Sometimes any decision we make will be evaluated by people around us, whether it is familiar family members, friends, or strangers who have never met, they try to impose their wishes on us and live according to their ideas. In psychology it is called personality endowment. Regarding the choices in life, you may think that you should give some explanation to the people around you. However, psychologists pointed out that for the following ten things, you don’t need to explain your thoughts and attitudes to anyone.
1. There is no need to explain what is extremely important to you.
Psychologists point out that the most important thing in life is to establish an intimate network of relationships with the person you love the most, and to feel happiness and joy with each other without a sense of bondage. Everyone thinks what is most important to oneself, depending on the living environment and values, etc., will have different ideas. What you have to do is not to rush to explain to the people around you, but to keep silent, because this is your own choice and has nothing to do with others.
2, you don’t have to apologize when you don’t want to apologize.
If it is someone else’s mistake, but you have to bear it, you don’t need to apologize to anyone. After all, you have a clear conscience and there is no need to violate your true thoughts in order to repair a relationship. Anxious to ask for forgiveness from others, even if it seems to be reconciled on the surface, the relationship is already riddled with defects and it is difficult to maintain it. Apologize against your will, others will not know your true thoughts, and will only make the gap between them even bigger.
3. You don’t need anyone’s consent when you are alone.
Psychologists believe that high-quality solitude is a self-knowledge behavior. Everyone needs a certain amount of time alone. Maybe others think you are “unsocial” and “rude” "But when time alone becomes a pleasure, there is really no need to do things you hate just because you cater to others.
4. Keep your own opinions independent and not be influenced by others.
When debating with others or listening to other people’s ideas, you must promptly put forward any disagreements to let others know what you really think. This is also to the speaker Respect. Expressing your opinions euphemistically, asking questions, and possibly getting the respect and appreciation of the other party, is much better than keeping the truth in your heart.
5. You don’t have to agree to anyone’s request.
If there is no way for you to approve something, you must learn to reject it. A person who has a certain role must know how to reject others, only do meaningful things, not be encroached on by tedious things, and achieve an efficient life.
6. No need to explain your sexual preference
If you are an adult, there is no need to explain your sex life to others, even if you are playing games, you don’t need to explain anything when others are booing. Life needs to do whatever one wants, not to be constrained by others, and sex life itself is special and needs no explanation.
7. Explain why you are single
When others have a misunderstanding about your "single", you don't need to over explain it, because this is your own choice and your own business. Whether a person is single or not is not the reason why others think about you. Life has not only love but also friendship. A true relationship is hard-won, and you don’t need to go against your own wishes in order to look similar to others.
8. Not every date you need to be there.
If you don't have the idea to go to the appointment, you must refuse it in time, even if you have a better relationship with the person you are dating, or you have a good impression of him. The reason for refusal must be tactful, simple and clear, and don't let others have unnecessary misunderstandings and create barriers between each other.
9. The way to fall in love does not require the participation of others.
Many people like to be other people’s emotional mentors. Whether they have been in a relationship or have not talked about it, they want to tell you what to do. Even if the bystander is clear, you must pay attention to love is your own business, many of which require you to understand. Never let others interfere with your love, it will only backfire.
10. You don’t need to follow the arrangements of others when you get married.
Whether you choose to marry or not, this is your own life. Even the closest person cannot influence your choice. An unhappy marriage is not as good as being single, and everyone should respect your choice.
