American psychologist Kübler Ross once put forward a theory: After falling in love, a person’s emotions will go through five stages.
What did he think after breaking up? Does he hate me? Does he regret it for a moment and want to reconcile with me?
You have experienced countless struggles and fights in your heart, with ups and downs in emotions, but you still have to pretend to be calm.
The reasons and details of each person's breakup are different, but after falling in love, you will basically go through the following five stages to see which period you are now:
The first stage: anger
When we first broke up, it was undoubtedly the most painful time for people.
You are emotionally broken, doubting, denying the facts, thinking of the sweet scenes between you countless times, feeling that breaking up is a very unreal thing.
At this stage, you feel that you are a victim of your feelings. You feel that you have paid a lot, but he abandons you cruelly. Therefore, you may have victim psychology and blame all the responsibilities on the other party.
You will accuse, accuse, or even abuse the other person. You are constantly looking for the shortcomings and faults in him, in order to give yourself a reason to hate him, and to make yourself feel better.
The second stage: veto the reality
At this stage, you will be unwilling to accept the fact of breaking up, instead you will get more and more involved in the memories of past passionate love. Fancy that the other party broke up impulsively, and he will come back to you to get back together.
The third stage: Compromise
Losing a lover, the pain is unbearable, so you start to try to recover.
In this stage, people will rack their brains to retain the lover who is about to lose, even if they are friends, they are willing to do so.
You will behave like kneeling and licking and flattering because of your inner mood swings, because your mind is full of the other person's appearance, and your mind is full of unwillingness and reluctance.
The fourth stage: Depressed
Facing the unacceptable reality, thinking that the two people will be strangers in the future, my heart is cut like a knife, and I enter a long and tormented depression. period.
Can’t eat well, can’t sleep, and can’t be interested in anything. At this stage, you are taciturn and depressed.
Stage 5: Accept the reality
Finally, you still accept the reality of the breakup.
When you have begun to admit the fact that you broke up, and you are no longer entangled with everything in the past, you will begin to look forward to a new life and new plan in your heart, and look forward to a better one next.
Many people will wonder, after being together for so long, why are men so indifferent and unfeeling after a breakup?
This is because men and women are at different stages after breaking up.
When you fall into the bad mood of breaking up, a man is enjoying a good single life. At this time, your entanglement has undoubtedly become a stumbling block to a man's good life. How can he give you a good face?
Furthermore, when the man offered to break up, he was already mentally prepared to break up. At this time, he was relieved, with a clear head, and headed towards the new life he wanted.
And you are going through a painful stage, in order to make yourself feel better, try to save him and let him turn back, but at this time, what a man wants is freedom and a new life, not your sentence "Look, I have changed Alright!"
Your unprincipled ingratiation and soft-moulding will only increase his dislike, and he will even think that you are the biggest obstacle to his good life. Therefore, in his opinion, breaking up has become a matter of course!
If you want to save him, the most important thing is to make him think of reverse rationalization!
What we have to do is completely different things: you are not stalking, you show a very tough and rational side, and your future life is full of hope and beauty.
Use actions to prove your changes, not verbal guarantees and promises. At this time, the more you follow his will, reason and be yourself, it is the best self-certification for him.
The value of a person comes after leaving! If you leave in obedience to his will, it will make him think twice about whether his decision was wrong because of the regret of losing.
Redemption is an adult psychological game. Only by fully understanding the other party’s psychology can you get to the point every time you make a move, and your recovery will be effective if you hit the nail on the head.
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