experience, and there were many places to spend money, it was really difficult at the beginning.
At that time, Xiaoqin couldn't even bring out a good gift when she went back to her parents' home.
Therefore, the eldest aunt never invited the couple to sit at home. Even if the eldest uncle took the initiative, the eldest aunt would find various reasons to refuse.
In her opinion, associating with poor relatives like Xiaoqin will only taint the aura of poverty in them and become unlucky.
Today, the business of Xiaoqin and his wife is booming. After hearing the news, the aunt contacted Xiaoqin for the first time and allowed them time to go back to their hometown.
But the most important thing is that she wants to send her daughter, who has just graduated from college, to work in Xiaoqin's company. It's a beautiful name, let Xiaoqin take care of her sister more.
Faced with her aunt's current behavior, Xiaoqin recalled how she had disliked her a few years ago and couldn't help but sneer.
Yes, such a relative will neither help you when you are in trouble nor be truly happy for you when you are prosperous. They will only think about how to use you to create value for them from beginning to end.
In the end, Xiaoqin rejected her aunt's request.Because she knew very well that once something like this started, there would be endless troubles waiting to be solved.
Indeed, when dealing with such a relative, having no desires or demands from her is the greatest help to you.
The third type: jealous relatives
These kind of relatives are more terrifying when they are ruthless than relatives who like to act according to the circumstances. Because in his eyes, as long as others live a better life than him, it is a sin and they should be tortured.
At first, besides her aunt, she was also opposed to Xiaoqin's marriage by her cousin. The reason for her opposition was that she didn't want Xiaoqin to marry better than her.
As the only two girls in this generation, my cousin has been jealous of Xiaoqin since she was a child.
Due to family reasons, my cousin thought that Xiaoqin had a better life than her since she was a child. This long-term imbalance made her feel that she should be the one who was pampered like a princess.
Therefore, in order to satisfy her competitive spirit, she likes to compete with Xiao Qin in everything she does. There are competitions in study, clothing, and even marriage.
So, I saw Xiaoqin getting married in front of her, and her husband still loved her very much. Jealousy made her often make sarcastic remarks in front of Xiao Qin.
said at one moment that men are fickle animals and will not last long; at another moment he said that women who rely on men have no future. Typical people who can't eat grapes say grapes are sour .
However, Xiaoqin is sober in the world, and her relationship with her husband will never change because of other people's gossip.
Therefore, faced with her cousin's sarcasm and provocation, she turned off her microphone and chose to ignore it. After all, staying with such a resentful woman for a long time is not good for your physical and mental health.
The ancients said that those who are close to vermilion are red, and those who are close to ink are black. After marriage, women should stay away from these three kinds of relatives so as not to get themselves into trouble.
I believe that many married women have encountered such annoying relatives, but for the sake of face, they cannot bear to break off the relationship.
But you have to understand that when they hurt you and want to trample you under their feet, they will not be so merciful.
So, it’s best for you and your family to stay away.
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