Introduction
Every holiday is an upsurge of blind dates with leftover men and women. Are men and women now entering the trend of singles? There are also many discussions on the issue of singleness on the Internet, with different opinions. Some think that being single is good, free, and the whole family is not hungry.
Some people think that if you don’t get married, you’re sorry for your parents. There are three kinds of unfilial piety. It’s a remark that you don’t want to get married. Maybe if you don’t get married, you just don’t want to get married for a certain period of time. Home, such a life is perfect.
Share this blind date story, very heart-warming, let’s take a look.
He Jun (pseudonym), 37 years old this year, previously worked in Zhongshan, Guangdong, and his income is fairly stable. In addition to food, drink, rent, water and electricity, he can save about 3,500 yuan each month for 15 years. Others think that he has saved a lot of money, but in fact he said that it is not a lot, because in recent years, he has also had a girlfriend, and single people have no plan for money, so the deposit is only a dozen W. Food and clothing can be solved. But personal problems have always caused headaches for parents and themselves.
Because I’m single, my family’s relatives and friends will ask him to borrow money if they are in a hurry. If they are too familiar, they can’t afford to borrow money. After borrowing, they will pay back the money and delay. When they want to buy a house and marry a wife, they will also receive money. If I don’t come back, it’s very difficult to even have a down payment on hand, and I don’t want to borrow from relatives and friends, and the pressure is quite high, so I have been procrastinating for more than ten years. Time is waiting for no one.
He Jun has talked about two girlfriends before, and when they are about to get married, there will be specific problems. Either the house is the problem or the son-in-law, but the child has to follow the wife's surname after the marriage. , And I am an only child at home, this is definitely not appropriate, so the two romances came to an end.
It dragged on and time passed. I am 37 years old this year. My parents have gray hair and are not in good health. Last year my father broke his leg while working at home and my mother suffered from asthma. If you can’t do farm work, the family’s fields are going to be deserted.Taking into account the specific situation of the parents, plus the fact that the past two years have been very hard outside, and if the money is not good enough, I will give up working, and plan to go home to take care of my parents, so as not to leave regrets on my parents and develop fruit trees. Plant some crops and take root in the countryside.
He Jun is very handsome. He has not been beaten by wind or rain in the factory for many years. He is a tall and white man. People who don’t know the details can’t tell that he is 37 years old. Parents are also happy that their son comes home to solve personal problems as soon as possible, and ask a matchmaker to introduce his girlfriend. Under the urging of his parents, he also promised to go on a blind date as long as someone introduces him.
After coming back at the end of last year, in the past six months, 69 times in person, I felt cold. He sighed why these women are so weird? He wondered what exactly was this blind date?
He said that the blind date process is basically the same. There is no love at first sight. As soon as you meet and introduce a friend, you will start to ask for red envelopes when you chat, and the introducer's red envelopes are also indispensable, and then eat and eat. I ignore it, and I can’t go on anymore. I don’t know what the picture is?
Sometimes there are blind dates, and there are also types that you don’t like, so you don’t give red envelopes or even your contact information, so you have no chance, just to meet, and the following process is omitted, anyway, I don’t see it. I didn't care about it.
During the blind date, there were also enthusiasm and speculative discussions, but when it came to future development and planning, it was not about buying a car, buying a house, or a lottery, or going to live in the city and not wanting to stay in the countryside. Girl, He Jun said if I want to live in the city, why should I come back? That's it.
The matchmakers who introduced these objects are also really funny. Someone who introduces divorced, widowed, baby, and even a little disabled all introduce them all. I don’t know if it is for the red envelope of the blind date or the gift after the successful blind date, and they always persuade them. He, , your boss is not too young, and you can just pass it. What else should you choose? It's not bad if people like you. Who else has such a big girl waiting for you? To see clearly the trend, He Jun is very speechless, feel that he is not worthy of a girl without a history of marriage?
After the National Day blind date was unsuccessful,He Jun didn't want to toss anymore. He said that it depends on fate, and you should be single first, take care of your parents first, save more money to be safe when you are old, let the flow take its course, as long as you are not lazy, your life is not bad. Where to go.
He Jun’s blind date experience is very real. In fact, it is similar to the situation of many older single men and women. This mountain sees which mountains are high, and the high is not low. I don’t know if I don’t want to die, or are evading responsibilities. There are only them. I know, but there are indeed many people who choose to be single, and they have a very chic and free life.
In fact, many people are single, not because of their bad conditions, but a helpless choice. And some people hope to find someone who is in line with their three views, who can understand them, and whose soul can blend with them. If they can't wait, they would rather wait alone, rather than give themselves to unsatisfactory people .
This may be different in the thinking of the new era. You see people in the 70s and 80s and the people in the 90s and 00s. The ideological realm is completely two concepts. The world is very different. But it doesn't matter. What you pay more attention to is your own feelings. Perhaps this is another way of living. Some people even just want to have a child and don't want to start a family. There are many such people.
In fact, you can see many of these interviews on the Internet. The answers are dazzling, and there are different opinions, but in the end it lies in the thoughts and wishes of these single men and women. The urging of the elders is only as much as possible. What else can I do?
This also reminds me of what a friend said when chatting with me this morning. This friend is 80 years old and 41 years old this year. He rented a store in downtown Chongqing to customize leather shoes and his income was pretty good. I have a house and a car, and I went back to my hometown during the National Day holiday. My parents urged me very tightly. He said that there is no way to be small, there are fewer girls, coupled with the problem of age, the choice is very small, and he can’t find ideal objects. My parents' urging can only be hard-headed and listening. I originally wanted to stay at home for 5 days, but I couldn't stand the urging of my parents, so I ran back to open a shop and work in only 2 days.
When he talked about this matter with me, what he said the most is that now he intends to find it casually, and hide his ideals and soul in his heart. If there is a chance to meet the other half,If you can just live it, don’t take it for granted. It can be seen from the lines that he also has a lot of helplessness and sorrow. He said that when he was young, he still had the opportunity to choose, and now he has more than 40 energy to toss. It is also a common problem of older men and women. When you are young, you are not sure, and you regret it when you are old.
And every time I walked, I met the uncles and aunts around, and they talked about the personal problems of the children.
Uncle Zhang said: "My girl is 36. After graduated with a master's degree, the financial conditions are good after work. I buy a house and a car in another place, but I don’t want to get married. She just doesn’t take it to heart. Hey, although she is not worried about food and clothing, she is still worried about her alone. There is a headache and no one can take care of her. Someone takes care of her. After we wait for a hundred years, she will have a relative."
Aunt Liu said: "My family has no daughters. There are only two sons, one is 34 years old and the other is 27. The two bad things are not married. I I also tried my best to buy a house with my wife. I want to say that whoever gets married first will be the wedding room, but no one wants to get married. They stay at home and play games after work. Our old couple have no choice but to use them. I can’t urge, and I don’t dare to rest when I retire. I want to earn a little bit more. I always feel that my son is not married and this task has not been completed. My brain hurts!"
Several people are also talking about their own. My child, in short, I didn’t want to get married, and were indifferent to their parents’ urge to marry. These grandpas and aunts were talking all the way, all sighing ......
To be honest, for the old The idea of a generation of parents, if their children are not married, they will really feel that the task of parenting has not been completed. There is always a stone in their hearts that has not fallen. Incomplete, leaving a life with regrets, this is undesirable.
But personally, I still understand people who don’t want to get married.Because I had the same idea before, and I got married very late, and I was even more urged. also changed my mind every time I went home to see my parents, and it gradually happened in vain before I made up my mind to get married. In fact, I really want to. It's not that difficult to get married. Of course, single people are indeed free to do what they like without a sense of restraint. But when you calm down, is single really so good?
Here, I will also tell my single older friends about my experience of ending singleness. It is just a few suggestions.
First of all, , go home from get off work, or during the weekend, don’t stay at home and play games all day long. You can’t play games with your partner. Go out and take part in some blind date activities, outdoor activities with a lot of people, take the initiative Look for opportunities, chance encounters are also opportunities to get rid of being single. If you don’t go out, how can you get rid of it?
Then, should not be shy when you meet someone who is pleasing to the eye or a little interesting. When you like someone, don’t be shy, especially boys and girls. Don’t think that you are handsome and beautiful. If you like you or fall in love with you, you must take the initiative to confess and seize every opportunity. Perhaps love is born after you take the initiative. It is not difficult to confess, or if you miss it, you will miss it.
Finally, must not resist the idea of someone introducing someone, and face every blind date with a positive attitude, because most single men and women have a relatively small circle to be honest, and there is no ideal person, so someone introduces them. Is it not good? Also take the initiative to find someone to introduce you, don’t be shy and unable to tell, unless you really don’t want to get married.
One of the most important questions, For the issue of money during a blind date, everyone has a degree in their hearts. People who meet for a red envelope are good or bad. Not every girl will ask for a red envelope. This is a little money. I don’t look down on it either, of course, it’s normal to have a good grasp of this degree, eat and eat and give small gifts.If it is too expensive, you have to consider it carefully. After all, it is the first time to meet. Some boys suffer from this aspect. They are willing to spend and are not willing to spend.
So, stick to blind dates and believe that you can succeed, this is the best belief to get rid of being single.
Concluding remark
I want to say a word to my single friends, being single is not terrible, but the terrible thing is that you don’t have the courage to solve this problem. If you stay in one place for too long, maybe change a place or try another environment, maybe you will meet the person you want, love regardless of age, no seasonal changes, regardless of whether it is encountered in the time period of that season, It's just right.
In fact, everyone’s life is independent. Not being single has nothing to do with outsiders. Those who can care about you are your relatives and friends, because this is also the person closest to you. They care about you, of course you If you don't want them to worry, you will think about these issues yourself.
I am also thinking that if my children choose to be single in the future, I don't know what they will think then. Of course, it is best not to be single. If this is the case, I can only let it go.
What do you think of the single problem?
If you are single for a lifetime, can you accept it?
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