For women, it is very important to be able to correctly choose their lifelong partner. Although it is easy to break up and get back together nowadays, once you start a relationship and invest your emotions, time and energy, you will inevitably not be able to get out of it.

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Time is not long, I hope you will meet in my words and it will not be too late!

There is a saying: "Women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, and men are afraid of entering the wrong profession." For women, it is very important to be able to correctly choose their lifelong partner.

Although it is easy to break up and get back together nowadays, once you start a relationship and invest your emotions, time and energy, you will inevitably not be able to get out of it.

In the world of emotions, even if you can easily "separate one from the other", it is still difficult to completely achieve "everyone is happy", at least it will take a long time to subside.

Therefore, every woman should have a correct standard for choosing a mate, and the most important one is a person's character and conduct.

If two people have different habits, they can adapt and accommodate each other. But if two people have very different personalities, they often cannot go on for a long time.

Even if they are dazzled by love and get together, there will be countless conflicts and disputes after two people get along deeply.

has different personalities, which is a big problem. If there are flaws in character and conduct, it will be even more difficult.

And selfishness is a huge flaw. A selfish person cannot bring happiness to others.

You may think that there are other things about him that can attract you, but you have to understand that those things that attract you will eventually change, but his selfish character and conduct are difficult to root out.

Therefore, as a woman, you must know that you should stay away from selfish men no matter how good other conditions are!

is self-centered and never cares about or respects

A selfish man must be self-centered. With such a man, it is difficult for you to feel cared for and respected.

He is selfish, so he will consider himself first in everything and put his own feelings first. Even if you are unhappy or sad because of this, he will not waver in the slightest.

At the same time, most of the big and small matters between you will be decided by him, and he will not even discuss it with you.

It is difficult for you to be happy in such an emotional state. Even if his other conditions are very good, he still cannot make up for the harm his selfishness has caused you.

When two people live together, they should be able to discuss each other, rather than being in control of the other. Once he regards himself as the center of his relationship, then you can only become his accessory.

ignores your efforts and never shows consideration and gratitude.

In a relationship, both men and women need a sense of accomplishment and the other half's "knowledge of coldness and warmth".

Only in this way can feelings go on happily and for a long time. However, a selfish man cannot do it.

Because he is selfish, he will ignore your efforts and magnify his own efforts. He doesn't want to suffer a loss, so he will argue with you about everything.

At the same time, he will also think that everything you do is natural. And under the blessing of this kind of thinking, he will not understand you at all, let alone be grateful to you.

Therefore, when you are with such a man, you will never feel the sense of accomplishment, nor can you experience the feeling of dependence.

tends to stay out of things and has no responsibility and responsibility.

has no responsibility and responsibility, which is also a typical characteristic of selfish men.

A selfish man will only love himself, and he will not be willing to take on other responsibilities besides himself.

Therefore, many times, he will stay out of the matter and look at you as a bystander.

In this way, in your life, he may be "hands off" at any time, and you need to face all the big and small things alone.

If your life has always been calm, then it's okay and there won't be any big problems.

But once a big problem arises, he will easily choose to escape or abandon you. For example, if there is a financial problem in the family, he will probably ignore it.

Conclusion:

A selfish man’s first choice will never be you.

If there is no interest involved between you, then he will treat you well.

However, once there is a conflict of interest between you, he will first consider himself, maximize his own interests, and let you continue to make concessions.

is just like Peng Pai in the TV series " ", he is a completely selfish man.

He has the mature charm of a middle-aged man, is steady in work, financially strong, and very considerate to others. He seems to be a perfect partner.

However, his selfishness is the biggest flaw. He claims to love Xiaoyu, but he has never been able to give her a legitimate identity.

He loves her, but not as much as he loves his daughter and his family.

After Dai Xiaoyu became pregnant, he did not choose to marry her. Instead, he persuaded her to abort the child out of fear that his daughter would not be able to accept it.

Later, Dai Xiaoyu had a car accident and lost her child and her fertility.

It can be seen from this that the cost of being with a selfish man must be huge. No matter how good his other conditions are, you should stay away from him soberly.