When a woman learns to enjoy "quiet", she wins

We always feel that the resource of friends, the more we have, the better, so we let ourselves be in a group of people, participate in endless dinners, push cups It's so lively.

It’s just that we have never heard our inner voice in the midst of the crowd. We only know to follow the rhythm of the group, but never talk to our soul.

The more we value the number of friends, and the more we fall into so-called interpersonal relationships, the easier it is for us to be separated from ourselves and lose ourselves.

And in this, those who are alone are the rare "everyone is drunk and I am alone".

From the perspective of personal development, a woman who learns to enjoy "quiet" will win.

Quietness will make our hearts and bodies "washed"

writer Thoreau used to spend two years alone in Walden during this period , He lives and rests at sunrise, hardly going to towns, only dealing with nature wholeheartedly, growing his own vegetables, and supporting himself.

The strange thing is that, far away from the hustle and bustle of the city, without the convenience of the busy traffic of the city, life alone by Walden can also be leisurely.

Because no one is bothering, Thoreau can concentrate more on inspiring inspiration in a quiet environment. Nature also makes his spirit sustenance, and his heart has never been as rich as this moment.

Sometimes, we think that life should be lively and lively, but we find that although those extroverts never lack friends, they don’t care what they do, even if they discuss it. The results presented will not be exclusive to you.

And when we are no longer obsessed with the noise, when we start to enjoy the quiet, we will find that we are far away from the disturbances.

We can do our own things more without distraction, the soul and body have been washed, we enjoy this kind of leisurely contentment of "picking chrysanthemums under the eastern fence and leisurely seeing Nanshan".

Whenever it is, loneliness is the norm in life

I remember when I was in college, there was a girl in the dormitory who was particularly uncomfortable-

we stayed up early when we played games early Go to bed;

When we were lying in the dormitory on the weekend, when we were moldy, the other party had already finished the morning jog and was on the way to the library to study;

We spent about half a month to go out Dinner, and the other party is either going out to do tutoring, or watching online classes to learn.

In our opinion, she is an outlier, and she is always alone, and she looks extremely lonely.

And when we were nearing graduation, those who entered the postgraduate entrance examination failed one after another, and those who were looking for a job were hitting a wall everywhere, but she was the only one who was directly admitted to her favorite school with her excellent results in the four years of university.

At this time,We understand that we are as proud as her and as good as her. We who have been blindly gregarious all the time are the funniest ones.

" One Hundred Years of Solitude" preached: "In the final analysis, it is just a fleeting reality, only loneliness and eternity. One day we will shake hands with loneliness and truly find life. The meaning of being alone here."

For each of us, loneliness is the normal state of life, no matter how many friends we have, and no matter how much excitement we have, in the end we will face this alone. All in the world, only the soul is different, it will be shining no matter when.

Therefore, excellent people are never afraid of loneliness. Instead, they will enjoy loneliness, because those seemingly lonely times will ultimately determine what kind of person we can be.

When you learn to enjoy "quiet", it means that your heart begins to mature

When Mr. Lu Xun was creating, some of his neighbors were arguing and some were welcoming the new Life is elated, and some are sorrowful because the child has passed away.

For a time, all the joys and sorrows are intertwined.

But at this moment, Mr. Lu Xun feels that they are extremely noisy, because the joys and sorrows of human beings are not connected.

When we are not so mature, we always feel angry. Someone should coax us. When we are unhappy, someone should be aware of it.

and when we mature,It will be understood that in this world, human sorrows and joys are not interlinked. We have no reason to ask others to do so, and others have no obligation to do so.

Yu Qiuyu said: "The road of life is to go step by step by yourself. What can really protect you is your own life choice."

p0sp strong148 spanstrong What and how to do it, in fact, lies in ourselves, not others. The good or bad of our life also lies in ourselves, not others.

So, in this case, those deliberately gregarious excitement is a kind of noisy, when we no longer follow the crowd, when we no longer follow the crowd, then we start to understand our own heart When we started not forgetting our original intention, we understood what true maturity is.

The End-

Author | Psychological Counselor Fu Dongsheng

Love and Marriage Psychology Lead Writer Group | Analyze Love, Marriage, and Life with Psychology

WeChat public account: Love and Marriage Psychology

_blockquote104.