Waking up early for a jog, I saw a middle-aged woman supporting an old lady in her 70s while exercising on the small road by the river, looking like a mother and daughter. They walked slowly, without talking, and their expressions were very serious, but I felt that this family relationship was very valuable, and I couldn't help but show approving eyes. There was a smile in her eyes when she met the old man's eyes. So I nodded at her and gave her a smile like an acquaintance. I didn't expect the old man's smile to bloom in an instant. That kind of joy from the heart suddenly gushed out of her eyes, which caught me off guard and flattered me.
Running past them, I am still reminiscing about this brilliant smile, and my heart is deeply touched. This kind of friendliness between strangers is originally beautiful. Why is it so rare in our lives? Unlike Europeans and Americans, we can greet strangers naturally on the road and in elevators. We Chinese are generally so cautious that it is almost impossible to greet and talk to strangers on buses and subways. . Often, we ride the train for a few hours without saying a word to the next seat.
I have to say that today's Chinese people have changed a lot in this respect, but most people still don't like to show good to strangers. I couldn't help but have a strong interest in this phenomenon, so I ran to ask Du Niang, and I saw many sociologists, researchers, and writers have various analyses on this, indicating that this phenomenon is still quite common.
Columnist Zhang Weiwei mentioned the "personality" of "nation" in an article (2015) on the Sina blog. I think it makes sense. She said that one of the characteristics of Chinese is restrained and low-key. It is often felt that even if "the heart is thundered and the face is like a Pinghu, it is the performance of a simple and elegant person", joyful appearance often represents emotional, unreliable, lack of depth, and even neuropathy. In Western culture, smile is a kind of politeness, while in China, smile is a symbol of closeness. Chinese people are not easy to express and express themselves. This is a habit and a kind of etiquette. Weiwei means roughly " Chinese traditional culture dictates".
I think of a folk teaching "the heart of defense is indispensable", I think it may also play the role of letting us "get old and dead" with strangers. We worry that being too close to others may bring unnecessary trouble and danger to ourselves,At the same time, I am also worried that others will be stressed by this "trouble and danger" and become wary of myself.
There is another possibility that Chinese people especially want face. If this kind of smile does not get the same return, they will feel "hot face and cold butt" and be boring. This kind of guard against setbacks may also be the reason for not having contact with strangers and preventing problems before they happen.
How this group phenomenon evolves will naturally be supported by a lot of advanced theories and simple practices, but we (or just me [laughs]) really don't want to face the embarrassment of looking at strangers. To change the atmosphere of the whole society, I think I can be the one that proactively demonstrates the good.
So what about you? [Make a face][Make a face][Make a face]
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