Faith is in the body. For a long time, people have proven that there is a connection between physical and emotional states. If you feel insecure, fearful or anxious about something, your body will adopt a certain posture. Most likely, these postures will be a posture for a person to "hide", away from danger and all unpleasantness.
There is another feedback: if a person habitually assumes an intimate and insecure posture, he will begin to feel truly insecure, even in such circumstances without a reason.
If you feel insecure, it makes sense to correct your nonverbal behavior-take those postures that you seem more confident. First, it will truly build confidence. Second, other people will start to think you are a confident person and will treat you differently.
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Rules to help you show confidence
Let us talk about which postures that help you feel more confident while sitting.
Rule #1. Confidence is openness
When a person has confidence in himself, it means that he has confidence in his own abilities and knows that he can protect his boundaries, interests, and opinions. He has no need to hide.
Now forget the crossed legs and arms, which may betray one's intimacy. This is a myth based on a rough understanding of body language! A completely different moment betrays your sense of insecurity and intimacy.
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span3 _strong strong And abdomen,Including our hands. However, for many people, crossing your arms on your chest is just a nonverbal habit. It is so convenient, you don't need to think about where to put your hands. In fact, an insecure person is usually covered by other things. He can put folders, files, pens, cups, bags, pillows in front of him. For example, we can cover the front part of the body with a shawl. If you need to hold something in front of you, try not to do it with both hands at the same time-your arms should be opened to create a gap in the "barrier".
What really exposes your insecurity or self-confidence is...shoulder
If your shoulders are curled up, you will look insecure. If your shoulders are "spread out" and your shoulder blades are brought together, you will look confident (even if your arms are crossed on your chest).
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It determines whether you are open or closed to eye contact. When you avoid looking in the eyes of others, mostly looking down, you expose your self-doubt.
If you find it difficult to look directly into other people’s eyes, you can cheat: keep your sight level with that of others (even if you are just checking the space, room), if you need visual contact, don’t look directly into others Eyes, but on the forehead or the bridge of the interlocutor’s nose.
Rule #2. Confidence is calm.
The restless strokes also indicate self-doubt. To make yourself look more confident, try not to touch buttons, jewelry, and hair frequently. Don't hug or touch your shoulders. Avoid touching the upper chest or neck too frequently. Don't shake off spots that don't exist on your clothes.
Rule #3: Confidence is the territory
This may surprise you, but confidence is a constructive attack. This behavior is typical for those who not only want to protect their own territory, but also occupy as much surrounding space (mental and physical) as possible.
Insecure people sit, and they themselves and their belongings take up very little space. They "shrink" and squeeze together
If possible, don't sit on the edge of the sofa or the edge of the chair.
If you have a bag, try not to put it on your lap, but put it next to it. Of course, this does not apply to public transportation, but it is reasonable in cafes or offices, public places (for example, when you are waiting for your turn in a beauty salon).
If you have the opportunity to occupy a large table, don't occupy a small table just out of humility.
Sitting at a table, restaurant or office, try to arrange your belongings to occupy all the space allocated to you (of course, don’t encroach on other people’s territory).Even if the table is small, put a notebook, a pen, a mobile phone, a glasses case on it...you must have something suitable in your bag.
You can use your hands and feet to occupy territory, in a real sense! These poses are not suitable for all situations, but in the right place, they are definitely worth using by yourself.
Try not to put your feet too close together. Within the socially acceptable range, this rule applies-the more space you occupy with your feet, the greater your territory.
If you are sitting with your legs crossed, make sure it does not look too "compressed" and stretches vertically.
If possible, put your hands on the back of a chair or sofa-this is a very powerful technique for occupying territory and demonstrating confidence.
If you feel uncomfortable, uncomfortable and uncomfortable in a confident posture, there may be three reasons.
is just not used to
You may have different non-verbal habits, but you can change them in a few weeks or months if you want.
This is new information for you.
To introduce new knowledge to life, you need to start practicing. All new things are uncomfortable for us, but over time, it will disappear.
At the subconscious level,You will experience the fear of openness.
Being an open person means fragile or defenseless to you. In this case, the usual practice of new postures and gestures will not be good-your discomfort will not go away, and your uncertainty may increase. In this case, it's better to start with yourself, not your nonverbal behavior.
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