Text/Weichen There is a word in Chinese idiom called "The extreme of things will lead to the opposite", which means that when things develop to the extreme, they will develop in the opposite direction. The same is true in life. Being straightforward is an advantage, and being too

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There is a word in Chinese idiom called "The extreme of things will lead to the opposite", which means that when things develop to the extreme, they will develop in the opposite direction. The same is true in life. Being straightforward is an advantage, and being too straightforward is a disadvantage.

In life, there are always some people who work hard all their lives but fail all their lives. It’s not that these people don’t work hard enough, or that there’s something wrong with the direction of their efforts, it’s just that they fail to control their mouths.

As the saying goes: "Good arms and legs are not as good as a good mouth." People must learn to speak. People who cannot speak not only cannot express themselves, but may also mess up their entire life in the wrong way.

Speaking is never a trivial matter. The feelings between people need to be communicated, information needs to be conveyed, and privacy needs to be kept confidential.

How to speak in order to communicate feelings and information while hiding secrets. This is a test of a person's emotional intelligence.

Not to mention that privacy is a sign of high emotional intelligence. Most people who speak unabashedly have low emotional intelligence. Especially the handling of the following four situations will be a huge test for a person.

It is best not to ask outsiders to comment on family conflicts

As the saying goes, every family has its own scriptures that are difficult to recite. There is no family without conflicts. Differences of opinion among members are a trivial matter. As long as the problem is finally resolved, it will be over.

But there are always some people who are not clear-headed and cannot figure things out clearly, so they look for outsiders to comment on their own conflicts.

You must know that an upright official cannot stop household chores, so what ability does an ordinary outsider have to smooth everything out and see clearly?

The suggestions given by others can only be used as reference. If you handle things completely according to other people's instructions, the result will definitely not be the result you want.

Things in life are not rehearsed. If you do it, you will have to bear the consequences. If you miss it, you will never go back to the past.

The most important thing after a conflict with a family member is not to find someone to talk to, but to calm down, first figure out the truest thoughts deep in your heart, and then formulate a next plan to deal with it after the matter has settled. , if you are really depressed, you can find a reliable friend to talk to.

Everyone has his own understanding, and the "reason" in everyone's heart will not be the same. It is really not wise to seek outsiders to comment on family conflicts.

You should make your own decisions about the direction of your life.

People who have no independent opinions are most likely to be taken advantage of. Users never consider the tools, their own interests are always the most important in their minds.

If you don’t want to be used by others, you have to have a backbone.

Everyone will be confused at the fork in life. At this time, some people are strong enough to survive the confusion and finally find their own direction. Some people are extremely weak and follow the footsteps of others, deviating from the route and losing their inner feelings. navigation.

Everyone must be responsible for their own choices. If you make a hasty decision or follow the opinions of others, you must bear the final consequences yourself.

How to choose the direction of life should not be discussed with others. In this world, some things can lead to a relatively appropriate result through discussion, while some things are not suitable for discussion at all.

Don’t talk about things that should be decided by yourself. The less you say, the less trouble you will have. The more you say, the more trouble you will have.

Financial status cannot be disclosed at will.

Really rich people may not have any extraordinary skills, but they must have extraordinary ideas.

The biggest gap between the poor and the rich is not the visible economy, but the invisible thinking. Different thoughts will lead to different behaviors, and the results obtained by different behaviors will naturally be different.

Rich people are usually very "scheming". They will not expose their thoughts easily, let alone tell others their true economic status.

Almost all people who have made a fortune understand the principle of "don't show off your wealth".It is never a simple natural phenomenon for a tree to catch the wind, especially among people.

As the saying goes, people are more afraid of being famous than pigs are afraid of being strong. Being too dazzling is not a good thing. There are always some people in this world who don't like others' goodness. Not only will they not applaud others' excellence, they will also stab them in the back.

People with high emotional intelligence will rarely disclose their financial status at will. For some things, the fewer people know about them, the better.

Not commenting on other people’s lives

Not commenting on other people’s lives is the most basic accomplishment of a person.

Some people may bring their own life experiences to seek "advice". At this time, it is best to avoid them, or use moderate words to fool them.

Views should not be expressed casually, especially when it comes to other people's lives. No one can live for another person. In the end, life must be managed by oneself.

There are too many things in life that are not as simple as they appear on the surface. Although it is said that "the authorities are obsessed with the bystander," but as a bystander, after all, you have no personal experience, and even if you are slightly sober, you will not be sober.

Not commenting on other people’s lives is a way of protecting yourself with high emotional intelligence. After all, no one can predict which direction life will develop in the future.

Speaking without restraint not only easily hurts others, but can also backfire on yourself.

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About the author: Wei Chen, a freelance writer and writing tutor. Often quiet, occasionally humorous.

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