There is a kind of person around who is not very harmful, but it is really "uncomfortable", that is, a careful person.
This kind of people will hold grudges for a little bit of things, and they can remember for many years, and they will "make things" at every turn, which is disgusting.
For such a person, the easiest and most effective way to cope is to stay away (direct confrontation costs are too high). Can I not afford to provoke me?
From a psychological point of view, people who are usually careful will have the following typical characteristics, you have to pay attention.
(1) People who care about others' opinions
Careful people have two characteristics: one is vengeful and never forgets hatred, and the other is sensitive and will do little things. Zoom in, easy to think randomly.
In fact, the essence behind it is still lack of self-confidence and excessive narcissism (the two are not contradictory). Therefore, people who are careful are often very concerned about what others think of him, and even deliberately test their opinions.
If a person pays too much attention to the opinions of others, his psychology must be unhealthy.
(2) People who are easy to be jealous
Careful people are often very "jealous", jealousy and careful eye are complementary: because the heart is not broad, they are easy to be jealous of others, and jealous Can provide motivation for "doing things."
and jealous people are actually easy to find. Although they will not admit that they are jealous of others, they have many daily behaviors:
For example, they are not good, like to slander good people and slander them. Achievement, and even malicious competition that hurts others against oneself, etc.
(3) People who like to provoke right and wrong
are often good at telling right and wrong. It can even be said that they like to provoke right and wrong and like to see "chaos".
This is a side effect brought about by the prudent personality, which is difficult to change. If you look closely at the careful people around you, you will find that they like all kinds of fanfare and instigation.
So, if a person meets these characteristics, even if they do not show the characteristics of being careful, you have to be vigilant.
How to deal with the careful person?
For a careful person, the most troublesome thing is that the other party will bother you, but will not cause you too much trouble.
Therefore, if you use too drastic means, you will inevitably appear to overreact, and may even kill 800 enemies and stop loss 1,000.
It's better to stay away from them, not to see and not to worry. This is the simplest and best method, even if you can't stay away permanently and reduce contact with the other party, it is also good.
If you can’t stay away, pay attention to the way you speak. Don’t judge the other person casually. Take care of the other person’s feelings to avoid conflicts. Doing more is worse than doing less.
The most important thing is to protect personal information. Don’t let the information that can cause psychological trauma to you leak out, and don’t talk about other people’s topics in front of such people.
If the opponent is still against you, then you should fight back and show your bottom line and temper to others, which can also help you reduce trouble in many cases.
