Elite: Why do I always get good results but not get good rewards, but cause others to hate me?
Teacher Ellen: This is a problem we often face in our lives. Why is it that good intentions are not rewarded, but it is counterproductive? Kindness is not rewarded because that kindness is what you think. For example, your child is going on a date today. He wants to dress better so that he is in a good mood, but if you have to force him to wear thick clothes, he is unhappy. Your kindness is based on your ideas. The kindness you think is not necessarily what others need, and may not be the best help for others , so when your kindness conflicts with the needs of others At that time, there will be such a result that good intentions cannot be repaid. This is the first point.
The second point is that we have a rule for doing things in the human world. This rule cannot be violated. If it is violated, there will be a situation of "good intentions will not be rewarded". This rule is "response to requests." If he does not ask you, you take the initiative to think for him from your point of view, and if you do it, it will arouse his resentment, and it may not necessarily fall to your ideal result. This is called "whatever is possible there must be leakage." This violates the rule of "request responsive". So when we think about others, we must be based on the needs of others. If others need us, we will help. If others don’t need us, we must learn to wait and don’t worry.
If you learn these two rules: respond to every request; if you do, there must be leakage, there will be no such troubles in the future.I won’t make the same mistake a second time now.
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