Text/Lan Ma talks about parenting
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I have seen such a story about a real person in a big city, p2 0p_ A retired professor of economics, he can get a pension of 15,000 yuan every month after retirement. He still has two sets of houses and a deposit of 1 million. However, his children are very busy. Rationalize. This auntie Yang is in her fifties and can get a salary of 7000 yuan per month. She usually works hard and treats the professor carefully and is considerate. In her sixtieth year, the professor also lived with her company because of the company of Aunt Yang. It has been enriched a lot. In the eyes of the professor, he thinks that although Aunt Yang is from the countryside, she is clean and tidy and very diligent.
So, he said to Aunt Yang, "I think you are a very good person, or let us live together, you don’t have to go back to the country anymore. We get married and you take care of me. So let's be together in our old age", I thought Aunt Yang would agree, but never thought that she would refuse it decisively.
At this time, the professor was a little puzzled, "I don't even think that you are from the countryside, do you still dislike being the professor's wife?"
Aunt Yang told the professor: "Thank you for taking me so seriously, but me I don’t want to marry you. I am here to do housework and take care of food and accommodation. You will pay me 7000 yuan a month, but if I marry you, will you still pay me a salary? You can buy me some vegetables at most Money, I now have a monthly salary of 7000 yuan, and I can save at least 60,000 to 70,000 yuan a year to buy a house for my son. If we get money to buy a house for my son after we get married, then you will feel that I am coveting your money and occupying a house. You are cheaper".
After finishing this story, many people think "Aunt Yang is a nanny,It’s simply a great economics.” Of course, some people have experienced the phrase “wife is not as good as a nanny” through stories. In fact, many wives in real life experience such a situation. Use it, but no matter how well you do it every day, it seems that in the eyes of your husband and family, “you are the one who eats idle meals and takes advantage.”
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I saw a "husband and wife a day ago" some time ago The short video of "Differences" gives people a deep insight, but the video is short but straightforward:
wife's morning
6:40, the wife first gets up, washes, and then hurries to make breakfast
Breakfast is ready, wake up the child first, change the diapers, dress the child, wash the child
feed the child first, take the child to nursery, and then go to work
husband’s morning
strong9strong
get up, eat breakfast, go to work
wife after work
pick up the kids, buy food, cook
husband after work
It’s so late, really"
Then lie down on the sofa and play with the phone
During dinner
Husband eats first
Wife feeds the children
After dinner
Husband lays down Now, play with the phone
wife tidy up the dishes, wash the dishes, tidy up the kitchen
husband lie down
wife tidy the living room
after finishing the housework
husband continue to lie down
wife wash clothing,Bathe the child, coax the child to sleep
(this is the difference between me and my husband for a day)
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Many people don’t understand that “husband needs to be good to his wife” in marriage, and “daddy needs to be good” in education. Good to mother", but everybody has thought about "what does marriage bring to women?" Is it to save money to buy a house after marriage? Are you out of shape after giving birth? Reluctant to eat or drink or do you busy yourself with housework?
However, in real life, many husbands believe that they earn 8,000 per month to support the family. In fact, it is the busy wife behind them who is busy every day. If there is no wife to take care of the housework and pick up How can a husband who is a child, caring for the elderly, and working outside enjoy the success of his career comfortably?
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Wife is the feng shui of the family, and can directly determine the quality of life of a family (including education)
Some people say that the quality of life of a man depends on what kind of wife he marries. The wife is also more like the second reincarnation of a man, because the wife can directly determine the quality of life of the family. A few days ago, when I went home on the Mid-Autumn Festival, I heard that my cousin was promoted again, and everyone said the most when talking about his cousin. One sentence is "get a good wife."
What happened?
My former cousin is a gnawing old man who eats and drinks. He never knows what is called gratitude when he asks for it from his parents. In just a few years, he defeated the otherwise good family, and he was in the eyes of neighbors in the neighborhood. "He is an unlearned bastard, whoever marries him will be unlucky."
Don’t look at the cousin who gnaws the old man to poke the spine, but he is really careful about his girlfriend. Marrying his cousin is also secretly obtaining a certificate. Although everyone is not optimistic about the marriage of his cousin’s cousin,But the cousin did not care about the gossip of the outside world, but continued to support and care, and give her cousin's work guidance and encouragement.
My cousin said, "Once your cousin went to a class reunion, I rode an electric car to pick her up. From a distance, I saw my classmates talking and laughing, but I just didn’t dare to go there, so I was afraid to give her. It’s shameful, and your cousin found that I didn’t avoid taboos in the distance, but trot over happily and took my hand to introduce everyone, "This is my husband". That proud look became the most beautiful in my life. Daoguang, so why don't I have any reason not to make progress and not to work hard for your cousin to achieve a good quality of life."
At that moment, I began to believe in love again, looking forward to the warmth of the family...
However, all of this needs to be built on the basis of "love". Love is mutual. If you are not good to your wife, What about "Wanfu"?
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Grandma Xu, who is most taboo to say "dead", also experienced such a story:
Grandma Xu is my grandma’s cousin. I heard that Grandma Xu had a bad temper when she was young. Cursed to death" Her daughter, until now, Grandma Xu rarely walks with another daughter, because the scars that used to be on the other daughter’s body are like street lights. In fact, she just learned that Grandma Xu cursed her child to death. , I don't know the cause for a while, and I called her an "old witch" for a while, and I didn't know the helplessness and suffering that Grandma Xu experienced until now, after being a mother.
I heard from my grandmother that the marriage between Grandma Xu and her husband was not favored at the beginning. The husband’s gambling and wealthy things in the family were basically defeated. The two gave birth to two daughters and one. Son, the eldest daughter has been diligent and sensible since she was a child. Although the second daughter does not do much work, it is also worrying. However, everything has changed with the birth of the younger son. Because of the patriarchal reason, the younger son always has one from birth. If I didn’t take care of it, I was beaten and scolded.Grandma Xu also vented her emotions to her two daughters from time to time in a frustrated life.
Once, Grandma Xu asked the eldest daughter and the second daughter to carry water, and the eldest daughter refused to comply. In addition to the crying of the younger son next to her, Grandma Xu broke down and said, "If you don’t obey, you will die." Don’t come back outside.” At that time, the eldest daughter was just 7 years old, at the age of playfulness and eagerness to be cared for. With dissatisfaction, the soles of her feet slipped and fell directly into the large public well in the village, and she waited until the second daughter was crying. When I called everyone, I was already exhausted, and Grandma Xu was already looking at the well with a dull gaze, and she kept chanting "Blame me, blame me..."
Maybe many people think of Grandma Xu Speaking is too vicious and has a bad temper, but who has a bad temper in the first place? If Grandma Xu’s husband can show more care for the family and his wife more, I believe Grandma Xu’s heart will not be so wronged or even swear at her children. If the wife is the family’s feng shui, then the husband will introduce feng shui. The great master, whether it is staying together or educating, a caring for a happiness, the happiness you bet on ultimately reflects the attitude of life.
Women, it’s really not easy, especially today’s mothers. They want good wives and mothers at home, they want to be versatile in school, talented in the workplace, and beautiful in front of their husbands. These are like iron." The "Strong Woman" posture is not to get pleasant praise from the outside world, but to "live a good life". Look, what a pure goal this is!
Finally, I hope all the fathers in the world can look back. I believe that a father who knows how to treat his mother can easily educate good children!
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I am Lan Ma, focusing on the parenting field and analyzing the author, with personal examples and various family education Instance,To record the moments of parenting feelings, friends you like, welcome to follow @兰妈谈教儿, learn and grow together!
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